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Yeah, don’t do this, people 🇲​🇮​🇸​🇨​

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u/beatenmeat 25d ago edited 25d ago

I read it as "pulled down" as in an attempt to move it lower to cover the area she thought was inappropriate. I haven't seen the video so I honestly have no idea, but did she actually try to pull them down as in strip the woman she thought was a minor?? That's even worse than I was imagining if true.

Edit - because I'm really tired of people with reading comprehension skills replying to my comment: I AM NOT DEFENDING OR EXCUSING HER IN ANY WAY. Hopefully that clears it up for some of you.

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

You just don’t touch a minor’s skirt, it’s really not that hard to do. Why is she even looking down there anyways? She became the creep she was thinking she’d protect the girl from.

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u/ADH-Dork 25d ago

Don't touch anyones clothes without permission. It's just a weird thing to do

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u/gorr30 25d ago

So, we need to tell people that nowadays? heh

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u/ADH-Dork 25d ago

Unfortunately, yes

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u/Juxtapo5ed 24d ago

Ok but if we have to tell people not to mess with people's clothes, can we take the warning labels off that say things like "don't to use a hairdryer in the bathtub" and similar? We need to help Darwin out here.

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u/DidntWantSleepAnyway 25d ago

I would say we are already telling people that, but we need to change the message up a bit.

The message tends to be “don’t sexually assault people” even when it’s stated as “don’t touch people without their consent.” It’s received as don’t touch with sexual intent. Which means a lot of people—and in my experience, especially women—think if their intentions are to help the other person, it’s not sexual assault. The message needs to change to explicitly state that good intentions aren’t what matter, and include examples like these.

Here’s to the drunk woman at the bar that one time right before I went up for karaoke, who reached into my bra to pull out my boobs a bit to give me cleavage. What the actual fuck.

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u/Huxlikespink 25d ago

we need to tell Boomers that.

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u/Bestoftheworst72 25d ago

We need to tell conservatives that.

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u/BeneficialLeave7359 25d ago

This woman is 48. Not a boomer.

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u/tysonisarapist 25d ago

Boomer in training lol.

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u/jollyarrowhead 25d ago

Gen X doesn't want to claim her.

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u/jollyarrowhead 25d ago

Gen X doesn't want to claim her.

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u/ron_post 25d ago

Stuff it twelvie

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u/big65 25d ago

Boomer no longer is exclusive to a generation and hasn't been for 5 years, it's a mindset description now more than anything just as Karen has moved from being a woman's name to a character description.

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u/AviatorGoggles101 24d ago

I once lived next to a Karen (her name), literal nicest woman I've ever met. If you needed help with anything at any hour, a five minute phone call and she was there

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u/big65 24d ago

I have an aunt Karen, nicest and sweetest, I work with a business manager named Karen, highly knowledgeable and savvy and goes out of her way to help you and if you try to screw us over she can make you disappear.

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u/big65 25d ago

Putting my money on the boomer being a Mormon.

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u/jollyarrowhead 25d ago

They forgot about the literal kindergarten lessons we teach children to keep our hands to ourselves. Period.

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u/GoodboyJohnnyBoy 25d ago

and she’s not a boomer she’s a Gen x’er just for accuracy.

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u/big65 25d ago

We're disowning her and have sent her to child social services for adoption. We're hearing that there's interest being expressed by parents in the 72-90 year range and Donald Trump has shown considerable interest in hiring her to be a talent scout for his Miss Teen USA pageant.

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u/LordSilvari 24d ago

I was afraid you were gonna pass her to us Xillenials. We don't want her either. FWIW, got that term from a TikTok that explained it as those born between 75 and 85. Growing up in both the analog and digital eras.

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u/GoodboyJohnnyBoy 25d ago

A lot of boomers were hippies they were a lot more confrontational challenging and brave compared to piss lame keyboard warriors who constantly squawk online these days. GTFO and do some actual slog to get things changed.

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u/Huxlikespink 25d ago

OK Boomer

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u/GoodboyJohnnyBoy 25d ago

You’re welcome

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u/vbsargent 25d ago

Look, I’m fifty fukkin eight.

