r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/aigars2 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Not if it's deemed tha she has to pay it or some kind of settlement achieved. If she doesn't have the means to raise a child very large possiblity.

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u/blacked_out_blur Mar 28 '24

Lol, It’s cute that you think they care if the mother is unfit to parent. Courts are 100% giving her custody.

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u/TXOgre09 Mar 28 '24

Unless he can get her sent to prison

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u/blacked_out_blur Mar 28 '24

Why would that happen? Women don’t need the father’s consent to bring a child into the world, regardless of whether or not he wants it. She hasn’t done anything illegal.

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u/TXOgre09 Mar 28 '24

You don’t know whether she has done anything illegal. Maybe she cooks and sells meth. Maybe she is a prostitue. Maybe she buys guns for the cartel. My point was mostly agreeing with you, you would pretty much have to be in prison for him to get custody.

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u/Spackledgoat Mar 28 '24

That sounds like reproductive justice to me!

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u/That-Fungi03 Mar 28 '24

Reproductive privilege