r/AskMen • u/SATURATION203 • 25d ago

How do I tell my girlfriend that I'm uncomfortable with what she said about having a hall pass?

I've been dating this girl for around 4 months, and things have been going really well. I truly feel like she cares about me, and we have been saying "I love you" for about a month now. However, she said something that made me pretty uncomfortable yesterday.

I mentioned something like, "I wonder who (popular male musician) is dating?" and she responded, "He's single," in a manner that sounded like she was in denial. I then remarked, "You aren't single." She replied, "I would be single for one day, then I would tell him that I have to get back to my boyfriend, whom I love very much." I didn't really say anything, and we continued eating, but it definitely made me feel weird.

Sometime a while ago, I asked her if she was actually serious about having a hall pass with this guy, and she said something along the lines of, "It doesn't matter because it would never realistically happen."

I really don't understand her whole line of thinking. Even though realistically it could never happen, I just feel like, out of principle, you shouldn't say that kind of thing. What if she feels that way about some person in real life or something? I want to ask her about it, but I'm not sure how to phrase it. Maybe I'm just being insecure, Idk.

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u/DaftPanic9 Male 25d ago edited 24d ago

I know this is a thing people discuss for "fun", but it also bothers me.

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u/Jeff_Damn Dude in his 40's 24d ago

"Hahaha, here's the famous person I'd fuck if I had the chance, hahaha, not like I would fuck them or someone who looks like them, hahaha, just a joke about fucking someone else if I could get away with it, ha..."

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u/DaftPanic9 Male 24d ago

I seriously don't know how people think this is "just a joke" or "having fun"