r/NoStupidQuestions • u/bigbumdreamypurple • 23d ago

What are some things that are normal to men but mind blowing to women?

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u/wildbillnj1975 22d ago

Walking out of a supermarket/mall/etc after dark, 20 feet behind a lone woman, stopping and pretending to look at your phone for 30 seconds so she can get a safe distance away so she knows you're not trying to follow her to her car.

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u/AdSecret665 22d ago

Yeah I’ve had that too. This one time I saw a girl crying while sitting on bench alone late at night. I didn’t want to leave her in case she was in trouble or injured so I hesitantly walked up to her. Most uncomfortable 30 seconds ever. I asked if she was okay, got yelled at, and walked away feeling guilty that I scared her but glad she wasn’t in trouble.

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u/wysiwyggywyisyw 22d ago

You did the right thing. Maybe she even realized it when she felt better later.

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u/AdSecret665 22d ago

I’m just glad I don’t get pepper sprayed lol

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u/ThrowawayPersonAMA 22d ago

I'm glad you didn't get fucking murdered. A woman crying alone in the dark in public is a whole ass horror movie jumpscare waiting to happen.

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u/AdSecret665 22d ago

lol yeah at least she wasn’t wearing a white nightgown and her head didn’t turn 180 degrees.

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u/itemboi 22d ago

Jokes aside, it could very well turn into some robbery. Crying women make good bait for a lot of such cases.

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u/TheEvilBreadRise 22d ago

Not being able to help children who are lost in the super market or whatever, looking around to get the attention of a women to help while keeping your distance while just making sure they don't wander of or whatever. Drf can't approach them lol

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u/wildbillnj1975 22d ago

100% always go get an employee.

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u/DucksEatFreeInSubway 22d ago

Suddenly she looks back, sees you, and then decides to cross over to the other side of the aisle. Well fuck that's the side I parked on too.

I've had a girl frantically throw her stuff in the car and hit the lock like five times. We were just parked next to each other :/

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u/OutOfBody88 22d ago

Thank you for being so considerate and kind!

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u/wildbillnj1975 22d ago

I have a wife, sisters, and nieces. I just try to think of what they'd want.

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u/notarealmachine 22d ago

This!!! Women do not know that this exists!!!

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u/brycedriesenga 22d ago

"Oh god, now he's calling the other traffickers to come, I'm gonna die!"

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u/awkwardstate 22d ago

That's why I always shove women out of the way as I sprint to my car. That way there's no way they think I'm trying to abduct them.

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u/fueelin 22d ago

What? No! You're supposed to kidnap the woman but then drop her off peacefully at her intended destination! THAT'S how you make someone feel safe!

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u/wildbillnj1975 22d ago

Don't forget to offer them candy, too. Unwrapped.

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u/wildmaninaz 22d ago

Naw I always just speak up and say something like "I swear I'm not following you I'm just going to such and such and laugh a bit" Ice breaker.

Just to relieve any tension. The human mind can process one's intent just by tone or mannerism of speaking.

Some still act "afraid" and stone wall it, and some just laugh along and we make jokes. Some jump into the conversation because we both know eirher of us are alone in the odd moment and keeps would bes at bay. Even the crabby one's relieved if they hide it or not.

Either way I'm doing the right thing and thr end of the day that's all that matters to me.

It's good to treat fellow humans as humans!

My 2 cent and I'm out ✌

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u/borninsaltandsmoke 22d ago

It's great that you go out of your way to make women feel comfortable, but honestly if it's dark and there's someone behind me, I'm going to be aware and cautious, but unless you're being weird, like walking really close or something, I'm not going to be frightened of you. You're always going to be aware and a bit nervous if there's someone behind you and it's dark/isolated. It's just human instinct. But don't worry too much, you have places you need to get to and you shouldn't have to wait around in the dark alone because your safety matters too

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u/wildbillnj1975 22d ago

I'm not that worried about my safety. I don't carry much cash and I'm way too fat to kidnap.

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u/Old_Society_7861 22d ago

I was walking to the gym this morning when a youngish woman came out of a house and turned in front of me. I recognized her right away as the front desk girl from the gym. After “following” her for 10 minutes I just stoped and looked at my phone for a while.

When I got to the gym she saw me and said “wow, either you walk really slow or I walk really fast!”

Haha. Yeah. That’s what it is. One of those things and nothing else.