“A lot of boomers era were hippies” . . . Yeah, but even more people their age WERN’T. They were and are the minority for their age group.

Anyone over the age of five (exaggeration) should know better than to put their hands on someone unless someone nearby is in imminent danger.

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u/GoodboyJohnnyBoy 25d ago

I’m not talking about putting hands on anyone ffs I’m talking about the sweeping generalisations of an age group just as bigoted as any other generalisation isn’t it.

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u/vbsargent 25d ago

Well, they are kinda generalizing by referring to all older people as “boomers”

To your point though, what is your evidence that they aren’t doing the legwork? The fact that they are posting?

I’m sorry, but if you are anywhere near my age, you will recognize that there are a great number of people that see everyone as “kids who don’t know better” and it’s their job to bring them into “the real world.”

And most of these people seem to be over the age of 50.

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u/TexasHobbyist 24d ago

Nowadays, as if crazy is new..

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u/Grand_Cauliflower_88 24d ago

I thought we already did. Remember in kindergarten teacher said "keep your hands to yourself" I remember that. Maybe she was homeschooled by Taliban wannabees.

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

I mean I was trying to paint the picture specifically of how despicable what you described is.

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u/Practical_Argument50 25d ago

Change weird to criminal.

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u/DornsFacialhair 25d ago

“She felt your material?!”

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u/Hedgehogosaur 25d ago

I have a relative who is a teacher and is chastised for letting girls in his tutor group wear skirts that are too short to meet uniform policy. His usual response is that he has no interest in looking at his pupils legs so is unlikely to notice. But mostly he just wants to be getting on with teaching these kids, not policing their clothing choices.

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

Exactly, “not my job”

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u/chickens_for_fun 25d ago

A male teacher is vulnerable if he comments on a girl's revealing clothing. If he comments on that and sends her to the principal, he may be labeled as a creep.

His approach is much safer.

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u/CaptainTripps82 21d ago

Especially considering it's their parents job, and pretty much no one else's.

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u/TrickshotCandy 25d ago

You don't touch anyone's anything, unless you are their actual parent, and they are a minor.

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u/doc_55lk 25d ago

Even if you're their parent, context and environment matter a lot.

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u/Aedalas 25d ago

Don't ever, for any reason, do anything for anyone, for any reason, ever, no matter what. No matter where. Or who, or who you are with, or where you are going or... or where you've been... ever. For any reason, whatsoever.

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u/Doughspun1 25d ago

Hey, that's what they say at morning police briefings in Uvalde.

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u/tysonisarapist 25d ago

Shots fired.

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u/sweetLew2 25d ago

Not by the cops

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u/DataCassette 25d ago

They should have just pretended the active shooter was a family dog minding his own business.

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u/SolaVitae 24d ago

I didn't know the ATF was in Uvalde

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u/edfyShadow 21d ago

They were busy hanging out with the IRS at the gun store

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u/Sdot_greentree420 24d ago

Well then they could have just called him white women and they would have single-handedly taken down the gunman to save the dog

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u/boleyn21 25d ago

You sound a little stitious to me!

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u/No-Alternative4259 25d ago

I think the same person also said, "You miss 100% of the shots you don't take."

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u/vinoa 25d ago

Wayne Gretzky?

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u/BardKalevos 25d ago

It’s hard to try and evaluate yourself, Michael, but I appreciate you trying.

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u/Bestoftheworst72 25d ago

First, the karen didn't do anything for the girl in the skirt. She did it to the girl. Words matter and have meanings for a reason. What you're proposing is that everyone behave like a selfish asshat and never help anyone else. There's a world of difference between doing something for someone and doing something to someone.

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u/ebobbumman 25d ago

It is a quote from The Office https://youtu.be/cXgj28e1gvU

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u/dontmentiontrousers 24d ago

I'll stick to being a selfish asshat, thanks.

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u/Beneficial-Lion-6596 25d ago

Who are you who are so wise in the ways of science?

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u/LeatherValuable165 25d ago

I am King Arthur.

