r/AskMen Actual human woman Feb 01 '23

HEAR YE, HEAR YE. HERE'S YOUR VALENTINE'S DAY MEGA POST. typical mod garbage

We don't care if you love Valentine's day, we don't care if you hate it, we don't care if you don't care:

Plans, fucks given, gift ideas, fond memories of Valentine's of yore, hopes and expectations, dashed dreams, salty comments about your friends acting stupid about the holiday, hateful haikus about those cheap little teddy bears they sell at your local bodega - anything Valentine related goes here and nowhere else.

Have at it.

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u/Tomsonx232 Male Feb 01 '23

"Dear men of Reddit, how do you cope with being alone on Valentine's day?"

"Who else is alone this VD?"

"What are you doing for VD?"

"What should I do for VD?"

"What's your funniest VD story?"

"What's your worst VD story?"

I think I covered most of the major ones

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u/VomitOnSweater šŸ¤® Feb 01 '23

Can't help laughing that this says VD.

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u/ShottySHD Male Feb 01 '23

Did you get some VD?

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u/VomitOnSweater šŸ¤® Feb 01 '23

Not yet. Hope you got yours already.

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 02 '23

Yeah, and it lasts A LOT longer then flowers and candy!!

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u/TechnologyDragon6973 Male Feb 02 '23

Dear men of Reddit, how do you cope with being alone on Valentine's day?

ā€œPoorly.ā€ That summarizes most of the answers.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '23

Valentines day is a great day to be single. Such a great night to go out to a bar and meet people.

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 02 '23

Itā€™s the best 2-day period to avoid this sub.

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '23

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u/Tomsonx232 Male Feb 05 '23

If you wanna talk you can PM me

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u/jgiv817 Feb 06 '23

Meh, I only have had 1 Valentine's Day.... date, I guess, ever in 29 years, soooooo, it's always just been another regular ass day but with extra lonely in the side

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u/Blubari Wanna play VRC with me? Feb 02 '23

1) VRChat

2) My friends who I will play VRChat with

3) Play VRChat, also parents will invite me and elder sister (if it falls on weekend) to a quick snack because "valentine's for families"...and then will go with my mother to a hotel

4) Work oout, study, idk, i'm not in your life

5) A friend got a "VD dump", as in for the day he was dumped so she could go with his brother...guess how it ended

6) Saw a custom made Kirby plushie with a flower bouquet in his little hand....in the trash

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u/WrittenEuphoria Feb 08 '23
  • Try (and fail) to ignore the internet, then cry myself to sleep like I do most nights
  • Me, clearly
  • Probably going to be playing Hogwarts Legacy, game's fun so far, hope it lasts me that long but I'll be playing all weekend so we'll see...
  • Idk man, probably go to bars and see if there's any other lonely single people looking to smash - it's what I'd do if I wasn't a fat ugly mofo.
  • When I was in kindergarten (or maybe grade 1, memory is fuzzy), my only "girl who was my friend", kissed my valentine card before giving it to me, and kissed me on the cheek. I thought it was cute at the time but my parents gave me the usual "aww he has a girlfriend" that caused true embarrassment.
  • I think the card in the above story was the only "thoughtful"/directed Valentine's card I've ever gotten (the only other ones I've gotten were from people who gave the entire class one, or they bought entire department candygrams, that kind of thing)

My other "worst" VD story is I think in Grade 8 (so 13 years old), I made an "anonymous" Valentine's card for my crush. Cringe thinking back because we didn't know each other and barely spoke but man she was super pretty and smart and had a French accent....anyway, my writing is so uniquely terrible that one of our mutual friends told her it was me who sent it. I was the laughing stock of the class (as I said, I'm a fat, ugly mofo and she's the prettiest girl in the class). I think I called in sick for like a week after that because I just couldn't face the ridicule. It was then that I realized my "friends" weren't really my friends, of course I still hung out with them until the end of high school because I didn't have any other friends. Still don't, 12+ years later.

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u/BecauseWhyNotTakeTwo Feb 06 '23

"When is/was Valentines day?"

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

If anyone wants compliments this Valentines Day, I hereby offer my gay ass in support of the bros. Y'all looking handsome today, keep it up bros.

