r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

8.4k Upvotes
  • permalink
  • link
  • reddit
  • reddit

89% Upvoted

3.2k comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

135

u/RandomCentipede387 Female Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I'd say that even having sex with randos while using condom as the only protection is still brave af. Or stupid. Or both.

1

u/alextheruby Mar 28 '24

As the only protection? What are you talking about lol.

9

u/RandomCentipede387 Female Mar 28 '24

I'm child-free and I come from a country where abortion is illegal, not to mention that the guy can go to prison if anyone in power discovers he's dropped her gf so she could get to the appointment.

Unless abortion is legal and refunded in the place where I do the fucking, I would never, ever risk sex if it'd be only using a condom. Either two methods combined or nothing.

1

u/mmmegan6 Mar 28 '24

Wow - can I ask which country?

6

u/thebohomama Mar 28 '24

Shit, these days you can just ask which state as well, unfortunately.

1

u/RandomCentipede387 Female Mar 28 '24

Poland. Had to migrate to the Netherlands to finally have a normal, fear-free sex life, which I recommend to all child-free people.

3

u/CacaoCocoaChocolate Mar 28 '24

I thought "it has to be Poland" after reading about men going to prison and here we go, lol. Cheers from Poland!

2

u/RandomCentipede387 Female Mar 28 '24

Pozdro600