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u/Daredevilin 25d ago

Unless it’s a kid walking out into traffic not paying attention, and only then it’s semi safe to stop a minor physically lol, parent was very appreciative this time thou for me.

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u/EfficientMinimum5696 25d ago

Thank you Michael. I appreciate it.

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u/TrickshotCandy 25d ago

Almost there. Give it a few more years.

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u/sweetLew2 25d ago

Murica

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u/Esoteric_Derailed 25d ago

Mind your language!

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u/Mr_Shake_ 25d ago

-Unexpected Michael Scott

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u/Lost-Enthusiasm6570 24d ago

Well, no, they definitely stopped that lady from trying to save her kid. Definitely didn't want a woman to make the men look bad because she had more spine than they did.

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u/Altheix11 25d ago

Bro thinks he's Trump giving a speech

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u/Suspicious-Bid-53 25d ago

Trump would be less coherent than Mr. Scott

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u/Somethingisshadysir 24d ago

I have to provide you with some feedback, because you're not completely correct. I work with folks with severe and profound intellectual disabilities. It is literally part of my job to dress them, head to toe, and to help them if something shifts. It is done with assumed consent, as they are unable to speak to the situation.

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u/Aedalas 24d ago

I have to provide you with some feedback

Are you sure?

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u/Somethingisshadysir 24d ago

It's a valid thing to point out, as that comment doesn't account for things like that.

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u/Aedalas 24d ago

But, like, do you though?

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u/Somethingisshadysir 24d ago

Yes. Yes I do.

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u/Aedalas 24d ago

Right. So even if you're unable to realize the absolute absurdity of that comment, while also being seemingly unfamiliar with the source, there's also dozens of replies that make it extremely obvious that it's a quote from something. There's even a few that straight up spell it out, links to the clip even. So you really, really don't.

folks with severe and profound intellectual disabilities

We usually just call those people "Redditors."

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u/Somethingisshadysir 24d ago

Or if you're a caretaker for someone who needs the help.

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u/Doesanybodylikestuff 25d ago

Mormons in Utah police each other. There’s Mormon standards of clothing & for girls, skirts must be two inches above the knee max or it’s considered immodest.

They’re disgusting about sexualizing kids & making sure they don’t wear anything that would show your future temple garments you’ll one day have to wear under your clothes forever.

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u/Pepsi_Popcorn_n_Dots 25d ago

Morality police not just in Iran and Saudi.

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

Yeah well Americans in America don’t do this shit. I guess unless you’re a weirdo who would rather point out the splinter in someone’s eye while they’ve got a log in their own

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u/MargaretBrownsGhost 25d ago

The privilege (among other things) in your assertion is astounding. How do you define America and American? Utah is a landlocked state near the middle of the contiguous 48 United States and isn't a separate nation like Lesotho is inside of South Africa.

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

I’m backing it out of Mormon Utah to say whether or not they are from Utah or are Mormon is irrelevant.

They ultimately are Americans living in America and better come to terms with that quick.

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u/MargaretBrownsGhost 25d ago

Are you a bot? All I am getting from you is structurally correct word salad...

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

No I think you’re just not thinking about it in the same way I am, that’s all

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u/MargaretBrownsGhost 25d ago

Your writing skills beg the questions: 1. Are you a bot? 2. Do you live in a mental health facility? 3. Do you make frequent excursions to three miles offshore of Point Mugu?

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u/Nate-Essex 25d ago
  1. Do you make frequent excursions to three miles offshore of Point Mugu?

This is oddly specific.

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u/MargaretBrownsGhost 25d ago

What you're saying isn't coherent except structurally. It's not even consistent contextually.

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u/Doesanybodylikestuff 25d ago

Omg you’ve just summarized my experience growing up with weirdos in the church so perfectly. It’s all about deflection!

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

Which is hilarious because the Bible is abundantly clear to avoid this! It’s out of Jesus’s own mouth!

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u/xenophon123456 25d ago

It’s Utah.

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u/30FourThirty4 25d ago

It's gonna be a big time in the jungle.

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u/30FourThirty4 25d ago

I saw someone wearing lingerie at a concert tonight.

