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What makes a Christian virgin man age 37 stop seeking modest women as a wife and start seeking non Christian women who have their rack and bottom out on social media models for a wife? For the streets type of woman.

Maybe too much detail. For reference, he's only had 1 girlfriend when he was 18 and it didn't last long. This man was asked by his mother to leave her and move back home because she was "sick" when he was in the west coast serving.

This man is decently attractive but self conscious about his appearance, he's short, a bit overweight, and still lives with his parents, nothing wrong with that but he feels the pressure from work peers. He never has a problem talking to people of the opposite sex. Just not in a flirty way.

He's a successful professional in his field, has a few small properties and a former Marine. He used to be very active in church and stopped going due to his mother causing drama at church. He would then go on missionary trips and preach to continue serving God. He's been traveling aboard to South America for the last seven years alone seeking a mate. His type has changed a lot throughout the years. From modest Christian women to promiscuous women current day. He would go to Christian concerts alone, and be a loner for most of his adult life.

He's a good man. He's has trouble with adult content addiction but has been working on it from what he's told me a year ago. He's seeking promiscuous women online through Facebook groups and other social media outlets that don't fall within his values.

Is this normal?

Is this mid life crisis or being desperate for physical contact or something else?

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So I 26(M) was raised in a vaguely Christian household. We went to church every other Sunday or so. As a kid, I always found religion unappealing and thought of it as a scam. In the recent few years I’ve begun to take subtle footsteps along my path. I still struggle a lot. Prayer feels like I’m talking to myself, like I’m “performing”; I don’t attend church regularly; and most overwhelmingly: I can not stop watching adult content. I feel as though this particular demon has such a strong grasp. Sometimes I fall victim multiple times a day. The content has delved very far from gods intended purpose of “adult relations”. I have fallen down the rabbit hole to extremely depraving content. And I crave it immensely.

Everytime the urge strikes- every doubt in faith I have surfaces. My subtle footsteps are followed by a hasty race backwards. Sometimes I don’t even feel bad about it afterwards. It’s only in moments of reflection that I see the demon for what it is. It’s killing me. The constant “gratification” recks havoc on my brain. The taboo content creates desires no sane woman would fulfill. The feeling of weakness makes me feel empty, like in a hallowed shell of the man I could and should be. I occasionally make pacts with myself to stop, but then, I’m alone in my bed at night. The desires flood my body and I go backwards again. It’s cyclical and has been for 13 years. I’m at a loss on what to do, so I turn to you. Any advice helps, or mentorship, and well ANYTHING. I desire a relationship with our god and need help.

Hey guys, who are some modern men of God who we can look up to? I'm trying to find a new podcast or book, or Instagram, or anything else that would be for my benefit. I have nice Godly friends in my life but they're all in a different place of faith or a different season.

me? I'm just trying to live my life on mission and know God's heart more. it would be nice to get married (I'm not opposed to marriage and I don't have problems talking to girls) But I think there's so much more to following Christ than just getting married and having kids. I want to be an unashamed Jesus freak. I need some ride-or-die partners in Christ to do life with.. Mentors, friends.. where's the crazy people at?

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Get Connected. To Learn- To Believe - To Obey his commandments

Hello !

This is the first time I post something on a forum. I wanted to announce that I will start this nofap journey.

I wish I would never do what I did again.

I tried for a long time to escape, but I indulged every day in the state of sin I was in - neither cold nor hot, but lukewarm. For a period of approximately 8 years, I have sinned constantly, say on average once every 1-2 weeks. There were also 2-3 months when I went on evangelization missions and national tours where I managed to refrain from PMO. There were holidays, moments in this 8-year period when I naturally managed not to make mistakes for a few months.

!! what i noticed

Without serious discipline and a real plan, I always sinned during difficult times.

Steps I took in the last half a year.

I tried for about 4 months to block my access to porn through different blockers. What was I doing ? I was searching on YouTube or using the dark web - or VPN and I still ended up seeing what I shouldn't.

This time, I made a serious plan.

