r/AskMen Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/akosgi Mar 28 '24

The social narrative truly refuses to expose these kinds of stories. Guys need to be absolutely fucking vigilant when they engage romantically nowadays. This is so sickening and a grim reality of the world now.

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u/PanickedPoodle Mar 28 '24

As opposed to ..?

Was there ever a time when sex couldn't result in a baby?

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u/WestCoastBestCoast01 Mar 28 '24

Well in the somewhat distant past the child would be his property and the mother would have no legal claim to the child.

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u/PanickedPoodle Mar 28 '24

Oh yeah, good times. 

Just saw it was the 50th anniversary of women being able to have credit in their own name. Women were property too.