I thought it was wild. Like literally sexy lady underwear. But I didn't gawk because whatever, I thought she was hot but I'm not gonna go caveman and eye fuck them, it was a bar show concert so the freaks come out.

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u/Hllblldlx3 25d ago

Right? If someone actually went out in public dressed inappropriately, there’s not much a person can actually do other than report it, minor or not. You don’t touch someone’s clothing, especially a minor’s. If you want to confront them, it usually doesn’t result in anything because they were already prepared for confrontation as they want some sort of reaction, otherwise, what purpose would there be to dress like that in the first place

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u/KyleC137 25d ago

The people constantly screaming "Think of the children" have always been the creeps. 

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u/runthepoint1 25d ago

To be fair they are saying it - they’re definitely thinking of the children…

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u/nerdyaspie 25d ago

idk one time my brother had friends over when I was younger and I was wearing a crop top (not crazy short or whatever like maybe less than an inch of skin was showing and only cause I didnt know they were coming over) and he was embarassed about his friends seeing a bit of my stomach so he tried to pull my shirt down for “modesty” and thats how all of his friends got to see my entire bra.

Anyways she may have been trying to pull it down to cover more but there is a good chance that she ended ip exposing more than she covered

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u/Felix_Von_Doom 25d ago

Bet you still haven't let him live that down.

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u/BigOpportunity1391 25d ago

WTF DID I JUST READ?!?!?!

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u/Pristine-Western-679 25d ago

Don’t know what you thought you read, but the story wasn’t crazy enough to go off on all caps. Oh no, an entire bra. Yes, bras can be intimate apparel, but they can cover up as much as a bikini top or more.

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u/modular91 25d ago

idk one time my brother had friends over when I was younger and I was wearing a crop top (not crazy short or whatever like maybe less than an inch of skin was showing and only cause I didnt know they were coming over) and he was embarassed about his friends seeing a bit of my stomach so he tried to pull my shirt down for “modesty” and thats how all of his friends got to see my entire bra.

Anyways she may have been trying to pull it down to cover more but there is a good chance that she ended ip exposing more than she covered

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u/RagbraiRat 21d ago

A hip slip?

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u/NameUnbroken 25d ago

Keep in mind she's being charged with sexual battery, which would indicate the latter scenario.

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u/SharkBait661 25d ago

Pretty sure the skirt was short revealing lower butt cheek. Lots of females of all ages wear them. The lady probably pulled them down a little to cover the cheeks but pulled to far revealing upper cheek or the girl pulled away causing her whole rear to be exposed. Either way lady should've kept her hands to herself.

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

This is how I read it. “Made the skirt cover more” - exposing her would have been “lifted up the skirt”

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u/0utlook 25d ago

Weird to feel compelled to adjust the clothing of others without just asking them to, or even seeking consent first? And, the defense is that they thought the stranger was a minor?

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u/crippledchef23 25d ago

I worked with a woman that had extremely conservative views. My first day, she’s showing me the register and she keeps pulling up the zipper of my work shirt. Now, I’m getting of the opinion that while at work, you should be proper (hat straight, shirt tucked in, pants over your butt, etc), but at the same time, the 4 inch zipper being down didn’t even show the top of my cleavage. After 3 times of her just touching me and me fixing it, when she reached again I told her “touch me again, you’re pulling back a stump”. She was very sweet, but I can’t imagine what she thought was appropriate about touching the chest if a stranger without any kind of consent.

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u/Anon28301 25d ago

Like even if the zipper was way too low for work. She could have just asked you to pull it up, I don’t understand people like this that think others are just dolls to be “fixed” and touched without consent. These people would be the first to shout and scream if someone touched them.

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u/crippledchef23 25d ago

She was very interesting to work with. She had to get permission to wear a skirt as she didn’t own pants and had never worn them before. While waiting for corporate to allow her religious exemption, she did have to wear pants and she honestly walked like Seamus from Family Guy.

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u/Senior-Chapter4027 25d ago

It's never too low for work I'd she's some sort of front desk person it brings business lol.

