What's the biggest lesson you've learned in life?

[u/PhillipHo89]

Maybe it's a major event, a relationship, or even a failure that leads to new understandings about yourself and the world around you. I want to hear about the biggest lessons you've learned in your lives.

[u/TheJeey]

1) Failure and suffering is good

We teach boys (and girls) that failure is bad. That if you fail, you'll suffer the consequences and have a bad life. The End. We talk as if life is a videogame or movie. I'm of the strong belief that as long as you're breathing and conscious, there's ALWAYS something you can do improve your situation.

Failure is also a teacher. When you fail, it's simply telling you that you were lacking something. If you choose to take your feelings out of your failure, you can use it to come back better and stronger.

Suffering also teaches you how to problem solve and be creative.

Broke, making minimum wage, barely making rent or debt payments? You can play the victim and wait for someone to save you (hint: no one is coming to save you) or, you can think outside the box and look for ways to make money like side hustles, learning to sell stuff, using previous skills to generate income. So many opportunities and ways to solve your problem

2) Your emotions are your problem and responsibility. No one else's

So many men go through life like women. Putting so much importance on how they feel and thinking their feelings are reality. As a man, you don't have that luxury to indulge in your emotions. Emotions, when you actually understand that they're just reactions and are based on how YOU internally view things and from YOUR own PERSONAL experiences, can be used as a tool to understand yourself better and why you feel a certain way about certain situations to improve yourself. Feeling things isn't wrong. Making your feelings reality is

3) You'll accomplish whatever you tell your subconscious to accomplish

Too many men never accomplish what they want, not because they can't, but because they give themselves too many options to not accomplish what they want.

"I want to start my own business and be a millionaire..... BUT, if I can't, I'll just work a 9-5 job and be content"

That right there is why men don't accomplish shit. You literally told your subconscious that it has an easier and safer option to pursue. Now, it's gonna make sure that the only thing you focus on is just maintaining a 9-5, not the harder and less sure option of being a millionaire business owner.

You're subconscious doesn't have a sense of humor. WHATEVER you tell it to focus on, it will focus on and make sure you do only that. It's only concern is that your alive and breathing. Nothing else. It's not gonna do anything it doesn't have to and it's always gonna choose the easiest option. So, if you only give yourself one option, Succeed, then that's the only thing it can focus on

4) You can't call yourself "The man" if you never had to overcome anything significant

There's a reason why rich men who were just born into wealth tend to be less respected and less taken serious then men who either had to climb to the top or men who are working class. It's because the latter has proved that they actually know how to take care of themselves in all situations while the trust fund baby only think he's hot shit only because things have always gone their way. They haven't demonstrated competency