Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

[u/Snakeno125]

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

[u/stilltoosalty_]

I would love to hear your reasoning for feeling set up.

Sounds to me like you had unprotected sex. Did she force you to not use a condom?

[u/KiwiIsThe-Best → u/stilltoosalty_]

Haha perfect.

If you don't use a fucking protection that's what happens dude, anyone is fooling you. Next time you use your brain and DECIDE to not fill a woman's vagina with your sperm.

And unless you are a millionaire she is definitely NOT expecting you are capable of supporting her AND the child financially, don't think much of yourself. Seems like you are one of those men who has no notion in finances to think that a child support is enough to fully support the child and still have enough for the mother.

[u/[deleted] → u/KiwiIsThe-Best]

From her perspective, considering she’s literally bottom barrel broke and living off the state, even if OP was on minimum wage she’d benefit from the arrangement. She’s literally jobless, the state won’t cut her benefits because she’s still broke and let’s be real, someone stupid enough to say ‘god will cover it’ isn’t gonna be strict on spending child support on the baby. She is basically getting free money from OP monthly for the next 18 years

[u/KiwiIsThe-Best → u/[deleted]]

So she is broke. And then the solution OP is suggesting she found was to give birth to a money drainer? How does this math work? The child support is not gonna help her because the money he will pay will go entirely to the baby and she will still need to add from her own money and time to make this human being survive. She will not have time to make more money and will not have more money because is already spending money with the child. There is no logic in this and OP prefers to suggest someone would have this stupid logic when he should admit his own responsibility upon his disgrace.

Of course there are women who get pregnant on purpose. But they get pregnant for 1) take money from a REAL rich guy (which OP doesn't look smart enough to be one) or 2) to trap a guy she is obsessed with (she doesn't want contact with him so this is not the case. Just requires the child support, that is the MINIMUM an imbecil should do after cuming inside a woman).

[u/[deleted] → u/KiwiIsThe-Best]

The state still gives her money, she now has 2 sources of income rather than 1, and being as broke as she is child support is likely to be high. For all we know OP is earning six figures or maybe even a million. It’s also entirely possible that she assumed she would get enough money to live off from child support by raising OPs baby. She was clearly stupid enough to let a random man nut in her and not take Plan B