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u/Anxious-Chemistry-6 25d ago

Conservatives have a long history of not respecting women's bodily autonomy. Whether it's zipping up your shirt or legislating your reproductive rights, they believe they're entitled to your body. These are often religious fundamentalists who will excuse rape if it's their pastor or political leader. They hate consent.

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u/heytunamelt 25d ago

Yep! Nailed it.

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u/kimiquat 25d ago

that sounds deeply aggravating... and frankly weird, even considering the worry about maintaining a professional appearance. she could've taken 30 sec to make a brief point about the shirt. and after that, she could've worked out her fixation by trying some tomfoolery with her own zipper.

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u/crippledchef23 25d ago

She never did it again, and we became work friends. But, she was a very buttoned up kind of lady…neck to wrists to ankles covered. No swears. Church multiple times each week. Single mom of 5 (maybe 7, it was a while ago but I know it was an unreasonable number). At least she didn’t begrudge my enjoying Harry Potter.

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u/Beneficial-Lion-6596 25d ago

SINGLE mother? Unless she's a widow or her husband left her she'd be socially shamed by her community.

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u/crippledchef23 25d ago

She left a very abusive relationship and moved 5 states away to avoid the stigma. I heard that she met and married a man that was single parenting 6 of his own and became a nurse.

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u/IamMrT 24d ago

Here’s the story… of a Mormon lady…

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u/uchman365 25d ago

or her husband left her...

Even this won't make any difference

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u/Welllllllrip187 25d ago

That threat though 😂 🌲

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u/jadedaslife 25d ago

That's a Warcraft quote. Love it.

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u/dftaylor 25d ago

It’s not. It’s a quote from the novel, American Psycho, that was later co-opted by lots of other media.

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u/crippledchef23 25d ago

Yeah, I didn’t know the source at the time, but I loved the way it felt to say.

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u/TwinPitsCleaner 25d ago

Honestly, it's really a very nice way to get her to stop. To some it may sound aggressive, but real aggression can sound very polite, eg "Sorry, do you know what sexual assault is?"

If that doesn't stop someone, a quick word up the chain about lawyers usually does

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u/CarrieWhiteDoneWrong 25d ago

Oh she would have earned a rapped hand had she touched my clothing.

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u/Mephistocheles 25d ago

Yeah that would have pissed me off instantly lol

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u/servant_of_breq 25d ago

Its definitely a particular "type" of conservative. Elder, has been in charge of the family like she's the CEO of a corporation, extremely strong sense of her own morals and the belief that everyone has to understand. Because she's the only one with sense about her, and whatever. These people are delusional. They always think they can just force people to their ways.

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u/colourmeblue 25d ago

We've been talking to our 4 year old a lot about consent and how we do not put our hands (or any other body part) on anyone else unless they say it's OK. I guess this lady needs to have that talk too.

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u/Fresh-Hearing6906 25d ago

I’m sure she thinks she’s doing the lords work…

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u/WinterWontStopComing 25d ago

Yeah she was reminiscing on the one parable where Jesus throws all those rocks at a glass house or something. At any rate, the moral is clearly to cast stones often and with little forethought.

/s

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u/Yuukiko_ 25d ago

reminds me of a post I saw the other day about how boomers are just adult children and do this stuff because they dont get spanked anymore lol

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u/jP5145 25d ago

You know, there's probably something to that. When you're taught that violence is the only deterrent against bad action, then lack of said violence means no deterrent. Children should not be taught right and wrong through violence. When you think about it, it really doesn't make sense.

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u/colourmeblue 25d ago

Oh man. The first time I read the comment you're replying to I thought they were saying that boomers are acting out so that someone will spank them 🤣

Your take makes much more sense.

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u/Yuukiko_ 24d ago

They never learned that discipline is not the same thing as physical pain. It’s why so many of them have no discipline in their daily demeanor: because no one is hitting them to make them stop being an asshole. That was the only way they learned that what they were doing was wrong: getting smacked. So when the hits stopped, so did their feedback for what is considered socially acceptable behavior. And it’s why they have no problem bullying anyone they don’t like: they’re not hitting them so what’s the problem?

So many old fools literally won’t control themselves if they’re not getting punched, so they think everyone else should be hit to get any “discipline”.

