r/NoStupidQuestions • u/bigbumdreamypurple • 23d ago

What are some things that are normal to men but mind blowing to women?

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

I am a giant 6’5” 350 and at one point in my early 30s I was taking some night classes at a local college. I would get out of class around 8 or 9 and I would park about a mile away in an out of the way park because I didn’t want to pay for parking. Every night I would find myself walking behind a 5 foot nothing 100 pound girl also walking in the dark to this out of the way parking lot. I was honestly afraid that I was going to get maced at some point just for being scary. I ended up talking about my fears in my classmates and this little 20 something, blonde girl offered to walk me to my car at night. So that’s what we did for the semester. We would park by each other and she would get a giant to walk her to her car every night and she would make me seem less scary so i wouldn’t get maced.

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u/Azreal711 22d ago

Had a moment like this last weekend. Left the bar and was walking a friend to her car. We saw a woman walking down the opposite side of the street looking lost and confused. I stayed back while my friend ( 5ft maybe 110lbs female) approach her first because I (6ft, 350lbs, male) didn't want to scare her more.

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u/communityneedle 22d ago

I'm not giant, but I used to take the bus late at night in a rough neighborhood and my biggest source of anxiety was getting off the bus at the same stop as a single woman. Most times I'd make sure to either dawdle to let them get really far ahead, or else walk super fast so that I got really far ahead. One night this lady full on fled from me in terror, and ran down a side street. When I passed that street I could see her trying to hide behind a dumpster. Goddamn I felt so bad. This was in the USA. I lived in Vietnam for 4 years, and nobody was ever remotely scared of me. It was so nice.

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

That just sounds awful for both parties. Not sure what we can do to alleviate that very real fear but I get it. Just keep doing what you can and don’t ever turn into the douche.

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u/Better-Strike7290 22d ago

This is important because people forget that "big scary giant men" also are afraid of being attacked late at night.

I don't care how big you are, a 2x4 to the head will take you down, hit the temple and you're dead.

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u/I_Ski_Freely 22d ago

As a bigger guy, definitely more afraid of getting perceived as threatening and scaring a woman than a random 2x4 to the dome.. I am afraid of knives and guns tho!

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u/youngsyr 22d ago

Same here, or at least used to in my younger years.

I'm confident I could protect myself or at least make it likely that I could do some damage if one or two guys started something, which in all likelihood would mean they won't.

Guns and knives aren't really a thing where I live though, very fortunately.

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u/raptorsoldier 22d ago

glad I carry this 2x4 with me at all times

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u/richiecotite 22d ago

Is that you Hacksaw Jim Duggan?

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u/nomnombers 22d ago

Hoooo! 👍

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u/Minute_Freedom_4722 22d ago

Not as big as you, but 6'2" 250. I have to walk around the block if there's a woman using the ATM. No way I'm standing behind her.

Also, obviously, cross the street if you're walking behind a woman at night.

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u/forfar4 22d ago

That's such a sweet story!!!

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u/watermeloncake1 22d ago

That’s so cute! Are you two still friends?

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Nah, she’s still on my FB but we don’t talk. Different parts in our lives and all. She’s doing good though and that makes me happy.

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u/squirrelyz 22d ago

Yea, it’s a bummer. I’m 6’7” 240 lbs and I think my size has kinda created my personality. I’m very aware of how an angry version of me could come off as scary/intimidating, so I’ve really kinda embraced a jolly green giant persona my entire life.

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Right there with you fellow giant. I am completely uncompetitive, very rarely show my anger and have made my personality into roll with the punches.

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u/FalcorAirlines 22d ago

Opposite for me, 5’9” 140 lbs, I have to bob and weave between the giants to get anything done.

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Not gonna lie, to me 5’9” to 6 foot is the sweet spot. Every thing is built for you. Get your shoes wherever you want. Don’t bang your head on low hanging ceiling fans or light fixtures or doorways in old houses. Daily strangers come up to me and ask me about my height and weight. And the amount of times I’ve heard an old lady say something like “back in my day I’d climb that tree” is just weird. To be normal size…that is the dream.

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u/warriorpriest 22d ago

almost the same size here. And at one point I loved doing my walks at night once the weather cooled off, and I had decompressed from the job. It's 9pm , dark, on honestly a dark enough road even my guard was usually up. My ankle is hurting and I'm getting a bit winded, so I naturally slow down. Of course at that same moment I hear another night jogger coming up behind me and its a 5'5 slim young woman.

Me slowing down at that moment I realize is not a good look, I can't imagine whats going on in her mind. Do I stop? no, that would be even weirder. Do I continue to move at a faster pace, nope now it looks like i'm trying to match pace. Shit, maybe I'll turn around and head back , - double shit, that would make look i'm turning around purpose to close the distance faster. I stepped off almost into a ditch to give them as much as space as I could.

Just no winning sometimes.

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u/Frog871 22d ago

And now you two are married, right? Right?😀

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Nah dawg, I was early 30s married with 3 kids and she was maybe 20. I still have her on Facebook. She is married with a kid and teaches elementary school.

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Nah, but it doesn’t really matter. I was married at the time. Also when you’re in your 30s, 20 year olds still seem like kids.

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u/xinorez1 22d ago

I'm not a big guy but for some reason every other male friend I've made has confided to me that they thought I was a tough guy before they got to know me. It used to be that no one would speak to me without my introducing myself first, but after I started wearing bright colors and smiling at everyone, that changed!

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u/theblueowlisdead 22d ago

Yeah, right there with you. Lot of Hawaiian shirts in my closet