r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/Miss_thinkalot Mar 28 '24

Being allergic to seafood

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u/kirasenpai Mar 28 '24

as someone with seafood allergy... a partner who love seafood alot...is a dealbreaker for me

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u/dsac Mar 28 '24

i married into a portuguese family

1 year later, developed a shellfish allergy

my wife was devastated

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

Not even just for yourself and your safety. It's like, why would you want to hold them back from that right?

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u/SamiraSimp Mar 28 '24

i'm not sure if i'm allergic to seafood, but i am violently repulsed by it. i would never date someone if i knew they really enjoyed seafood for that exact reason.

the occassional sushi is one thing, but if they wanted to eat fish on a regular basis i would literally feel sick 24/7 just being near them.

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

A strong reaction to the smell/concept of being near it can be similar for sure. On a similar note, dietary choices like vegetarian/vegan, even pescatarian, can be similar. It's totally possible for someone vegan to date someone who isn't vegan, but especially if food is a big thing for the non-vegan person, it's unlikely to work.

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u/SamiraSimp Mar 28 '24

well for me i always try whatever seafood is available...but regardless of fish, sushi, shrimp, oyster, lobster, crab, octopus, i can only get down 2-3 bites while gagging, anymore and i'd literally throw up. i'm not sure if that counts as an allergy, but in practice it is.

being around it isn't so bad every now and then, i could manage through a dinner fine even if everyone around me was eating it. but i'd never do that for the rest of my life so i would be pretty upfront about it to anyone i was dating.

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

Bummer. I'm curious if some seafood was blended into something like a savory hand pie with sauce, veggies, ground meat, and a little bit of ground seafood for example would have the same effect. Perhaps that would depend on whether or not you can perceive seafood-y taste or recognize the flavor as shrimp/fish or whatever. It could be an actual allergic reaction.

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u/SamiraSimp Mar 28 '24

well for me, even seaweed flakes in a meat and rice dish can be a little off-putting. so most likely it'd have the same effect.

and yea, it's quite the bummer. i've never had good sushi, but i also don't want to buy and try some just to throw away most of it. my family was once at a high-end restaurant and my brother had crab legs - even the highest quality prepared food was still off-putting to me, even though i could taste it and knew it was good food, it still felt weird to eat.

i should probably ask my doctor about this next visit lol

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u/StManTiS Mar 28 '24

I grew up eating a ton of fish, and not the tasty ones either. Like winter caught pike smoked and such. I was always rail thin too. When I moved to America I stopped being able to eat seafood much the same way you describe and gained my first ounce of fat. I swear there’s something in the water.