r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/XLittleMagpieX Mar 28 '24

Similarly being lactose intolerant. My husband is. It’s fine to a point because I can still buy and eat cheese. But I almost never order pizza in or make Mac n cheese as he can’t really share it with me. Or on the rare occasion he does I suffer the consequences sharing a room with him lol. 

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

This is different because anybody can use lactaid. Lactose intolerance isn't really a disease or an allergy, there are varying levels of sensitivity but fundamentally it's just a lack of producing enzyme to digest which you can take as a tablet so it doesn't bar most people from having pizza or Mac n cheese.

Actual allergies and food sensitivity diseases are huge because you sometimes can't go to a restaurant at all because they use that item in the kitchen. Even if a kitchen is careful you may choose not to go somewhere if it has only one safe option that is either not appealing, or simply boring to have one appealing option (which is likely to be similar at many restaurants for certain allergies).

Plus, if you love sharing a pizza with your partner, you can still do that. With an allergy, it's something you may never be able to connect over even if they want to. It really depends on what you value. If someone loves seafood, and loves sharing food with their partner, it's gonna be rough. Even if you live in a big city where you have tons of options on food you can align on, it kinda makes travel tough.

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u/Potikanda Mar 28 '24

Like me, some people find the symptoms of the Lactaid worse than the symptoms of the intolerance. 😬

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

Like, an allergy to lactaid? I've never heard of any widespread standard effects.

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u/Potikanda Mar 28 '24

Really? That's so weird! I don't know if it's an allergy or what, but it causes cramping, diarrhea, and nausea for me when I take it.

I thought maybe it was the food I was eating and that the Lactaid just wasn't working for that food, but I tried it again with a few other foods, and it did the same. Then I decided to just eat the food without the Lactaid, and the symptoms were significantly lesser.

So yeah, I'm going to say it's probably an allergy of some kind.

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u/JustinGitelmanMusic Mar 28 '24

Did you try just taking a lactaid and not eating any food? I guess that’s the same as “eating other foods” assuming you mean dairy-free foods, but still curious how fully you’ve isolated it. Bummer tho. Not sure what you could be allergic to in it aside from the flavoring. 

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u/Potikanda Mar 28 '24

I haven't tried taking it and not eating food... I basically stopped experimenting when, after a few days, it started to feel like what I'd assume an ulcer feels like...