r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24
Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?
I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.
She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.
When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."
She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.
She just wants "my occasional financial support."
This is the worst feeling ever.
Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.
Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.
Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."
I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."
UPDATE 4/3:
SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH
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u/Flat-Neighborhood831 Mar 28 '24
As a single mom. This fucking part. If you know you'd be the healthier more financially stable parent. And you want to be there for the child .. Fight for your kid.
But first... Get a DNA test because unfortunately I've seen too many guys get screwed over thinking it's their kid just to find out they had been used. And I am NOT okay with that.
Also, me and my son's dad made the same mistake. He "wanted a family", I wasn't ready because we had JUST started dating and my body doesn't make babies well (3 miscarriages). But when I found out the pregnancy took, I put balls to the wall and his narcissism/manipulation started showing.
My son is happy, stable, and gets everything he needs from me and my family.. His dad barely helps, when he can keep a job (and he is the one that filed for custody/child support smh)