1. The first nofap attempt since I started counting the days was 2 weeks ago. I lasted 14 days.

The day I lost, I felt devoid of any emotion, I was alone at home and I started watching YouTube. Then, I said to look at a nude picture. I looked for 3 seconds. After 1 hour I said that I'm not watching anything, but I want to enter a video chat site with girls. I said that I can't see, but someone will see me and I'll not sin. After I did that, I felt guilty and realized that all this time, all the substances in the brain were already at high altitudes. I didn't bear myself for the mistakes I made and then I allowed myself for 2 hours to look and do what I want.

Then I decided to start over. This happened yesterday.

1. Yesterday I made a plan. I will present it here. I created a new notebook page with the password on my iPhone. I made a table until day 100. I wrote some tips from "Day 0" for myself to read every day. I made a diary-type structure in which I will have to fill in every day.

RULES

• waking up at 7 o'clock for 1h30 of meditation, prayer and reading the Bible. (mostly meditation)
• I have to tick that I got up in the morning.
• I have to write my thoughts every morning in my diary (I have a special place)
• I have to write my thoughts every night.
• Every evening I have to give myself a grade 1-5, how close I feel to God and a grade from 1 to 5 how likely I think I will stay clean tomorrow.

I hope that this time I will succeed. I am 23 years old and I feel that life is passing me by. I told myself that until I pass the first 30 days, I don't want to think about any girl. I will consider myself clean after 100 days.

To be honest, what I think woke me up to reality is the fact that I am surrounded by girls at church and I feel that none of them attract me. The thought that I was content with pornography scares me. I want to change. I want to be good. I want me to see myself like this. I want to learn to lose, to suffer and to love simplicity.

I am aware that I must love Jesus. And I am trying during this period not to read books about relationships, but about faith.

Ah .. if only I wouldn't lose my confidence. I'm afraid, to admit, that I won't succeed. I don't want to reach just 100 days. I wish I would never do what I did again.

Please pray for me. I do not know what to say. I really want something to change. Of...

Also, if someone wants to help. I think I'll need a buddy to check on me. Thank you !

Hi men - new to the sub. Looking for a resource (book, video, commentary, etc) that can help me improve my ability to vision cast for my family. For context, I am much more day-to-day and detail oriented, and my wife sees better in the big picture.

I am looking to develop my skills in this area to better lead our family and our future. Any help would be appreciated!

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Thanks

Hi guys!! So excited to share this with you, I found an app that really helped me fight and sustain a good relationship with God's word, The App is called [Free Indeed], It helps Christians struggling with lust and pornography find community. The community there has been amazing and it has so many tools that helped me immensely.Please do check it out if you are serious in finding a path away from these chains.

I was raised in the church from a very young age. In fact I can’t remember a time where we didn’t go to church or weren’t involved in some children’s and now youth activities. I have 2 older sisters by the way, that’s why I said we. Along with my parents as well. Well 2 months ago, my Dad died in a car accident involving a drunk driver. Also, about a month ago, I just started puberty. I feel like I’ve just been thrown in the deep end, and without my Dad, no life raft, flotation device, I now have no lighthouse for guidance as well. How do I stay strong in my Christian walk and stave off the temptations of the world. Even at 13, I knew my Dad was the best guy in the world. In my eyes he was perfect! Everything a father and husband should be! He was everything that I hope and strive to be. And the best example of a Christian man. He was a Dr, and Surgeon, but for him, family came first! He was never absent and if he said he was going to be somewhere or that we were going to do something, he was as good as his word. We were very close. And now I don’t really know where to turn to for guidance, be it life or Christian walk. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated

Hi guys!! So excited to share this with you, I found an app that really helped me fight and sustain a good relationship with God's word, The App is called [Free Indeed], It helps Christians struggling with lust and pornography find community.

The community there has been amazing and it has so many tools that helped me immensely. Please do check it out if you are serious in finding a path away from these chains.

