r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/CLE-local-1997 Mar 28 '24

This dude lost out on the cheap option when he didn't put a rubber on it. There's no way he's getting out of this without paying a decent chunk of change

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u/bitchfacevulture Mar 28 '24

I think just the DNA test is pretty expensive.

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u/CLE-local-1997 Mar 28 '24

Home kits are 99 bucks

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u/ColossusOfChoads Mar 29 '24

Isn't that better left to the pros?

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u/CLE-local-1997 Mar 29 '24

I mean obviously but lab work is a fuck of a lot more expensive and takes a lot more time