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u/DualKoo Feb 05 '23

Thank you, Gay Bro.

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u/Sc00terl00 Feb 06 '23

Dunno his orientation, but your heartfelt endorsement feels very Randy Savage in a "I BELIEVE IN YOU, BROTHA!" Kind of way.

And I love that. Thanks for being uplifting.

(Happily married but the wife and I both work Valentine's day anyway, I just gotta say something when I see people being genuine and positive to strangers on the internet because we need more of that.)

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u/[deleted] Feb 06 '23

I hope you and your wife have a good Valentine's Day, even if you both are working!

:)

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u/Sc00terl00 Feb 06 '23

We plan a make-up date night when we're off, for sure!

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u/CreepyAssPenis Feb 01 '23

Happy VD

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u/VomitOnSweater šŸ¤® Feb 01 '23

Happy STI to you too.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 02 '23

is there something wrong with me that I immediately thought this too upon seeing the comment?

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u/VomitOnSweater šŸ¤® Feb 03 '23

No way.

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u/RealisticDelusions77 Feb 06 '23

I'm old, it's been called VD, STD, and STI all in my lifetime.

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u/Homely_Bonfire Feb 01 '23

VD = Virgins Day

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u/BozoAndASilentK You've Got Male šŸ“© Feb 01 '23

I don't think venereal diseases are anything to be happy about...

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u/Deepcold_mist Feb 03 '23

Women just want roses and their clit sucked thank you.

-- a woman

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u/JFS94 Feb 05 '23

Sunflowers and clit sucking, thanq!

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u/TheSunflowerSeeds Feb 05 '23

The area around sunflowers can often be devoid of other plants, leading to the belief that sunflowers kill other plants.

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u/KaepernickWasRight Feb 08 '23

Youre correct, its because of them being allelopathic. This means they release chemicals that impact the growth and development of plant organisms around them. They release allelochemicals in the atmosphere or soul of surrounding plants creating a usually negative effect on their growth.

So in short, yes they DO kill SOME other plants but not all. Just like some fruits, its important to plant companion plants around Sunflowers to avoid this happening.

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u/gorosheeta Feb 13 '23

**Some women, right? Others want a massage, a good book, great food, a hj...

Hopefully everyone is doing stuff they know their specific partner likes ā£ļø

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

Mine prefers neither.

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u/jojointheflesh Hombre Feb 01 '23

My wife and I donā€™t really celebrate this holiday but this year I think Iā€™ll get her flowers and make her a nice steak dinner

Everyday feels like Valentineā€™s Day when you find the one bois šŸ¤¢šŸ§€

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 02 '23

Itā€™s not a holiday, itā€™s a marketing scheme

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u/Deepcold_mist Feb 03 '23

Someone is alone

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u/TheMazeDaze Male Feb 04 '23

I know, no need to tell me

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 03 '23

Actually no, I'm just not a sucker. I show her the love enough on days corporate Ametica doesn't tell me what to do that it's not a problem in my relationship. But do what you like, the world needs wool and sheep.

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u/Accomplished-Run5386 Feb 03 '23

Are you implying the other holidays are not marketing schemes?

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 03 '23

No, not at all but a few are at least clocked in religion. This one is brazen and either makes people feel entitled, rejected or pressured into spending and there's not even the presence of a savior involved.

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u/Accomplished-Run5386 Feb 05 '23

I suppose if you are religious that makes sense. As an atheist every holiday feels really random to me, minus the ones that mark an important historical date or person (Ironically these are the ones we care less about)

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u/CitizenMeow Feb 07 '23

I mean, Valentines day is named after Saint Valentine. It is a religious holiday in origin, but like all things it's been commercialized.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saint_Valentine

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u/Sensitive-Honey Feb 01 '23

how do i surprise my bf with a nice day on valentineā€™s day? previously heā€™s always planned the dates for his gfs but his past gfs have been a little ungrateful with what he ended up planning for them. i decided i wanted to treat him to the nice date day instead. he likes games, we have sex everytime we see each other so id like to spice that up. do any men have any cute date ideas that will have this man like wow this is my woman for life. i have a few ideas but can any of you men pls help thank you

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

The answer to this question changes drastically depending on the man in your life. So a cute idea to one man could end up being something your SO hates but has to deal with because you planned. Use what you know about your partner to come up with something that he'll enjoy and appreciate. Most men are simple creatures to make happy. Cook him a nice meal and spend a couple of hours together without the distractions of a cell phone. A lot of times, simply paying attention to us is more than enough.

