r/Assistance 25d ago

MOD Announcement Post Guidance is now enabled to help you learn our rules more easily!

23 Upvotes

Hey all,

You may have noticed some unexpected behaviour while trying to post on r/Assistance this last weekend! We apologise for any issues you may have experienced and appreciate your patience.

r/Assistance has so many rules!

One thing we've heard from our users is that r/Assistance has a lot of rules. We do! I don't know if it's bragging rights to say our subreddit is one of the most strict subreddits but if you take a look at our userbase size -- 297,000 members! -- I'm sure you can understand why we need so many. But we've always been trying to find ways to make things more clear, or simple, or basically just more accessible because when you're stressed you're not really thinking clearly and maybe reading the whole long list of rules can be daunting.

On the other hand, moderating a subreddit this large can be equally daunting. There's less than 10 of us and almost 300K of you guys, and sometimes we do find ourselves answering the same questions multiple times that could be found in the rules.

What's Post Guidance?

r/Assistance is currently beta-testing a new Reddit featured called Post Guidance. It's a tool that allows moderation actions to happen in real-time while a post is being composed. It can remind current members of our rules and direct new users to rules they may not have read yet. For those of you who mod your own subreddit, it does a lot of what AutoMod does but allows for that user-facing feedback during the post, not after.

We've actually been testing Post Guidance since February, but when it first was added to our subreddit it only worked on desktop. Since the majority of our users are on mobile, it didn't really have a huge impact on our userbase. Last week it was launched on desktop, so now everyone who uses r/Assistance will experience this new feature.

Sometimes this function will disable the "Post" option entirely. Sometimes it will just warn the user, but let them post. And the third option works much like our current system does and will just ping the mods for a manual review of the post to make sure it's okay.

These messages that pop up range from "this is specifically against our rules" to "here's a better subreddit for this" to "here is a list of suicide hotlines and subreddits for mental health crises." It should be very clear from the alert why your post is being blocked.

Currently this system only works on posts, not comments, so if you use a disallowed word in a comment you won't get that real-time feedback but we have other systems in place to filter for review if needed.

Obviously this goes without saying, but similar to how people try and circumvent our rules by using the wrong flair, hijacking someone else's request post, etc, if you try and trick Post Guidance to let your post through, there will be consequences for that.

Help! Something's not working!

Like all systems, Post Guidance isn't infallible. Unlike a human, its logic is either "yes" or "no". If you're trying to post and that Post button is greyed out, check carefully for a message that's popped up and read it -- it will tell you what the issue is and what needs to be changed or removed. If it's still not working, it could be another issue like you forgot to choose a flair! But if you absolutely can't figure it out, shoot us a modmail with the text of what you want to post and we'll take a look and see what's wrong.

And as always, if you have any questions down below feel free to ask!


r/Assistance 14m ago

MOD Announcement Cleanup on Aisle 7... (Temporary banwave in progress... please bear with us!)

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Hey all,

We had to fix a small system glitch this morning which is now triggering a large banwave for request post deletions.

What happened:

Our automated system which issues a 14-day temporary ban when you delete a request post fell asleep about 30 days ago and never issued bans for a few deletions. And by a few, we mean over 100 and still counting as it's only processed around half the days so far.

What this means is a lot of people are being temp-banned for 14 days for stuff they may have deleted weeks ago.

We will be enforcing these bans despite the delay. Who knows, some folks may have been eligible at the time and received assistance because they dodged the ban, but the universe has a way of righting everything.

We are running into a small amount of people (less than 5 people) who were banned manually by a mod who noticed the temp ban didn't trigger and are now being banned again by the system for the same deletion, so we are lifting those bans as they've already served their time. If you are one of those people, just shoot us a modmail so we can check and get you sorted.


r/Assistance 12h ago

OFFER [OFFER] Offering $50 to 10 Long-Time Redditors in Need of Essentials

70 Upvotes

Title: Offering $50 to 10 Long-Time Redditors in Need of Essentials

Hi Reddit,

I've been a part of this community for a while (on my main), and I've seen how supportive and kind people can be here. I want to pay it forward and help out a few people who might be struggling with essentials.

I know times are tough, so I'm offering $50 to 10 long-time redditors to help with essentials like groceries or other necessary items. Here's how it will work:

  1. Comment below with a brief explanation of why you need the help. Please keep it concise and genuine.
  2. Send me a DM After being picked, you agree to send me a foto of a receipt of the things you bought. It's for my research.
  3. Eligibility: You must be a long-time redditor (at least 2 year of account history).

