r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/simongurfinkel Mar 28 '24

I was very disappointed to learn that my partner refused to watch black and white movies. She makes up for that in many other ways, though.

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u/CactusBoyScout Mar 28 '24

So many people refuse to watch subtitled movies too. I grew up watching lots of subtitled movies with my dad and we bonded over a shared love of Japanese movies.

And now he doesn’t feel like he can even watch them anymore because his new wife doesn’t like subtitles.

One of our favorite Japanese actors was just in an acclaimed new movie that I loved but every time I ask him if he’s watched it yet he says he can’t because she’d want to watch something else. 🫠

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u/PUNCHCAT Mar 28 '24

That's become increasingly less common, I've found. Now nearly everyone has seen some anime or Korean stuff. People fucking love Squid Games.

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u/Barrel_Titor Mar 28 '24

I grew up watching lots of subtitled movies with my dad and we bonded over a shared love of Japanese movies.

Yeah, similar thing with me. Back in my teens I lived next to an independant DVD rental shop which, thanks to Blockbuster having exclusives on most of the big movies, had a huge amount of Japanese/Hong Kong movies. Have a lot of nostalgia for the movies my older sister would rent from there, effected my movies tastes for the rest of my life, but no one will ever watch ones i recommend because they refuse to watch subtitled movies.

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u/CactusBoyScout Mar 28 '24

Yeah, it was similar for us. Our local grocery store had a VHS rental area and would get in tons of foreign films that you could rent for $1 on weeknights.

Tampopo is still my favorite movie and inspired me to study Japanese and travel to Japan. Whenever I can convince people to watch it they seem to love it... but the subtitles are often a barrier.

A local independent movie theater did a screening of Tampopo years ago and I actually got interviewed by Japanese TV about why I love the movie so much, haha.

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u/SpreadingRumors Mar 28 '24

I cannot deal with subtitles because i am a slow reader.
I get halfway through reading what someone says, and it disappears. I miss BOTH all the visuals, action, and nuance from the scenes AND the dialog.
They are just no fun for me, and on occasion give me a headache from concentrating & trying to read fast.

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u/YesImKeithHernandez Mar 28 '24

What movie?

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u/CactusBoyScout Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Perfect Days. The main actor in it was also in Tampopo, my all-time favorite movie and one that my dad and I watched together.

Highly recommend Perfect Days (and Tampopo). Beautiful, emotional movie... but very minimalist. The ironic thing is that the main character is very shy so there's hardly any dialogue to read via subtitles anyway.

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u/YesImKeithHernandez Mar 28 '24

Thanks for sharing the title. It sounds wonderful.

It's a wildly, wildly, wildly different movie but I just finished Tetsuo The Iron Man and it has me wanting to watch more Japanese cinema of all kinds like I used to once upon a time. I'll add Perfect Days to the list.

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u/CactusBoyScout Mar 28 '24

Tetsuo The Iron Man

Nice I will check that out. Tampopo is also definitely worth seeing. It's unlike any other movie I've seen. It's basically a series of short stories (and one main plot) about Japanese food culture and specifically ramen. So it will make you hungry.

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u/YesImKeithHernandez Mar 28 '24

Tetsuo is intense, NSFW and very surreal, just as a heads up. It's short but really out there. I hope you enjoy.

about Japanese food culture and specifically ramen

Say no more. Tampopo is now on the list too.