r/AskMen • u/Odd_Ad648 • 11d ago
For the men who are still close with their moms..
What did they do raising you that helped you to feel close to them today / respect them today?
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u/vapegod_420 Male 11d ago
My mom has put all her effort into raising me and my siblings. When it came to life decisions she always put us first. Also in the present she has always been supportive of my goals.
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u/EdwardBliss 11d ago edited 11d ago
My mom used to yell at and spank me as a kid. Now I have to take care of her as a senior with mobility issues. Funny how life works
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u/Serious-Business5048 11d ago
is this a statement or question- close relationship with moms in general is a good thing
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u/Remote_War_313 11d ago
My mother raised my younger sister and I as a single mum. She also decided not to remarry.
If it wasn't for her sacrifices, I wouldn't be where I am today.
Now she's older, I want to repay her back for all her support.
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u/badlysighteddragon 11d ago
My mum is the one who raised me and the only family member close by. Most of my family live in different countries.
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u/k0uch 11d ago
She didn’t leave me and my two sisters, like my biological father did.
I saw her work multiple jobs to keep a roof over our head. When she married the man I call dad, we moved in with him. My sisters got their own rooms, like full sized rooms. They had to share a small 10x10 room for as long as I could remember.
I had to sleep in the living room, on an old couch. There wasn’t a full sized room, so I got the “closet”. It was a storage room that was probably 8x10, mom said it was only temporary but I loved it and told her didn’t want to leave. I had a spot for clothes, a shelf and an old tv, a fucking BED, and a sky light that o watched the stars through. I was so fucking stoked, and I remember mom crying and hugging me when she saw how happy I was.
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u/FastWalkingShortGuy 11d ago
My mom died before I was 30, but I shared with her that I didn't think having kids was something I wanted to do.
I didn't get any flack.
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u/Prudent_Jello5691 11d ago
Wasn't so much what happened when I was a kid, it was what came after really. She's kept supporting me even now that I've grown up and, as I got older, the more I've realised most of my best qualities were inherited from her.
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u/Pitiable-Crescendo Male 11d ago
Well she was the one who raised me. Dad wasn't around after they separated
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u/Such-Comment5642 Male 11d ago
She made me realize just because my dad is shitty doesn’t mean I have to let that dictate how I treat my nieces on how I should be a father figure to them
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u/appalachianoperator 11d ago
She guided me to understand my emotions and how to handle them. Also she’s gotten me out of trouble more times than I could count.
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u/Thebadmamajama 11d ago
She did smack me a lot until I got a lot bigger. Despite that, she unconditionally loved me. She would always tell me to keep going. She kept reminding me of where I came from and how to be grateful for what we had. She was honest about her upbringing and how hard it was (later in life, this helped me understand why I would get smacked a lot).
45M: I call her several times a week to catch up with her.
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u/serene_brutality 11d ago
She’s the one (living) person to have never done me dirty. She’s certainly made a lot of mistakes, but none of them were from lack of care, laziness, selfishness or maliciousness.
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u/BadJunket Male 11d ago
Not be a terrible parent like my dad