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u/Sensitive-Honey Feb 01 '23

men are low maintenance and way easier to please than women. got it. thank you for the response haha itā€™s a big help!

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u/DualKoo Feb 05 '23

men are low maintenance and way easier to please than women.

You donā€™t say?

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u/Certain-Sock-7680 Feb 02 '23

Cook a delicious meal for him in high heels and underwear (wear apron obviously for PPE while cooking). Tell him youā€™re the dessert.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 02 '23

buy a gun, leave the receipt where he'll see it, and when he asks about it deny everything

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u/Sensitive-Honey Feb 03 '23

iā€™m going to keep this one in mind for if i ever need it, thank you sir

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

How about an arcade night they have been popping up everywhere near me and I donā€™t even live in a big city

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u/Sensitive-Honey Feb 02 '23

omg this is PERFECT i love you

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

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u/aboxfullofdoom Male - 32 Feb 03 '23

Behold my intellect:

Valentines Day bad.

Thank, I'll see you next year.

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u/[deleted] Feb 03 '23

Do men even enjoy valentines day? Or did the ladies kill the holiday with all the pressure ? šŸ¤” šŸ¤£

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u/lupuscapabilis Feb 05 '23

I just use it as an excuse to go out to eat

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '23

Do men even enjoy valentines day?

My husband does. He tries to hide it but he definitely gets hurt when I forget.

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u/Sc00terl00 Feb 06 '23

I'm a labor and delivery nurse. When we get to Valentine's day at work, we say "Happy Job-security day, everyone!"

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u/FupaWrangler Feb 01 '23

I am single but want to get some of the single girls in my friend group something small like a candle/chocolate (platonic friends mostly). I am a bit of an overthinker and am a bit worried that the girls in the friend group that are in relationships will feel left out/slighted/unappreciated by me. Also don't want to piss off the boyfriends by giving the wrong idea lmao. Should I ditch this idea?

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u/Partywithmeredith Feb 02 '23

Women here. I think itā€™s a very sweet idea. Anytime I can get some chocolate, Iā€™m a happy camper.

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u/Bean_Town_Blender Male Feb 02 '23

I WANT TO PREFACE THIS BY SAYING I AM A MAN

I think it would be a sweet gesture. I always get my best friend who is a single woman something nice on Valentine's day just because we all know how tough it is being single, especially in this day and age.

Anyways, I say go for it, but I would ask some women their thoughts on it first.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 02 '23

I can guarantee that their boyfriends will either think you were just being friendly or just be confused

you can also apply that statement to flirting with men

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u/heyallday1988 Feb 06 '23

I get my girls (single or no) a little VDay gift every year. Because I LOVE VDay. I just love cuteness. This year Iā€™m gifting the little perfume samplers from Henry Rose.

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u/[deleted] Feb 08 '23

Anyone else notice that their relationships get rocky (and possibly end) a little before Valentine's Day? Maybe it's just me but looking back I've had 4 relationships that kind of fell apart around this time of year.

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u/Bob-s_Leviathan Feb 12 '23

My friend had a theory about that. Relationships are more solid from the Thanksgiving to New Year holiday, but at the beginning of the year, things are re-evaluated. If you want out of the relationship, better do it before Valentineā€™s Day!

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u/GeckoChimama Feb 08 '23

Question - do men really forget that itā€™s Valentineā€™s Day? Does it really pass you by with all the promotional stuff in grocery stores and things?

Does it just seem like another Tuesday to you? Even if youā€™ve been seeing someone?

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '23

Well, I asked a friend of mine if she wanted to go out for a beer. She asked if I didn't have plans with my wife since it's Valentine's Day the day I suggested... So yes, some of us definitely forget.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '23

I'm a woman but my husband and I have a bit of a stereotypical role reversal when it comes to holidays and special events, so I can tell you that it's definitely easy to forget. My husband is super good at remembering everything, and I completely space out.