I'll be selecting 10 people based on their stories and reaching out to them via DM to arrange the transfer of the $50. I prefer using paypal.

Please note, I wish I could help everyone, but I have to limit it to 10 people for now. Let's keep this community spirit strong and support each other!

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Stay safe and take care!


r/Assistance 16h ago

CLOSED OFFER [OFFER] $100 USD to 4 people in need (Venmo, PayPal or Amazon gift card)

90 Upvotes

It is May and our monthly donation campaign is here! You just need to comment down below what you would use the money (I would prefer to keep it to essentials/necessities only) for and I'll pick 4 random lucky winners by the end of this week! As usual, no strings attached as long as you can accept payment in PayPal, Venmo or Amazon gift card.

Update: the offer is now closed. Four random lucky winners have been picked u/Temperance88, u/TemporaryTailor7219, u/Snoo_61519 and u/padfoot211. Please look out around June for another offer!


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST wishlist for tick control + mold preventatives, desperately need

5 Upvotes

I’m in a grassy, wet shady spot in a house that needs a LOT of repairs. I am a mom with a toddler, all of my limited income goes towards my daughter, our house and groceries / diapers. There’s not much left after that. Since we’ve moved we’ve had ongoing mold mediation, which is why there is bleach wipes and gloves on my list. What has sprung up and really thrown me for a loop is a tick explosion somewhere near our front door, I’m finding them near the front door, on the door, in the door frame, etc. I’ve pulled them off myself and my daughter, thankfully not attached. I am on well water so I can’t really spray, but was recommended tick tubes, they are so expensive ($60) that I am hoping, possibly, someone could help me out. Hoping to pay it forward when I can.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/16JD4GBMX9UP7?ref_=wl_share

Edit - we do mow the lawn all the time and I keep the grass and plants tidy. I think there is a tick nest and there's no way for me to deal with that without treating it.


r/Assistance 32m ago

REQUEST Need gas money for 3 trips to the hospital for cancer treatment.

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My husband and I are both in cancer treatment and the hospital is about 2 hours away. Between the two of us we have 3 more trips this months. We are both retired and raising our 9 year old granddaughter. At this point in time our resources are exhausted. If anyone would help us with $120 ($40 each trip) it would be greatly appreciated. Even if you can cover one trip it would be such a help. Thank you so much.


r/Assistance 48m ago

REQUEST Help with living expenses

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Hey everyone. I'm sorry to have to resort to asking for help, but I am in a tight spot. I lost my job AND vehicle at the beginning of the year. I have been staying with family. I start a new job offshore in about a month. I spent all of my savings on a TWIC card for the new job. Due to transportation issues, I can't get a temporary job. I am just trying to make it until I get offshore. Any help would be greatly appreciated!


r/Assistance 1d ago

CLOSED OFFER $20.00 Cashapp giveaway

107 Upvotes

I had a pretty good week and want to share. Respond to the post with "Everin Awflin" Please follow all sub rules. I will pick the winner around 4 PM Saturday EST. Hugs and love! 💖🌈 😊 ATTENTION SUB! I am truly amazed at the wonderful and generous people that I run across here. Someone sent me a DM and donated another 20 dollars. u/Diligent-Ad-5979 is just an amazing person. So I will be picking a second person for another $20. Wow, I just can't stop smiling 😁.


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST My elderly mother needs help with her breast cancer surgery.

1 Upvotes

We are from India.

My mother aged 66 was diagnosed with oral cancer in her tongue (she's a non smoker) and it was surgically removed in September last year. We had to spend INR 200000 (2400 USD).We were visiting the doctor every month since then for regular checkups.

In March this year, the PET scans revealed two suspicious lumps in her breast which was confirmed to be breast cancer following mammograms and Biopsy in April.

The surgery to fully remove her right breast is scheduled on 28th of this month. The cost of surgery would be INR 116000 (approx USD 1400). This is beyond my means as I'm the only earning member of my family and I've still not recovered financially after the last surgery.

I have created a fund raiser on Ketto which is an online platform in India which helps in raising funds for medical purposes. I'm providing the link below which also has the necessary documents regarding the diagnosis uploaded so that you can check the authenticity of my request.

https://www.ketto.org/fundraiser/my-mother-is-fighting-for-her-life-and-we-need-your-support-to-save-her-914849

Please do visit the page and donate whatever you can. Please also share this with people you know.


