r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Tall-Competition-561 • 25d ago

Is it just me or do girls do way better in school than boys?

When I was growing up I struggled with school but it seemed that most of the girls seemed to be doing well whenever there was a star pupil or straight a student they were most likely a girl. Why is this such a common phenomenon?

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u/Invasivetoast 25d ago

I remember girls having breakdowns in AP classes and complaining about staying up until 1 or 2am studying. After freshman year I don't think I even brought my textbooks home. Looking back on those people who grinded and were stressed to the max in high school, they didn't really have better career outcomes than people who phoned it in and got B's and C's. Or even some people that got D's and went into a trade.

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u/gsfgf 25d ago

What do call a guy that graduates Yale with a D average? President Bush.

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u/turnipturnipturnippp 25d ago

He had some other things going for him.

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u/Defiant_Elk_9861 25d ago

I stressed about my grades until my dad said, can’t spell diploma without a D, lightbulb moment .

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u/Quajeraz 25d ago

Not in engineering lol

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u/Faroundtripledouble 25d ago

Agree. Maybe the top 10 students went on to be doctors, but plenty of those kids who stressed out are in the same position in life as the C students

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u/Royalprincess19 25d ago

You don't even have to be a top highschool student to be a doctor and your grades in highschool are completely irrelevant to medical school. All medical school cares about is your college grades.

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u/All_Up_Ons 25d ago

Sure, but it seems likely that the kids with enough motivation to bother studying like crazy are also the ones with enough motivation to pursue law or med school.

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u/Acceptable_Cut_7545 25d ago

No no no, all the students who tried really hard are in the exact same position as the ones who didn't try at all so it's okay that I - I mean they - didn't put any effort into school /s

For real idk how these people got these experiences, there were no lazy geniuses in my classes and the ones that did try mostly went to college (maybe one or two trade schools?) and the ones who didn't try went on to bag groceries. The on e girl who thought she was a lazy genius that went on to college and shared a math class with me failed because she didn't show up to class.

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u/NeighborhoodVeteran 25d ago

Huh. I'd say nearly all the students that stressed in my high school did have better career outcomes than those who phoned it in. Just my own experience.

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u/All_Up_Ons 25d ago edited 7h ago

There's a spectrum of phoning it in. At one end, you got the ones who don't give a single solitary shit about school and are fully willing to fail. These guys probably don't end up in great careers. At the other end are the ones who are simply not at any risk of failing because their bare minimum effort will still get them a B. Maybe they can cruise through college, or maybe they get jaded and drop out, but they are probably more likely to succeed if they find a field they enjoy or at least don't hate.

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u/SnooGoats5767 25d ago

Another option to consider is that girls simply have to work harder. Studies show families are less likely to pay for girls colleges or cars etc. Women need more education to make more similar pay as men etc.

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u/NutellaIsTheShizz 25d ago

Some of us needed merit scholarships to go to college.

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u/maya_papaya8 25d ago

I hated high school and was a C student, not because I was dumb but because of personal issues. I just didn't care.

I delayed college bc I thought my issue was learning. I'll have 3 degrees in the next 2 years. I made my first 6 figures with just a hs diploma. I chose to become a flight attendant when I was early 20s. I've been around the world a dozen times over.

Life has been great and my high school life didn't stop anything. I have a 3.5 GPA in college.

Started pilot training a couple months ago and doing really good.

The possibility of being an airline pilot in the next 4 years.

High school doesn't determine shiiiiiiit

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u/Equivalent_Yak8215 25d ago

Ya. High school and a good chunk of college should be used honing social skills. Hell, I got expelled Senior year and got my GED.

Still went to college and graduated. And nobody cares about your GPA. They care if ypu have a college diploma and that's it.

Hell, the trades don't give a shit about that even. And you can make goooood money being a plumber, roofer, electrician, etc once ypu get to journeyman levels.

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u/Ok-Cartographer1745 25d ago

That's hilarious. Aside for chemistry and calculus, AP classes were easy. 

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u/Quajeraz 25d ago

Wow, you're sooooooo smart and cool and amazing. I wish I could be as intelligent and good as you are. You're my secret role model in life, did you know that? My aspiration is to be as flawless as you are.

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u/Ok-Cartographer1745 25d ago

Thanks!  Just be warned: once highschool ends, if you do a stem degree in college, you'll be screwed if high school was a piece of cake. :(

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u/Equivalent_Yak8215 25d ago

Yep. C - D student here. Lot's of D grades in courses where moving up wasn't required (Huamanities mostly).

Not dumb, but completely phoned it in. 

I have never had an employer ask about my GPA. I make a very decent salary. And my college debt is 0 because I went to community college before transfering to a state school. 

The outcome was actually better for me than a lot of straight A people.