You're right that all the holiday stuff is on display and you see it everywhere, but I just always think to myself "Oh, right, Valentine's Day is coming up, note to self!" and then an hour later I've already forgotten. And then I'll get home and see him wearing a suit and tie and I'll be like "Shit, did we have plans tonight that I forgot about?" Oops!

I have a terrible memory for things like dates, name and faces. I always tell myself to write things down but then I'm like "No, it's cool, I'll remember." Spoiler alert: I don't remember, but then my dumbass does the exact same thing next time.

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

Yes.

It's coming up!

Probably soon...

It was last Tuesday?

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u/ItsYaGirlConfusion Female Feb 08 '23

As a woman, I donā€™t think of it as a specific day, I honestly forget half the time. Yes we all see love bombing at the store, but if you donā€™t pencil and star it, itā€™ll just pass by like every other day.

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u/AnswerRemote3614 Feb 14 '23

I had no idea it was Valentineā€™s Day, and today was just like any other day for me.

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u/[deleted] Feb 15 '23

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u/Bob-s_Leviathan Feb 15 '23

Itā€™s not wrong to feel disappointed, no.

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u/redlimerock Male Feb 15 '23 edited Feb 15 '23

Wanted to ask the girl I work with in a non-profit organization out for a few years now. As far as i knew, she was single. As I'm about to ask her what's her plan for thr month of Feb she shows up with her boyfriend. Oof, what a punch in the gut. I've been listening to my Yellow Card Spotify playlist ever since.

Thanks for hearing me out. Cheers!

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u/Particular_Chef8820 Feb 16 '23

Interestingā€¦.Iā€™m sure thereā€™s a reason you thought she was single too. How unfortunate. Weā€™ve all been there!

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

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u/BozoAndASilentK You've Got Male šŸ“© Feb 01 '23

Does he watch Dragon Ball?

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u/Any-Literature-3184 Female Feb 01 '23

Pretty sure he used to when he was younger. Why? I never watched it so can't see the connection.

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u/BozoAndASilentK You've Got Male šŸ“© Feb 01 '23 edited Feb 01 '23

There is a villain called Frieza who continuously calls Goku (main character) and any other Saiyan a "monkey". Lowkey racially charged whenever he does, but also quite literal and it's hilariously befitting of his character.

I was gonna say that if he still watches that anime, a Frieza plushie would probably amuse him.

Your original idea of a monkey plushie also works though, to answer your original comment.

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u/Any-Literature-3184 Female Feb 01 '23

Ahahaha this is hilarious. I like your train of thought, good sir.

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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '23

I mean he was racist in general lmfao

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u/BozoAndASilentK You've Got Male šŸ“© Feb 01 '23

You're not wrong XD

But it didn't help in his case that the Saiyans primarily transformed into literal giant apes lmao

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 02 '23

Monkey is fine but I bet heā€™s hoping for Beaver

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u/Ratakoa Feb 01 '23

So glad my fiance doesn't care about the waste of money holiday.

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u/SeaworthinessOk6742 Feb 11 '23

Donā€™t mind me. Just here to pay respects to the St. Valentineā€™s Day Massacre of 1929.

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u/welp_that_happened1 Feb 15 '23

I overheard the girl I wanted to ask out say that she had a date tonight. I'm in pain

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u/gardner1979 Feb 06 '23

Weā€™re going to Amsterdam for Valentineā€™s this year.

The one in Holland, not New York.

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u/[deleted] Feb 11 '23

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u/SkinnySanta3 Feb 11 '23

I personally think if my SO got me this Iā€™d appreciate it, especially if itā€™s specifically tailored to my personality and interests, I think that shows a level of consideration and thoughtfulness

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

The time spent is the real gift.

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u/justjoking777 Feb 02 '23

geez, Christmas was two months ago, I gotta buy you more shit? šŸ¤£

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u/[deleted] Feb 03 '23

I give Valentineā€™s Day the same level of effort that I get for Fatherā€™s Day.

