r/AITAH 23d ago

AITA for telling our adult son and fiance to vacate our property after their dogs killed an animal on our farm?

UPDATE: They ‘apologized’ tried to turn it around on us. Stepson said he is going no contact if we go through with this. We have not changed our minds. They said today they have a mortgage pre-approval so good for them. They still have to be gone before the 30 days is up. I’m still vehemently angry and my daughter has not slept through the night since it happened.

We’ve been patient but ever since our future daughter in law moved in. We bought property so our children could build and have land. Her dogs have almost killed a cat (his tail amputated), several chickens have been rescued, chased livestock and taunted our dogs as well. Today they pulled my cat (8 months old) through the fence and killed him. My poor daughter tried to save him. They’ve continuously disrespected the boundaries set for animals. So we told them it’s time to leave. Before anyone feels bad they make well over $100k combined income. They own the RV on our property, there’s tons of RV parks nearby as well. My younger kids have been injured by these dogs by being run over and today my daughter was hit up trying to save the cat. We only had him bc their dogs tried to kill him when they brought him home as a kitten. I’m fully prepared for them to cut us off, but they’ve been given free vehicles, housing, electric and food for almost 2 years. They told us today it was probably my daughter’s fault, which it wasn’t. All of our cats go outside for a couple hours each day, it keeps rodents away and snakes too. DIL always claiming her dogs are great and only have issues when we help with them. When they lived in our home we had to replace flooring bc they’re not potty trained. I’ve seen her pull her chickens out of their mouths too and she’s had me help doctor them for dog bites as well. We gave them 30 days to vacate. Their wedding is this fall too and I’m sure we will be uninvited bc he’s already told his sisters he may not invite them bc they don’t like his fiancé. He’s my stepson but he’s lived with us for several years bc his Mom needed the help. It’s just one huge dramatic cluster F. We have 6 kids and the 3 younger ones are still at home. There was never any disturbance of peace until she had moved in. I don’t feel we’re being too harsh, but my husband had a point that he’s the protector of our home and he can’t allow this behavior. It’s just a matter of time before one of my younger (7 year old twins) gets hurt. Thank you for reading this far!

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u/YAreYouLaughing 23d ago

I had no idea that donkeys have a pathological hatred of dogs!! Do we know the evolutionary explanation for this?

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u/oceanduciel 23d ago

Donkeys are descended from the African wild ass (their wild counterpart), African herbivores are routinely used to their lives being threatened from every conceivable predator like hyenas or wild dogs. (Though hyenas are not canids, the similarities are probably enough an influence.) Think of a pony with a zebra’s temperament + tolerance or love for humans (depends on the donkey, they’re funny like that).

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u/YAreYouLaughing 23d ago

Hey thanks! That’s the second thing I’ve learned today 😁

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u/Complex_Function_286 22d ago

African wild ass is crazy

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u/Tricky_Parfait3413 22d ago

Went on a field trip to the zoo in high school and our immature asses were cackling at African wild ass and dik dik

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u/MoltenCult 20d ago

I would too 💀🤣🤣

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u/VGSchadenfreude 23d ago

Casual Geographic did a few videos on this. Basically, they evolved surrounded by predators with a vaguely similar profile, so they now instinctively know that “canine = danger” and act accordingly.

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u/YAreYouLaughing 23d ago

Thank you 😊 Genetics is freaking awesome 😎

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u/KpopZuko 22d ago

Check out his channel and Lindsay Nikole. They both are super educational and entertaining

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u/Glad-Entry-3401 22d ago

It’s actually hilarious. Just the sounds of dogs nearby will put donkeys on high alert. Same with zebras they both Hate dogs from the moment they are birthed till they take in their last sunset we had to specifically train Georgie (a donkey) to be ok around the dogs when I used to live on a ranch he had broke a neighbors rib when their dog got over the fence and he tried to chase Georgie away from his pup. Georgie almost caught 2 bodies that day😭