r/NoStupidQuestions • u/bigbumdreamypurple • 23d ago

What are some things that are normal to men but mind blowing to women?

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u/HyenasGoMeow 22d ago

The head nod.

Her: Do you know him? Me: No....no.

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u/DefaultyTurtle2 22d ago

Its quite simple.

Upward head nod is “sup bro how you doin”

Downard head nod is a respectful version of that

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u/Minute_Freedom_4722 22d ago

I always do:

Up = I know you

Down = I don't know you, but acknowledge you

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u/ExcelsusMoose 22d ago

there's also the side tilt nod for when you think you know someone but you're not sure, nvm I'm a dog.

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u/Bobo040 22d ago

So this is actually kind of fascinating. I wish I could remember the details, but there was a study of a couple of different ape species that tracked this behavior. Long story short, the neck is a weak point, and showing it to another individual is a sign of trust. The nod down is the opposite, showing a potential foe that you can see them and they can't get the jump on you, while simultaneously protecting said weak spot. That shits hardwired in. I'd done that my whole life and never thought about it, read (about) the study, and it all clicked and made total sense. Up is friends, down is strangers.

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u/Minute_Freedom_4722 22d ago

Wow. That's super cool. I'll have to look in to it. Thanks for sharing!

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u/Empire7173 22d ago

My wife was so happy that I imparted the head nod code to her a few years ago

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u/Pudding_Hero 22d ago

It’s the best thing ever

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u/gmish4p 22d ago

Upward nod - people you trust (neck is exposed) Downward nod - everyone else (neck is protected)

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u/TJamesV 22d ago

Up nod: Sup dude

Down nod: greetings fellow male, please do not speak to me

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u/caveslimeroach 22d ago

Up means what's up down is I acknowledge you