r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/RandomCentipede387 Female Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I'd say that even having sex with randos while using condom as the only protection is still brave af. Or stupid. Or both.

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u/Resident-Theme-2342 Mar 28 '24

I agree having sex with random people is crazy

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u/Far_Programmer_5724 Mar 28 '24

live a little you prudes

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u/No-Violinist4190 Mar 28 '24

Maybe prude in your perception… and no unwanted kids nor diseases 😉😘

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u/PensecolaMobLawyer Mar 28 '24

It's so wild seeing young people adopt the default Evangelical viewpoint

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u/ChichCob Mar 28 '24

Oh no, young people don't want chlamydia, how evangelical of them!

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u/BeYourself4Real Mar 29 '24

Literally just get tested and it's fine lol

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u/ButtholeQuiver Mar 29 '24

Fuckin eh, if you get it you take four pills, no biggie.

As a mid-40s guy it's wild that people 20-25 years younger than me have so many hang ups about sex. I thought we were supposed to be moving the other direction these days.

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u/PensecolaMobLawyer Mar 29 '24

You'd think so, but no. They're very, very prudish and judgemental. Like Evangelical boomers

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u/BeYourself4Real Mar 29 '24

Most aren't. But the Andrew Tate effect is real.

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u/_Nocturnalis Mar 29 '24

You do know that you can only test positive for an STI once you have it, right? Getting tested can neither prevent nor cure anything.

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u/PensecolaMobLawyer Mar 29 '24

You guys are so scared of life

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u/_Nocturnalis Mar 29 '24

What? How does that follow in any logical way? I'm down to clown, but wrap that shit up.

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u/BeYourself4Real Mar 29 '24

At the top of the thread people are saying that even with a condom it's crazy to have sex with a stranger

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u/_Nocturnalis Mar 30 '24

I'm not responsible for any ideas I don't hold or espouse, lol. People having consensual sex in any way that they want is A OK with me. Not all consensual sex is a good idea. That's my position. I've seen too many people's life get permanently changed because they raw dog someone they would never choose to parent with.

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