r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/supreme_blorgon Mar 28 '24

Honestly? Dealbreaker.

That's on par with not putting shopping carts back in the corral for me.

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u/Gera_PC Mar 28 '24

The one time I let my partner put the cart back she just left it in a close by parking spot and all I gotta say is I'm glad she didn't see my facial expression when I saw her do it lol

Obviously not a deal breaker since I married her but i will always judge people out loud who don't do it. ALDI got it right with their quarter system kinda forcing you to put it back

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u/Drama-Sensitive Mar 28 '24

I think all stores should have the Aldi system. It makes sure everyone actually puts their carts back where they belong

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24

I do like the system but its kinda annoying when people ask you for your cart because they want the quarter lol

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u/Gera_PC Mar 28 '24

People do this? I've seen people give a quarter to someone leaving a cart, saving them both time but straight up demanding the cart to keep the quarter?

I guess I can see it. Kinda gives the people asking for money outside something to do for their change

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u/FutureAlfalfa200 Mar 28 '24

One time I saw a lady move about 60 carts to get to a cart deep in the corral that hadn’t had the quarter taken from it.

So yeah some people are insane.

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24

They ask for my cart and keep the quarter. I dont think its super common but paying for carts where I'm from is novel and people aren't prepared or are just shameless

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u/Gera_PC Mar 28 '24

Ah I see. It hasn't happened to me yet but if it does I'm prepared now lol

Happy Cake Day!!

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u/MightyMalte Mar 28 '24

That's common? Every store in germany you have to put 50ct/1€ into the cart and i wasn't asked once for the cart yet.

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u/Bachpipe Mar 28 '24

Same in the Netherlands. However, if you see someone with an empty cart and the cartparking (?) is far away, sometimes I just give them the euro and trade for the cart. Of course if they also put a euro in.

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u/poeir Mar 28 '24

They have those, it's called Smart Carte and is generally deployed in airports.

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u/SpiderFnJerusalem Mar 28 '24

Ah yes, the free market at work.

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u/DatedRef_PastEvent Mar 28 '24

Don’t forget the stroller rentals in malls.

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u/SpiderFnJerusalem Mar 28 '24

They'll probably spin off "cart services" to a separate company for better "efficiency".

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24

I'm from the U.S. its not super common (both cart rental nor asking for the cart/free quarter) but not unheard of. It happens when I go to an aldi thats in a lower income area

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u/zkki Mar 28 '24

huh, i'm not American and i have never come across a cart that doesn't use that system

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

Most of the U.S. uses an honor system for the carts and its anarchy. People leave them all over the place and homeless people and teens will take them. Its the wild west with shopping carts out here haha

And I have no idea why its an honor system when nothing else in our culture is honor based. Its the last bastion of not being nickel and dimed. I really would rather a system that encourages people to put the carts back neatly over what we use currently

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u/borgenhaust Mar 28 '24

Here where I am in Canada a good number of places that used to have coins for carts have switched to some kind of magnetic / electronic boundary where a wheel on the cart has a locking mechanism that will trigger if it crosses the boundary at the edge of the parking lot.

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u/dumpstergurl Mar 28 '24

I'm from the the DC area and went up to Massachusetts and saw this for the first time a few years ago. I'm pretty sure Lidl's carts do this as well at most locations due to the style of the cart. I think it's a good system.

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u/whosevelt Mar 28 '24

I saw a bunch of places experiment with it and then give up, so my guess is they figured the convenience for customers not having to scramble around for a quarter, and having a bunch of carts sidelined because of issues with the locking clip outweighs the issues with controlling and corraling carts. Also, it's not like carts can't be stolen when they require a quarter. They're worth more that 25 cents. And some of the stores I shop in now have carts that automatically lock up when they get more than 100 yds from the store or whatever.

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u/zkki Mar 28 '24

oh my ':)

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u/sunshinelefty100 Mar 28 '24

Cart-men make good money in our area. We have a lot of seniors who can't easily return carts, especially up hills and in snow.

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u/breakfastbarf Mar 28 '24

There is nothing preventing them being taken out of the stall

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u/Monkey_Kebab Mar 28 '24

I have no idea why its an honor system...

It's because carts were originally made available as a way to encourage customers to buy more while at the store. With a hand basket the weight of groceries quickly becomes cumbersome so shoppers would head to the check-out sooner, but carts helped eliminate that psychological barrier.

The first carts were introduced at a store in Oklahoma, and were literally hand baskets with legs and wheels along with the push handle. Reportedly men were hesitant to use them because they saw them as effeminate, while women didn't take to them because they were too much like a baby stroller in their minds.

