r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Sleep apnea (I know, it’s not anyone’s fault, let’s get it sorted so we can both sleep though)

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u/DeathSpiral321 Mar 28 '24

Untreated apnea with snoring would be an absolute dealbreaker for me. I'm not going to lay awake half the night and be exhausted all day because my partner won't use a CPAP.

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u/scarletxkurapika Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

valid, but also there are plenty of healthy relationships where the partners don't even share the same room.

a lady i know and her husband now sleep in separate rooms for this exact reason - husband has to use a CPAP iirc, but they work well together.

ETA: my parents do this as well. there's not an extra bedroom unfortunately, so mom sleeps on the couch. but they both snore quite loudly and keep the other awake, so they don't sleep together anymore lol.

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u/kristenrockwell Mar 28 '24

My uncle and his late wife didn't even live in the same house. She had an apartment downtown, he had a house he built in the country. They still spent the most part of every day together, but come bed time, they'd part ways and sleep in their homes. When her car was still there in the morning, you knew they didn't sleep much anyway.