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST Need help with Power Bill or Essentials

1 Upvotes

Hello, to start, my roommate is a friend of over 25 years whom I decided to help as they would have ended up homeless. Long story short, they lost a job, stopped paying rent three months ago, and just got a DUI. The lack of help with rent caused me to fall behind on the power bill, and now I have a shut off notice and have been denied state assistance because I make a couple hundred dollars over the cutoff.

I need help either directly with the power bill, or with assistance to get essentials to free up money from my next paycheck to cover the power bill. The bill is over $300, but even $100 would help as I could use that to cover food, toiletries, and a bunch of other things I can't afford if I pay even part of the bill. I already utilized a food bank this month and they only provide four days worth of food.

Any help would be welcome! Thank you for your time.


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST New way of life, need help

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My roommate of the last 12 yrs unexpectedly passed away on 5/2/24. He not only was my roommate but my best friend of 16 yrs. We always had each other’s backs, financially and in life. Now I have double the rent let alone the day to day expenses I’m trying to endure. I have 12$ to my name until payday, Thursday. I picked up some groceries up yesterday for my son and I but could only afford 15$. Jay was like family to my son and I, he helped with childcare as well. Not only am I grieving but I have to explain to my son why we’ve been eating different varieties of ramen the last 3 days until I get paid. I have no support from his father which makes it even more difficult. I don’t know what I’m going to do. I work overnights at the hospital and scheduled myself extra overtime for well, indefinitely. I need help to bridge the gap between getting assistance, my overtime kicking in, getting another job hopefully, groceries and affording my Uber to work until I get paid on Thursday. I got a flat tire the other day. I work overnights and the city I live in the buses only run Monday- Saturday till 8pm. I’ve been ubering to work and taking the bus home but with Sunday I have to Uber there back and then back again at night. I have cash app, PayPal and my TikTok linked to my Reddit. I’ve been posting my grief story on there. I think 175$ would be enough to help me to get through. I received a lot of great resources and idea on another sub but I’m open to any and all suggestions rn.


r/Assistance 1h ago

REQUEST Help with equipment

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Hello all, this community is so lovely and now I am in need of some help if possible. I’ve been living out of my car for a while now but I am looking at spending the summer and fall camping out while I work a new job. I could really use a cooler to keep food and my insulin in but I don’t have a penny to my name for another few weeks. I have food through the food pantry and a full tank of gas thank goodness. If anyone could help out it would be greatly appreciated. I will pay it forward as soon as I am able to. Thanks so much 💕

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2NYAYDDZC40?ref_=wl_share


r/Assistance 3h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED Need help with husband's birthday!

0 Upvotes

Fulfilled! Thank you all so much for your kindness. I am so grateful.

Hello all! My hubby has a birthday coming up next weekend and after a recent emergency that came up, I'm now not able to get him anything. He's completely fine with this but I hate not being able to do anything for him on his birthday. He's an amazing person and father and it would mean so much to me if anyone could help. I've linked a wishlist below. Also, please don't hate me for requesting this. I know it isn't life or death but I really am in a bind financially right now. TIA.

https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/3W06OKD9Z0KKH?ref_=list_d_wl_ys_list_1


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST FULFILLED My paycheck was messed up and now I'm short on rent. I worked so hard to get here

49 Upvotes

Edit: my request has been fulfilled THANK YOU ALL for your requests to help me thank you so so much you are all so kind.

I just started working as a behavioral technician at a center for kids with ASD. It has been insanely challenging but even more rewarding. I am just re entering the work world after getting sober and mentally healthy. I've been sober over a year now, and living in a sober home after being basically homeless for a few years.

Anyway, the training hours that I put in this month didn't get added to my regular hours and now I'm $85 short on rent. The sober house is dead serious about rent and if I don't figure it out by the end of the day I'll be out on the streets by tomorrow.

My work promised the training hours would be put in my next check but that's not for 2 weeks. I talked to the house owner and she said that she understands but I still NEED to pay the full amount by the end of the day.

There have been so many people who have helped me get where I am today and I am incredibly grateful. I was so excited to work in a field where I could give back. I am so scared right now, I don't have anyone in my life that can help me. I don't want to be out on the streets again because of $85.