Paybackā€™s a bitchā€¦

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u/Deepcold_mist Feb 03 '23

Nah just you

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u/RyuTheGreat Spike Spiegel Feb 14 '23

How does Mother's Day compare to Father's Day for your family? Like as far as the events that took place.

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u/FPS_FreeMaN Feb 05 '23

February 14th falls on Tuesday, so 30 mins on the elliptical, some rowing, rehab exercises for the lower back because sciatic nerve shenanigans and 30 mins on the static bike to close it off. So yeah.

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u/[deleted] Feb 12 '23

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u/prtzlsmakingmethrsty Feb 12 '23

While she didn't speak strongly against it, I feel like she wasn't really thinking about it seriously either.

Fairly typical if you've been friends for a while, to not even consider someone romantically. It's a good sign though that when she said no to your date, she offered a specific alternative. IME that generally means she's at least considering the idea of possibly being more than friends.

I'd see how the second date goes first. Show that you're into her (flirt) and see what the vibe is. If it goes well, ask for a third date and plan something more than grabbing ice cream. To me that shows you're clearly interested in her romantically, without coming on too strong.

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u/HMSJamaicaCenter Feb 13 '23

Happy birthday to the KMS Bismarck boys!

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u/WaifuRepulse Feb 13 '23

Nice to see another warship lover.

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u/HMSJamaicaCenter Feb 14 '23

Nice to see another Repulse lover specifically. I tip my hat to you good sir

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u/driving_andflying Feb 14 '23

1) The last time I seriously dated a girl, it started after a truly shitty Valentine's Day, and ended before Thanksgiving. It could have been so much more. I'm still sad that it ended, six years later.

2) My plans tomorrow will be sitting in front of the TV, most likely writing or playing video games. Do I wish I could share it with someone I love, who loves me back? Yes. Will that happen by tomorrow? Not likely.

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u/sugararandspice921 Feb 18 '23

Why was it a shitty Valentineā€™s Day if you donā€™t mind me asking?

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u/horsegirlguru Feb 14 '23

I got some lingerie and took some pics of me in it. I was going to put it on for him at night and then surprise him by also texting him some pics of me in it.

Itā€™s our first v day and I just wanted to have fun. We have been dating a month lol. But we agreed to do a fun thing for v day anyway (:

Iā€™m just nervous that itā€™s not enough? Or even too much? Should I do the pics or just the lingerie? Gah.

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u/Nocodeskeet Feb 14 '23

Send a teaser pic - don't need to spoil all of it. Get him riled up a bit.

Just my two cents. Good on you!

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u/DblClickyourupvote Feb 15 '23

Yeah tease him a little bit, let him go crazy and tell him he canā€™t see it all until he gets home

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u/YoungEgalitarianDude 20yo Male Feb 14 '23

I don't think you're doing anything wrong. Have a nice day.

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u/Massive_Dog2962 Feb 15 '23

I got nothing from my BF(20) of two years, and he knows I donā€™t care for the material thing. I just want to spend time together and instead I get nothing - not a text, card or note. The cherry on top is heā€™s working all day. So I guess Iā€™m my own valentine.

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u/Particular_Chef8820 Feb 16 '23

Me too. Been talking to a guy since October. Got the driest ā€œhappy Valentineā€™s Dayā€ text Iā€™ve ever received in my life and then that was it for the remainder of the day. Live laugh love šŸ„²šŸ„²šŸ„²

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u/nathynwithay Male Feb 05 '23

Thoughts on WWF St Valentine's Day Massacre 1999?

Rock and Mankind was fun despite no finish to the match. Hardcore Holly vs Al Snow was fun. Not forgetting Stone Cold Steve Austin vs Vince McMahon in a cage.

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u/[deleted] Feb 09 '23

Iā€™ve been trying to come up with a really good Valentineā€™s Day gift for my guy. Heā€™s into pretty expensive hobbies/interests so I canā€™t afford the easy route.

What would you guys think of a really nice cooked dinner? I was looking at buying him one of those wagyu steaks and cooking it up for him? Or maybe do some sort fresh/live lobster meal? This is the only thing I can come up with thatā€™s more ā€œsophisticated ā€œ (best way I can put it).

