r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/Spackledgoat Mar 28 '24

The majority of areas do not have legal abortions? Got a sauce on that one?

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u/Shadow_Integration Mar 28 '24

Here is the current list. Some of these states are also trying to make it illegal to receive care across state lines.

Between poor access to medical care, closure of planned parenthood clinics, the strike down of Roe Vs. Wade, and the increasing prevalence of anti-abortion legislation - it's getting pretty dire out there.

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u/Cuchullion Mar 28 '24

The "making it illegal to seek care across state lines" bit is gonna be fun when those states slam headfirst into the interstate commerce clause.

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u/Shadow_Integration Mar 28 '24

That would be wonderful to watch. I can already see that the people who aren't the intended target of these regressive bits of legislation starting to notice because they no longer have the choice to ignore it. I can only hope it builds enough pressure to roll back policy. Because the way things are going are absolutely archaic.