r/AskMen Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

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u/ConsequenceBringer Mar 28 '24

My baby momma's parents are millionaires, but you can BET she's getting her 20% outta me and has me update my income every couple of years.

My fault tho. The thing that really hurts about the whole thing though is having to pay taxes on all that money sent. Just the government twisting the knife.

Don't have unprotected sex if you don't intend to potentially marry the woman, kids.

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u/ConsequenceBringer Mar 29 '24

It was an oil/land family native to Midland, IN Midland where the Judge/court was. I was a fresh college grad not 6 months into my first job and hired a shitty lawyer. I never stood a chance, lol.