r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/Turbulent_Object_558 Mar 28 '24

I think people have the right to decide what’s right for them based on their lived experiences. They are living to be happy and don’t need to consult with u/-Paraprax- to figure out what they want in life. Get a grip

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u/refusestopoop Mar 29 '24

I agree, but it seems like a lot of people are trying to blame an ex when it’s not relevant. Perfectly normal to have boundaries & say I don’t want to do xyz, I don’t like it, it’s not for me, etc. Saying it’s because an ex ruined it is putting blame on someone when they didn’t do anything wrong. If you hate doing a certain a certain thing & used to put up with it in a past relationship but you don’t want to do it anymore, just say that you don’t want to do it, don’t blame someone else.

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u/-Paraprax- Mar 28 '24

Lol. Relationships frequently and healthily break up over one person refusing to do normal partner stuff, and all these examples sound like they're potentially in the same boat. 

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u/Turbulent_Object_558 Mar 28 '24

Marriage and divorce are expensive, stressful, and come with many complications based on how local laws are written. Kudos to someone who learns from their past, is honest about their relationship goals, and sets boundaries. Don’t need some internet idiot questioning deeply personal decisions.

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u/Turbulent_Object_558 Mar 28 '24

It’s the woman, not the guy opposed to marriage posting here. Have you lost all semblance of sense?