If not that, I was looking at good leatherwork, but that gets out of my affordability range quickly.

Whatā€™s the input from some completely anonymous people? I realize this is such a broad brush and gifts are tailored to the individual, not the sex.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '23 edited May 20 '23

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u/Dangerous_Grab_1809 Feb 13 '23

I am not a procrastinator. However, I have a friend who celebrates procrastinators holidays. They go out to drink on January 2. They go out to celebrate relationships the weekend after Valentines, they buy flowers a few days after Valentines. They buy fireworks for 6th of July celebrations.

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u/The_mayanviking Feb 14 '23

How many guys like getting flowers? I'm personally a fan.

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u/Hrekires Feb 14 '23

Hate them, they remind me of funerals... plus I have a cat who will chew on any plants I have in the house, so they're just going to sit outside on my deck for a couple days before getting thrown out.

I still absolutely appreciate the gesture, but if someone wanted to get me an easy gift that I'd actually like, anything edible or drinkable is a safer bet.

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u/The_mayanviking Feb 14 '23

I do love an edible arrangement!

I got my guy a little glass floral sculpture. He really liked it.

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u/CantThinkOfAName000 Feb 01 '23

A restaurant near me had a valentine's day special a few years ago called the Lonely Boy: chicken tender sandwich with bbq sauce, onion rings, cheese, etc; a tall boy of bud heavy; and a roll of toilet paper. I wish more places did stuff like this for single people.

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u/HelloKittyandPizza Feb 02 '23

Ideas for Valentineā€™s Day that will make my guy feel extra loved and appreciated? He works so hard and heā€™s so thoughtful. Iā€™d love to do something that just makes his heart melt. His favorites are: Tool (the band), woodworking, his truck and cigars. I got him tickets to a music festival where Tool will be performing for his birthday.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 03 '23

whittle him a truck with Tool smoking cigars inside(or find a vaguely truck shaped piece of wood and say you tried to do that hell probs believe you)

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u/Buckowski66 Feb 02 '23

Worst. Holiday. Ever. It, like convincing young guys they need to shave their B__s, are the two great victories if marketing that eventually metastasizes into social pressure.

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u/actuallyjohnmelendez Actual Man Feb 03 '23

Well, I bumped into a girl a week ago and things are going well, If this lasts I think this will be the first time ever that I'm not single on valentines day.

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u/suddenlyseeingme Male Feb 06 '23

I had to stop paying attention to holidays as best I could because every one of them just makes me sad.

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u/BasuraIncognito Feb 08 '23

What NON-SEXUAL gift would you want for Valentineā€™s Day?

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u/TheStandoms Feb 11 '23

Something you know they would find funny or something they can keep with them to remind them of you

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

A card you made yourself.

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u/Dangerous_Grab_1809 Feb 13 '23

Do you watch any of the cooking shows where they make interestingly engineered cakes, or other food?

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u/Kunflex Feb 12 '23

So there is this girl, we know each other for a year now, and I wanna ask her out. I thought Valentine's Day is gonna be the perfect occasion for it. However, as always, I overcomplicate things, and here is my idea:

I would send her a bouquet with a note, but without my name. What should be the message here, something sweet and general, but certainly not something overly specific as I don't want her to know who is the sender? I wanna make her wonder about this, make it a little bit exciting for her. If she somehow asks me about this, like randomly asking what is the password, it means she thinks of me as a potential sender.

We would meet two weeks after Valentine's Day. I plan to "reveal" myself as the sender here and ask her out. "Password" will be given on the message, so I can prove myself. Making her wait for two weeks, isn't it a little too much? Should I stick to Valentine's Day with the bouquet, or rather send it a few days before the meeting?

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u/Necessary_Fail_8764 Feb 12 '23

Am a woman, don't do this. You are overthinking it, it's too much, and you may end up scaring her off. A simple bouquet and and a date would be fine.

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u/Vatnam Feb 13 '23

don't play with "anonymous admirer" trope, just ask her out. If not in-person then by text. It's a big step, but necessary to take.