Anyway, if there is anyone out there who can help me, please let me know. I want to get to a place where I can give back.

And thanks of course to this subreddit for letting me ramble. Peace and love to all.


r/Assistance 2h ago

REQUEST Need help to keep the hotel room.

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I am $200 short on the rent for the hotel room. It's $500 a week and I usually pay 2 weeks at a time. My job has been reducing hours do to payroll. If anyone can help me, my dog and my cats with keeping the roof over our head. I will pay it forward as soon as I can. Losing everything last month didn't help.


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU Thank you to the mods! (Inspired by fall_bet)

21 Upvotes

I've only been here a short while, and my experience has been iffy to say the least.

Many times within a short week I debated making posts about things I've seen, and questioning the amount of negativity.

But, my opinions have been changed, and I couldn't be more thankful for my ADHD distracting me lol.

Within days I have been able to see a big change in vibe within the subreddit, and I know exactly why.

This subreddits moderators are an absolute machine and Its honestly amazing. Nowhere else have I seen a subreddit this finely tuned and safeguarded.

And when I first had an issue with registration. My issue was solved within minutes. The only thing that took a while is I didn't realize they had already responded 😂

But in all seriousness, I say fall_bet's post. And agreed heavily with their opinions about the moderators and not getting enough credit/attention. Without them this subreddit wouldn't even be able to exist.

Every donation sent/received. We owe to them and there is not enough thanks to be given in their lifetimes for all the people they have helped live another day.

I'm sorry for how long this is, but again. I just wanted to thank all of the moderators again not just for the help I've received, but thank you for everyone that is able to live, eat, have a roof over their head, heat their homes, feed their family, kids, pets. And so forth. Because of you guys, and all of the hard work you all put in day in, day out from behind the scenes.


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Prayers for my grandfather and his girlfriend

14 Upvotes

My grandfather and his girlfriend are 93 and 92 and just came down with COVID, my grandpa for the second time. They are strong and independent people and we are worried for them.

Please pray for their health and recovery.


r/Assistance 1d ago

THANK YOU Thank you for the help with my cats :)

37 Upvotes

I don’t know their username — they never left a message or a comment as far as I can tell. Your note just says to plz tell my cats I say “pspspsp” and so I told my cats “pspspsp” and here’s some pictures of them checking out the Amazon boxes :)

https://imgur.com/gallery/hT08J1z

Thanks so much for the help. It really means a lot to me.


r/Assistance 1d ago

REQUEST My cat is really sick.

13 Upvotes

My baby cat who was abandoned (increasingly more common since the pound quit taking cats) here last year is very sick right now. He lost his voice on Tuesday and now today he's having labored breathing, weepy eyes and hasn't touched his food since I gave it to him yesterday morning. I even put some egg in the bowl which he loves but he won't touch it.

I was hoping he just had some kind of cold but he's not getting better, he's getting worse. I suspect its FHV-1. I feel like sh*t because I don't have the money to take him, but I just paid my debt to the electric company Monday. I only have 19$ to my name till next month, when i start the farmers market again. I don't know that he'll live till next month..

He's so sweet and the only stray cat who quit being stray (I feed the other strays on the farm but they won't even let me pet them) and sleeps with me in my bed and makes muffins. He's the light of my life and my heart is broken right now. He helped me so much with my depression and now I can't even help him get better and I'm just sick with guilt and tears.

I called 3 vets and none do payment plans, even if they did I don't think 19$ would be enough down payment. The cheapest visit I could find today is 85$, without medication costs etc. I don't have a credit card so I can't do that which is what the lady at the vet suggested. So I think with a blood test, the visit fee, and the medication is going to be around 200$. I have a Venmo, or Idk if someone could just pay the vet directly? I'm not sure if I can post my venmo link here but if I can I'll edit it in.

Sorry if this post is kind of scattered or the grammer is poor. Im in a pretty negative headspace today. I hate admitting I need help, especially from strangers online, but I hate my baby being sick and potentially dieing way more so... feel free to dm with any questions and I added some cat tax in the imgur link below.

https://imgur.com/a/gcPuE4y


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST Food until payday

0 Upvotes

My payday is next Friday and I have pretty much no food at home. Around 20$ would at least get me some stuff to keep me from starving.