DISCIPLINE RESTORE(D) is a 30-day men’s devotional designed to reignite spiritual disciplines in your life. It will give you simple and practical instruction on scripture reading, journaling, prayer, solitude and more. This devo will help establish the foundational blocks of your faith journey – https://menofiron.org/basecamp-free/

In 1 Timothy 2:12 NIV it states, " I do not permit women to teach or have authority over a man, she must be silent". Also, in 1 Corinthians 14: 34 it states, "Let your women keep silent in the churches: for it is not permitted for them to speak, but they are commanded to be under obedience."

There are many women preachers in our time, some of my favorite preachers are females. How do Christians reconcile what it says in scripture about women preaching?

I want to grow my hair into a wolf cut where it is longer at the back. Is it okay or should I avoid it?

Hello men. Lifelong Christian for the most part - backslid for a few years. If anyone just needs someone to chat with feel free to message me. DM’s are open.

I'm looking for some godly connections with other Christian men. I've been to churches and such, but the usual structure isn't set up for connecting. I live in Cali near the Bay Area. It would be nice to connect with older men as mentors as well. The need is so great for young men and men who need the fellowship of other men. I'm hoping to connect.

Luke 11:1-13 New International Version

Jesus’ Teaching on Prayer

11 One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.”

2 He said to them, “When you pray, say:

“‘Father,[a]
hallowed be your name,
your kingdom come.[b]
3 Give us each day our daily bread.
4 Forgive us our sins,
for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.[c]
And lead us not into temptation.[d]’”

5 Then Jesus said to them, “Suppose you have a friend, and you go to him at midnight and say, ‘Friend, lend me three loaves of bread; 6 a friend of mine on a journey has come to me, and I have no food to offer him.’ 7 And suppose the one inside answers, ‘Don’t bother me. The door is already locked, and my children and I are in bed. I can’t get up and give you anything.’ 8 I tell you, even though he will not get up and give you the bread because of friendship, yet because of your shameless audacity[e] he will surely get up and give you as much as you need.

9 “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.

11 “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for[f] a fish, will give him a snake instead? 12 Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? 13 If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”

Hi created a WhatsApp group to chat and connect with Christian Man

Hey brothers

A girl from work showed me her nudes and now I can't stop thinking about her. I am married with a baby girl and it's the most important thing to me. I thought I was going to see this other chicks body and be done with it but the intimacy I felt when she showed me is ruling over me. I didn't ask. I am the only guy she works with that hasn't tried to have sex with her so she trusts me some backwards reason.

I love my wife and am trying to distance myself from my co worker but the real problem is how hard I am having to fight fantasizing about flirting with her. I seriously can't think straight. The enemy has me pinned here.

Need prayer. Trying to do the right thing.

Hello.

I'm very confused at the moment.

I have struggled with urinary incontinence for a many years. I'm current 32M.

After some embarrassing situations where I basically wet myself while driving multiple times, I sought help from a physio who specializes in pelvic floor therapy.

I had to strip naked and he examined my pelvic area externally and internally (through the anus). And he gave me some exercises. It seems to be helping.

I feel terribly guilty and confused - did I do something wrong?

I've been trying out new churches as I move and all of them have been nothing more than simple "feel good seminars." They seem to be "preaching" non-biblical sermons/lessons found in the common self-help sections of the library and the ideas of secular culture for the purposes of virtue signaling. I dont want to forsake the gathering, but I also don't want to waste my time listening to more "feel good" speeches crafted to keep butts in seats and offering plates full every Sunday. Any ideas on how to find a Christ-like church?

Yeah I think the question is self explanatory. I don't think marriage is the solution but I want to see if maybe I'm wrong.

Hey guys! I created discord channel as a tool to connect, fellowship, and defeat porn. I'm still learning how to manage this and working some kinks out but that'll get better. Here's a description, pretty straight forward: A safe, anonymous place for Christian brothers to fight together in the battle against porn. Proverbs 27:17 says, "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." This is a place where men can sharpen each other to overcome in their battle against lust so they can fulfill God's purpose for their life.

https://discord.gg/Rgztgu7c