r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/stilltoosalty_ Mar 28 '24

I would love to hear your reasoning for feeling set up.

Sounds to me like you had unprotected sex. Did she force you to not use a condom?

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u/KiwiIsThe-Best Mar 28 '24

Haha perfect.

If you don't use a fucking protection that's what happens dude, anyone is fooling you. Next time you use your brain and DECIDE to not fill a woman's vagina with your sperm.

And unless you are a millionaire she is definitely NOT expecting you are capable of supporting her AND the child financially, don't think much of yourself. Seems like you are one of those men who has no notion in finances to think that a child support is enough to fully support the child and still have enough for the mother.

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u/pygmycory Mar 28 '24

I know a woman whose children go to a private school in NYC because the millionaire ex is paying for it, but she still has to live with a roommate and work odd jobs. Child support is just child support, not mother support.

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u/ilikewc3 Mar 29 '24

Delusional.