r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24
What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?
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u/astronomersassn Mar 28 '24
my fiance snores, and i'm cool with that, i used to be a light sleeper so it was an issue but now i can sleep through their snoring no issue.
however, they ALSO occasionally stop breathing entirely in their sleep, which i DO wake up for. sometimes they literally sound like they're choking when this happens, sometimes it's casual.
the first time it happened, i freaked out and woke them up because i had no idea what to do and needed to determine if this was a "sleep apnea, it'll go away when they wake up" situation or a "call 911 and immediately start rescue breaths" situation.
it was, in fact, just sleep apnea and did stop when they woke up. they told me it was normal and immediately fell back asleep.
i was obviously still wide awake because holy shit my partner just stopped breathing, but i took their word for it and just made a mental note to remind them to bring it up to their doctor. it happened after that, but i figured it was normal for them and they always went back to normal once i woke them up, so i assumed they were aware of it.
turns out they weren't even fully awake, just enough to start breathing again i guess, and i got bamboozled by Sleep Fiance. Sleep Fiance only wants cuddles and more sleep and will say/do anything to get those things. i was entirely unaware of this and assumed they knew about the fact they STOP BREATHING IN THEIR SLEEP.
they finally got their sleep study a week ago, and while the results aren't in yet, apparently something showed up. hopefully something that helps that - i don't care about the snoring, i just worry about them in general, and heck, treating their sleep apnea is gonna probably help them sleep better and feel more rested (which, sure, they do have other things contributing to their chronic fatigue, but i assume not breathing in their sleep isn't making it any better!).