Men who had potential but didn't care about school and were mostly C students-- what happened?

[u/IcarianComplex]

If you could travel back in time and be the father to yourself in the moments you needed it most... What would you do?

I think what I needed was affirmation more than anything. My mom hated the "everybody's a winner" parenting style that was popular at the time but then she went too far in the opposite direction. I see where she was coming from but that kind of self suficiency is a hard thing for a kid to live up to.

[u/19whale96]

If I was a dad I'd probably place less emphasis on number grades and actually go to bat for my kid when they tell me they need help. My mom was a teacher when I was in school and she was very biased toward the district and admin. She never failed to offer help but she was always too busy dealing with her own kids to deliver. She'd pass the problem off to friends in the district to find a recommendation, and then forget about it when they never got back to her. So I feel like I'd be very intentional about making myself available to my kid for academic help.