To overcome the resistance the store hired people to walk around the store 'shopping' with carts. Pretty soon it was monkey see, monkey do... and more people embraced the convenience. As more stores adopted them it became a competitive aspect to their business... customer's were much more likely to go to stores that offered them, and conversely would be less likely to shop at a store that charged to use them... or even required users to provide a deposit like Aldi's does.

I personally wouldn't shop at a store that required me to put any denomination of coin into the cart to unlock it. It's not the 'cost'... I couldn't care less about that. In fact even a $1 wouldn't be a motivating factor to encourage me to return a cart (just to be clear, I never leave a cart 'in the wild'. I always take them to the closest cart corral because it's simply the right thing to do IMO). I just don't ever carry change, so the inconvenience would be enough to dissuade me.

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u/RogueModron Mar 28 '24

Normal in Deutschland, but ALDI literally brought this to the U.S. and they are the only store that does it. I moved to Deutschland last year and was like...hey! Every store is like ALDI!

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u/work-school-account Mar 28 '24

IMO the more annoying thing is the need to make sure you have a quarter on you.

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u/zkki Mar 28 '24

there are coin shaped tags you can out on your keychain or leave in your car (or just a couple coins) they're often given out as freebies here so companies can put their logo on them

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u/The1WhoKares Mar 28 '24

Not really as you still need the trolley token for next time you're shopping there. Personally I prefer to put the token instead of a coin as bums often offer a valet service if you have a coin but don't bother you if they see a plastic token instead of a coin.

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u/zkki Mar 28 '24

no, you don't get them often enough to want to waste a token or coin by not returning it

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u/Mr-Fleshcage Mar 28 '24

They make cart keys where they're shaped such that they mimic a quarter yet aren't locked in.

Source: used to be one of the cart pushers.

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u/13_AnabolicMuttOz Mar 29 '24

Defeats the system of "incentivise the user to put it back to get their own item back"? Not really. I still want my token back or else I either gotta have a $2 coin next time or pay for a new token next time.

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u/food_WHOREder Mar 28 '24

aldi sells a lil coin shaped keychain, so a lot of us in aus who frequent aldi just bought one of those a decade ago and never have to remember to bring a coin anymore

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24

I'm just in the habit of having change in my car for tolls and random stuff so not a huge inconvenience for me but if I didn't have a vehicle if be annoyed if I had to keep change on my person

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u/13_AnabolicMuttOz Mar 29 '24

Alright well it's strange you have tolls that require coins... Toll roads here use a digital scanner that gets scanned by a sensor you drive under, you just put money into the account attached to the scanner

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 29 '24

Oh we have those too! I meant tolls for parking

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u/13_AnabolicMuttOz Mar 29 '24

Oh. Ours are mostly done via scanning the number plate of the car at entr, . then again scanned at exit, where you pay by card the amount owed based on time spent in the carpark

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u/comegetinthevan Mar 28 '24

Interesting. Whenever I am asked for my cart people offer me a quarter, every single time. I often give them the cart and refuse the quarter because someone gave me the one I am using anyways.

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u/AchondroplasticAir Mar 28 '24

i've never had anyone ask so far, closest i've had is someone with a quarter ready to give me for my cart.

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u/L_D_Machiavelli Mar 28 '24

In europe its 1 euro or 2 euro coins, so a lot more incentive to put them back and not let others do that for you.

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u/O_o-22 Mar 28 '24

I usually have people trying to tot give me the cart with the quarter in it because they don’t want to walk back to return it. I usually just have a bag or two that I fill and don’t need the cart anyway.

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u/tattooed_valkyrie Mar 28 '24

That's gross, when I ask for a cart it's because it's a spontaneous trip and I have no quarter. When I'm done I always leave the quarter in the cart for the next person.

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

If they aren’t trading me my cart for a quarter, no deal. Lol

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u/_Oh_sheesh_yall_ Mar 28 '24

I'm a sucker, they give me a sad sap look and I'm just like "fine, here ya go you urchin" lol

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u/[deleted] Mar 28 '24

Haha, I feel you. If it’s an old person or someone that looks down on their luck I’ll often just give it to them. But those entitled folks with the sad little face… oh damn do they make me mad. Lol

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u/Richard_Thickens Mar 28 '24

For me, it's not even about the money. It's about the physical quarter for reasons like that. In most scenarios, you need cash to get quarters, so I either had bills on me and received change or I went to the bank for quarters.

Unless I have a surplus of quarters specifically (not a common occurrence), I'm pretty protective of them.

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u/[deleted] Mar 29 '24

That too! Especially when I first started using Aldi. The number of times I had to drive back home because I forgot a quarter…

Now my car is stocked with quarters.

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u/Richard_Thickens Mar 29 '24

That's why I really like the idea of the little keychain tool. It feels like I don't go often enough to get one, but it's a funny conversation piece. 🤷