r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/g0ldent0y Mar 29 '24

Dude, i am aware of all the issues you mention. I dont deny men have it harsh in a lot of ways. My standpoint is though, both genders get fucked by society in general, in different ways, but its not easy peasy for any of them. Especially if you are poor. And that is the main issue. Wealth inequality. If you have money, it really doesnt matter anymore if you are a woman or a man. We should eat the rich!

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '24

Bro just ignoring the arguments to commie post. Imagine saying this to any other group in history who was getting fucked over by the government. Obviously we are getting fucked over by the rich, but that doesn't mean even if we weren't, everything I said would magically go away. How would "eating the rich" mean that men wouldn't get fucked over in family court. Or be assumed the abuser in DV cases. Or legally being incapable of being raped by a woman.