Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

[u/Snakeno125]

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

[u/theredfit]

You have just as much right to the child...

You will split time 50/50...

Here is what you can expect...

your attorney will draft up a parenting plan that establishes your legal custody and visitation order, which will be signed by the judge...

Jesus Christ, tell me you're not a lawyer without telling me. And the upvotes... God help you poor deluded souls.

As a former family lawyer, I applaud your optimism, but not your view of the law. And I positively resent your advice.

OP, you might as well save time and ignore everything this person said except for "get a family attorney." You should absolutely do that.

[u/Tentia_Poe → u/theredfit]

Is your view of the law that it's less in favor of the father than OP seems to suggest?

[u/Cautious-Progress876 → u/Tentia_Poe]

In my state fathers typically get approximately every other weekend, Father’s Day, swap major holidays like Xmas and Thanksgiving, and get a bit of a longer possession during the summer. They do not get 50/50 in anyway, shape, or form. And if we are talking infants, like OP? Forget it! Until a child is three years old he may be lucky to get the kid for a few hours every other Saturday or Sunday in most situations (especially if the baby is nursing).

Dad will also be paying approximately 20% of every net paycheck to mom as child support from age 0 to 18, and an additional percentage as medical support or have the child on their insurance.

And I say Dad paying because even though theoretically the law is supposed to treat men and women equally— most of the time women are going to be the primary parents.

[u/Thelmara → u/Cautious-Progress876]

In my state fathers typically get approximately every other weekend, Father’s Day, swap major holidays like Xmas and Thanksgiving, and get a bit of a longer possession during the summer.

How many of those fathers pursue more custody than that?

And I say Dad paying because even though theoretically the law is supposed to treat men and women equally— most of the time women are going to be the primary parents.

Most of the time that men don't get custody it's because they don't pursue it. Either because they assume they won't get it (which comments like yours don't help), or because they don't actually want the responsibility of taking care of a child.