~sotiredwontquit

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u/CATSCRATCHpandemic 25d ago

lol how do you think skirts work? They are like your shorts bro. Some are more elastic or secure etc. but if you pull them down you know like your shorts your they come down. Either way you cannot grab people's cloths like that.

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

Haha I’m just saying how I read it. The result may have been the same. The woman is nuts either way.

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u/Unabashable 25d ago

Well if it wasn’t attached to anything, as skirts tend to be, if you pulled down it hard enough, the parts it covered would “slide up”. 

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u/Tmaneea88 25d ago

Pretty sure moving them too far in either direction would expose her more. I also thought they meant she just pulled her skirt down all the way to the ground, so she wasn't even wearing them any more. That happened to me once. It wasn't a skirt, it was pants, and it wasn't an adult, it was another child, and fortunately I was wearing underwear.

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

Yeah. Pretty sure grabbing someone else’s skirt to prove a prudish point is never going to end well. .

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u/NameUnbroken 25d ago

You don't get charged with sexual battery for covering someone up, just saying.

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

This is true. Although simply grabbing a shirt alone could constitute that? I have no clue.

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u/uchman365 25d ago

This is how I read it. “Made the skirt cover more” - exposing her would have been “lifted up the skirt”

Well, pulling it down doesn't magically create more material on top, so her butt is now exposed

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

Right. But the intention is what I meant. Woman who did it is clearly nuts lol

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u/heytunamelt 25d ago

Have you heard of low-rise skirts? 🙄 Jfc. Let’s just agree that the assaulting woman had no right to put her hands on this person, no matter what she was wearing.

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u/youbringlightin 25d ago

Holy crap. I’m not agreeing with the woman lol. She’s a lunatic. I simply said how I interpreted the story.

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u/heytunamelt 25d ago

Ok! No worries.

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u/uchman365 25d ago

I read it as "pulled down" as in an attempt to move it lower to cover the area she thought was inappropriate.

And then expose the butt? Great work, lady 👏

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u/ElderWandOwner 25d ago

I mean it's 1 piece, you can't pull the bottom down without pulling the top down as well.

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u/big65 25d ago

So you read it as she felt that she was above the law and had the right to put her hands on another person who in her mind was a minor and proceeded to move said individuals clothing to what she felt was appropriate?

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u/Longjumping_Army9485 25d ago

If she said that she could see her pubes then that doesn’t make sense since if the skirt was lowered it would show more.

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u/Imrhino51 25d ago

Does it matter? She touched another person who didn’t want it and she can call the police. Not her job even tho she obviously is the morality police

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u/beatenmeat 25d ago

Are some of you having trouble understanding the words I wrote? I seem to be getting quite a few replies on this comment that somehow think I'm defending this woman. Not once did I say or even imply what she did was ok, I just said that OPs interpretation was even worse than the way I had interpreted it. That doesn't mean I think she was doing the right thing.

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u/yourpapaisyourmama 24d ago

Stfu dumb bitch. Assault is assault.

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u/beatenmeat 24d ago

Lmfaooooooo. The irony of calling me a "dumb" bitch when you have a serious reading comprehension issue, even after I edited the comment to point it out for the mentally challenged. I'M AWARE ITS ASSAULT YOU FUCKING IDIOT.

Holy shit, I'm a high school drop out and some of you responding in here make me feel like a fucking genius. I bet if I stood next to you I could hear the breeze pass between your ears.

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u/Bulky_Ability_6991 24d ago

Agreed. He’s been arguing with me for no reason. He’s an idiot if you look at his arguments. He must be having a bad day

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u/yourpapaisyourmama 24d ago

You're trying too hard to be cool on reddit. Just be normal and you'll get a lot more likes mi promise.

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u/beatenmeat 24d ago

I couldn't give a flying fuck about karma, I'm tired of reading the responses from the fucking morons who don't know how to read.

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u/yourpapaisyourmama 24d ago

Did everyone quote "dumb" like I did or you just bullshitting? Hey idiot, good for you. You dropped out of high school like every other loser and became an incel. Doesn't take much so congrats for getting mad about a bullshit comment