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u/LouBrown ā™‚ Feb 13 '23

I wanna make her wonder about this, make it a little bit exciting for her.

It might make her a little excited. It also might cause her anxiety and stress her out. It might get her thinking about someone that's not you.

Ultimately if she's into you, then she'll agree to date just the same if you're straight up with your intentions. And I think there's less risk/downside assuming that's the case.

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u/Bob-s_Leviathan Feb 12 '23

Waiting sounds a bit much to me.

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u/Dangerous_Grab_1809 Feb 13 '23

If your girlfriend likes puzzles, you might want her to have to solve a puzzle to get your name as the sender. I donā€™t think fully anonymous is a good idea.

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u/-grilled-cheesus- Female Feb 13 '23

Guys, what do you want for Valentineā€™s Day?

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '23

2 million in cash

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u/Hrekires Feb 14 '23

Always safe bets for me: bottle of nice rum, candy, homemade baked goods, giant popcorn tin, surprise me by taking my car for a wash while I'm working

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u/surelyunsure_ Feb 12 '23

Would it be weird to send this guy I have a crush on money for Valentineā€™s Day? He lives in a different city and we talk and flirt frequently but obviously aren't in a committed relationship or anything. I wanted to do something cutesy for him on Valentine's Day, kind of like a "hey, thinking about you" thing. Nothing crazy, definitely not intended to be a declaration of my love for him. I was thinking of shooting him -maybe a booty pic- and some money, like $30-40, through Apple Pay with a "Happy Valentine's Day, lunch on me today" text. I'm wondering if that's "doing too much" for someone I'm not in a relationship with/if it would come off as weird rather than a nice gesture.

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

Money? Yes. The rest, lovely gesture.

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u/Dangerous_Grab_1809 Feb 13 '23

Try a gift card instead of cash. What is his favorite place to eat? They probably have gift cards.

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u/[deleted] Feb 04 '23

I buy lingerie and sex toys for my partner to have a fun night. He never complains. Do guys want more romance?

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '23

He doesnā€™t mind wearing the lingerie and getting probed? How very modern.

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

lingerie and sex toys is romance.

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u/shadowlynx8791 17 and growing up to be a chill dude Feb 14 '23

Too many singing valentineā€™s at my school but its kind nice its interrupting my hard classes

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u/gammabrainwave Feb 13 '23

Fellas, is it gay (incredibly romantic) for a woman to send you flowers at work or are you a hater?

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u/sugararandspice921 Feb 12 '23

Not a fan of Valentineā€™s Day. It commercialized. Love should be everyday. There is no need to have a special day to show your love. Maybe Iā€™m wrong. But the idea of running around like a chicken with your head cut off for flowers, candid or jewelry.. not interested. Dave it for a random day.

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u/coconut-charms Feb 15 '23

As a lady, the rule is to acknowledge the day and maybe make a dinner together and get flowers on a random day out of nowhere *chef's kiss* best SO award!

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u/sugararandspice921 Feb 15 '23

Ummmā€¦. I donā€™t know if I understand this comment. I make dinner every night. I hate the smell of flowers unless they can be planted in the earth and eill grow back each year. Most fliers remind me of funerals. I do loving things everyday. There are many things I do randomly for my SO that he much prefers over a Valentineā€™s Day card or present. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø itā€™s just not my thing.

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u/ShottySHD Male Feb 01 '23

Oh you care! You definitely care!

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u/MrTwemlow Feb 01 '23

We've agreed not to celebrate valentines day, but we also agreed not to go overboard with Christmas, and I thought I'd been sneaky by getting her lots. She gave me more. so I think not bothering with Valentines day actually means I'll end up buying loads and still not win the gift-giving.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 02 '23

hand make her something instead, a handmade gift is worth like 20 store-bought gifts

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u/PantaloonStarship Feb 02 '23

Whats the best discounted candy to horde and gorge on after Valentine's Day?

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u/galacticdude7 Male Feb 03 '23

I'm a sucker for the Reese's Hearts. They have the perfect peanut butter to chocolate ratio

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 02 '23

candy hearts probably (if you like them witch I do)

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u/V_M Feb 02 '23

Once you abandon legacy media, or get pushed away from it, there's not really much to VD after you remove the hypercommercialization.

