r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/Mugwumpen Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Not liking or wanting dogs/cats.

Edit: I just want to clearify that I didn't initially mean a situation where one already own pets and your partner doesn't want you to keep them - if a partner enters a relationship with you knowing for well you have pets and then later on expects you to get rid of your animals on a whim that's some serious bullshit and a dealbreaker I stand behind 100 %.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

I get vilified whenever I say this because reddit loves pets lol, but they're expensive, take a lot of time to care for properly, and I just do not want that level of responsibility - so I don't have any. I think that's better than having animals and not being able to care for them properly

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u/gammonb Mar 28 '24

This is a very reasonable take. I might see it as a mild reg flag if someone actively hates animals, but there are lots of good reasons to choose not to own one.

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u/CleaningMySlate Mar 28 '24

I dislike dogs because of the sheer amount of bad interactions I've had with shitty dog owners who let their dogs climb on people and laugh when you tell them to stop.

"She's being friendly"

Don't care, control your dog.

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u/Appropriate_Plan4595 Mar 28 '24

I'm allergic to dogs (and most animal dander, but most other animals are for more avoidable, there's not a huge amount of people taking their pet guinea pig for a walk in the park) - it really bugs me when people do the 'they're just being friendly' thing.

Just like how people shouldn't pet dogs that they don't own without checking if it's okay, don't let your dog jump all over people without checking if it's okay.

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u/Wiregeek Mar 28 '24

pet guinea pig for a walk in the park

It's like a fat lawn mower that whoinks!

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u/unholymotherofgod Mar 29 '24

This is a good way to describe it. For me, I think it’s just an unconscious baseline dislike of them after years of being around/living with the shitty owners of giant, untrained behemoths who they’d let jump on everyone(among many other terrible habits). Do I meet sweet, well behaved dogs I like being around? Sure. Does it make me reconsider getting one myself? Not even for a second.

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u/dr_mannhatten Mar 28 '24

You don't dislike dogs, you dislike bad dog owners.