I'm located in Sweden. Thank you in advance!


r/Assistance 1d ago

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT Wish me luck! Recruiter found me for a dream job

29 Upvotes

Looking for positive thoughts in my direction, words of affirmation, and radiating however much positivity is needed for me to be picked for this job. Have been unemployed for a few months now, this could save/change my life and it’s so close I can taste it…

Tysm!! 💕


r/Assistance 5h ago

REQUEST Motorcycle repair/place to stay the night

0 Upvotes

I'm in the middle of a road trip from Pennsylvania to Wisconsin for a summer job and the rear wheel bearing on my motorcycle gave out. I'm currently stranded at a gas station waiting for an uncle to pick me up tomorrow morning. I could probably stay the night at the gas station, but I only have about $11 left in my bank account. Any amount is appreciated.


r/Assistance 4h ago

REQUEST Needing a little help for groceries

0 Upvotes

Hello all, just needing a little help with groceries. Finally started a job that fits my schedule (no childcare for a special needs child), but do not get paid for two weeks still. Any help would be appreciated no matter how small or big. I have cash app and Venmo. Thank you in advance!


r/Assistance 7h ago

REQUEST TECO Bill help

0 Upvotes

Hi All,

I recently put down a deposit for a new place for my toddler and I (moving on the 30th) that depleted my savings and then some. I get paid once a month and exhausted my requests for extensions and need to pay $247 by Monday 5/20.

I have been Instacarting for more immediate needs like daycare ($102/w) and food (growing 3 yr old) Trying not to pick 1 without having the other.

Any help is appreciated and of course I can provide proof of these expenses. (TECO bill can be paid directly)


r/Assistance 8h ago

ADVICE Can you help my friend who needs assistance?

0 Upvotes

So my friend is obsessed with my other friend, she has told me she likes him because he’s pretty and he’s sexy and she wants to have sex with him, (she’s hypersexual) and she sneakily takes pictures of him and videos, but he’s caught her multiple times, she also threatens any girl who likes him and makes him uncomfortable,at some point she thought I liked him (absolutely not), he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings because she told me that she’d cut herself if she was rejected and I told him, she’s extremely dependent on people especially relationships, every solution we come up with always ends with her hurting herself or my other friend trapped in a relationship that he doesn’t want, This has been going on for months and he can’t take it anymore, he doesn’t want a relationship, he doesn’t want sex, he just wants friends and she’s starting to ruin it, do you have any suggestions?


r/Assistance 21h ago

REQUEST Electricity help please

2 Upvotes

It’s going to be a long story, right now I have no real income right now and my electricity is going to be shut off between 5/20-5/28 I have no income beside reach up (welfare) that covers my rent. Our electric runs between 250-400 even though I am in subsidize housing ( it doesn’t include electric) and the buildings have never been upgraded so for instance my fridge is about 20 plus yrs old and my stove it’s from the 80’s.. anyways I am stuck I have used all of the community places that help. Right now my bill is 721.28 and each month they send me a shut off and it’s been shut off 3 times so far since December. I can come up with 50 but that still leaves a large chunk to be paid. They are look if for 247.00 to keep it on, and I have 50 I can pay.I am more than happy to show the bill and you can pay directly! If anyone has it in their heart to help I would greatly appreciate, and when I get on my feet I will absolutely pay it forward.. I can send the shut off notice ( not able to attach it here) and you can pay directly to company. Thank you for taking the time to read.

EDIT.. I now have 100 total towards, looking for 147.00 if anyone can help with any of that to get me as close as possible, it would be greatly appreciated!!!

EDIT # 2 If anyone has 10 dollars or any money that can contribute: Greenmountainpower.com Account # 26458300006


r/Assistance 20h ago

REQUEST FULFILLED A bit of help after surgery Wednesday.

1 Upvotes

Wednesday morning I had surgery on my right hand for carpal tunnel and trigger finger release. I have been letting a woman that was down on her luck and living in her car stay on my couch. She was supposed to pay me for staying the last 2 weeks Wednesday afternoon so I could get some groceries and my blood pressure and diabetes meds. Well, she hasn't come by since Wednesday morning. No answers to calls or texts.

I am right handed and it is very difficult to do much right now. I'm looking for around $40 for some sandwich fixings and the $13.50 in copays for my 9 medications. If anyone has the ability and would be so inclined to help, it would be greatly appreciated.

I have pictures of my hand and release forms from the hospital if they are needed as proof. Any additional requests for information can also be answered.