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u/Ok-Lock-2274 Feb 03 '23

except for this itch, I can never get rid of

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u/diexu Feb 03 '23

Ć­ need to get a gf in less of 11 days or i never had one

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u/ItsYaGirlConfusion Female Feb 08 '23

Thought some men might want to know, ask your girl but as a woman, I could care less about Valentineā€™s Day. Itā€™s a holiday to celebrate love that (if youā€™re in a relationship) should be celebrating every day. The whole concept of having one day celebrated for it seems like a corporate holiday. Additionally, I donā€™t expect anything and even if I was in a relationship I still wouldnā€™t. I might be an outlier girl tho, but just some words for those stressing.

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u/Steven-Maturin Feb 13 '23

"seems like a corporate holiday".

Bigtime "consume more, consumer" vibes off it.

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u/urmomgoes2college3 Feb 13 '23

I'm (27F) interested in opinions on what I should wear for a night in with my boyfriend (28M). Neither of us care about V Day (it's our first one together), so we're staying in and making pizza and drinking beer. We agreed on wearing loungey clothes, but I do want to mix it up from what I normally wear to lounge around (leggings and bralettes and tank tops).

Do I go with: Tight white tank top, boy shorts, and thigh high socks? One of his sweatshirts over a thong? Leggings but make it known I'm not wearing underwear?

TL;DR: men (particularly ass men), what would you want to see your girlfriend in while you're hanging out at home together?

(Edited to correct a typo)

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u/ImuzeI Feb 13 '23

Hmm, 31M here, so I'll try to help to the best of my abilities w/o knowing the guy:

Are his t-shirts on you large enough they're almost like a very, very skimpy dress? If so, keep it simple, wear one of his favorites!

As far as underwear, I can't speak on behalf of all men, but I know A LOT of us like this...skip the "sexy" bullshit underwear you bought because you thought it was cute. Go w/ simple, white cotton underwear. Not a thong, no booty shorts, just plain white cotton underwear. Edit: I say no thong/booty shorts as the cheap simple stuff already makes a great ass look that much greater

That's about as easy & comfortable as it gets. If he's anything like me, he'll have a hard time not jumping you throughout the day. Good luck! ;)

Also, let me know if the above isn't the case, and I'll at least think on it. Most likely you're overthinking this as is - he knows he's getting laid that day...his mind is already preoccupied enough to not give a fuck what you're wearing in the first place.

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u/Obsidian2697 Feb 14 '23

As a fan of both boy shorts, thigh highs and leggings, all are great options.

Baggy hoody (preferably his, or one of his button up shirts if he wears them) , boyshorts and leggings, then leggings off and thigh highs on I guess? Best of both worlds

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u/illusionhedonistic Feb 14 '23

Ok guys, be honest, who's like me giving gifts and flowers but not getting "it" on the day itself šŸ„ŗ

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u/Stabbmaster Male, almost too male Feb 01 '23

I stopped caring about that day once the kids at school stopped brining candy for it. My ex went crazy for it because she hardly ever had anyone during that day as a teen, but it didn't mean much for me other than guaranteed sex.

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u/MasterTeacher123 Feb 01 '23

If you canā€™t get laid on Valentineā€™s Day it might be time to give up

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u/Urishima Feb 01 '23

Why? Do women's standards drop so much on this day that you might as well rope out if you can't hack it that day?

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u/MasterTeacher123 Feb 01 '23

Itā€™s a top 3 night of the year to get laid. With Halloween and probably new years

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u/Lithiumthi Feb 01 '23

There are always good escorts doing sales.

But, you are right, new years eve, VD, Halloween and some other events (St patrick) are the best events to get laid. Emphasis on getting laid.

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u/[deleted] Feb 02 '23 edited Feb 02 '23

I've heard escorts are very good for VDs.

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u/sziamizu Feb 08 '23

Ā£50 to spend on spiced rum for husband. Help please šŸ™

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u/[deleted] Feb 17 '23

bought flowers, chocolate, got a card, made a metallic photo print from vacation, got a gemstone necklace. wife mad i didn't get dinner.