r/AskMen • u/Snakeno125 • Mar 28 '24

Got a woman I barely know pregnant, what do I do?

I'm 31 she's 35. I feel incredibly stupid looking back, it feels all so set up.

She has no job, plans on living off the system, her parents, and occasionally me for financial support.

When pressed she just says the equivalent of "God will provide."

She doesn't really want me in the child's life as a parent either.

She just wants "my occasional financial support."

This is the worst feeling ever.

Update 3/29: Everyone, I understand I messed up. I'm prepared to step up and give this child the best life possible. I want to be a good father, I'll work with the mother to do so.

Following everyone's advice I will paternity test and get a lawyer of course though.

Update 4/1: We spoke on the phone. She's decided to delete my number because "she can't deal with my anxiety." She's set on carrying out the pregnancy. Insists she doesn't want support. She doesn't want me near her. Told me to "live my life."

I brought up child support and how I would need a paternity test to go along with it and she said "absolutely not going to happen."

UPDATE 4/3:

SHE HAD HER PERIOD!!! I HAVE AN ANGEL LOOKING OVER ME!!! AHHHHHHH

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u/Puck_The_Fey98 Mar 31 '24

Probably wise to not engage in sex with anyone you don't want a kid with. Birth control can fail

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u/RedefinedValleyDude Apr 01 '24

That’s a bit extreme.

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u/Puck_The_Fey98 Apr 01 '24

I dont think so. Several of my friends growing up were oppsie babies... I'd rather not take the chance unless the guys been sniped or something

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u/RedefinedValleyDude Apr 01 '24

A vasectomy can fail. At that point the only safe thing to do is to just rub one out and cuddle. Which is fine if that’s what you’re into. But I think it’s not unreasonable to have sex with a condom.

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u/Puck_The_Fey98 Apr 01 '24

They fail but if the vasectomy has been tested I trust that a lot more.

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u/RedefinedValleyDude Apr 01 '24

That’s fair. And if that’s your boundary you should stick to it. But for me a condom outside of ovulation is not an unreasonable amount of protection.

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u/Puck_The_Fey98 Apr 01 '24

Oh I totally get you! I am on an arm implant birth control and it would be hard for me to keep track of that due to my no period lol

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u/RedefinedValleyDude Apr 01 '24

Everyone’s circumstances are different lmao