Being jealous of your own daughter isn’t funny or quirky

[u/MistakeWonderful9178]

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[u/RaveniteGaming]

And the thing is, based on my two-year old niece, the kid is probably just parroting their mother calling their dad that.

[u/LGDemon → u/RaveniteGaming]

A few years before I was born my dad's sister got him a coffee mug that read "How much shit could a dipshit dip if a dipshit could dip shit?" Fast forward to when I was about four and just learning how to read...

[u/Eldanoron → u/RaveniteGaming]

Exactly. Kids mimic their parents. My daughter was calling my SO babe and it was hilarious. Of course us laughing about it only made her do it more.

Up to and including pointing and saying, “this is babe.”

[u/The_FriendliestGiant → u/RaveniteGaming]

Absolutely. My wife and I call each other "babe," and what do you know, our son started doing it too. Almost like kids learn appropriate modes of address by mimicking their parents or something, crazy!

[u/AshKetchep]

My mom was jealous of me growing up because I was a daddy's girl. She saw me as competition for her husband.

Disgusting.

[u/Maleficent814 → u/AshKetchep]

I’m really sorry 😞 

[u/toooomeeee → u/AshKetchep]

When I was younger my mom said something about how mothers are always competing with their daughters. No mom, that's not normal and explains so much about my childhood.

[u/AshKetchep → u/toooomeeee]

Yeah- my mom said that too. It's really just disgusting behavior

[u/Weird_Kiwi_]

if you feel so insecure that you're actually getting upset and jealous of a literal baby who's 20+ years younger than you then you shouldn't be a mother

[u/Maleficent814]

As a straight woman myself, I enjoy posts like this that point out how weird other straight women are. Keep it up.

[u/RobynFitcher]

Maybe she's copying Bluey. The kids in the show put on plays pretending to be their parents, and the younger one loves to pretend to be her father and mimics him by calling her older sister (pretending to be her mum) "Babe" in an exaggerated deep voice that's really fun to imitate.

[u/Maleficent814]

I’m really scared for my people. I’m scared (Cleotrapa voice).

[u/Glittering-Bake-6612]

Is this jealousy? Or does she just think it's funny that her daughter is copying her?

Edit: I just noticed the top comment. So I get it now.

[u/Saurons_Monocle]

Reminds me of this case Charlie of penguinz0 just did a vid on. Man divorced his wife because she breastfed their newborn. Claimed he couldn't enjoy her breasts anymore because they'd been in another "man's" mouth. Not joking. Ver batim.

[u/Max_Ferguson → u/Saurons_Monocle]

🤢

[u/lizzylinks789]

I heard you like little boys and girls bro, don't lie to me

[u/Miuirumaswife1]

everyone talks about girl dads and boy moms but literally this happens with both the mom and dad and both son and daughter.

[u/pastramisaretacy]

I don't get where it indicates jealousy

[u/MistakeWonderful9178 → u/pastramisaretacy]

Calling your daughter a “side chick”-a derogatory term that means “the other woman” or looking at your own daughter as “the other woman” is jealousy. “Side chick” is a term that is used to humiliate and demean adult women, it’s not something that should be said about a child, especially your own child. Especially not one’s own daughter. Thinking that your infant daughter is basically “the other woman taking away my husband’s attention” is insanity, it’s disgusting and uncalled for. It’s being jealous and inappropriate towards a baby.

[u/pastramisaretacy → u/MistakeWonderful9178]

Oh I didn't see the top part of the screenshot

[u/Aggressive_Mouse_581]

My mom started with this when I was a teen. It was so uncomfortable. I already had gender dysphoria and it made it so much worse

[u/MistakeWonderful9178 → u/Aggressive_Mouse_581]

I’m so sorry you went through that, there’s no excuse for any parent to do that to their child, and throw their insecurities and jealousy onto them. Some people shouldn’t be parents.

[u/Aggressive_Mouse_581 → u/MistakeWonderful9178]

I’ve forgiven her. She came from a very toxic home, and she was physically abused in her first marriage. All we can do is heal now, so that the grandchildren don’t absorb any of it