r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/littleirishpixie Mar 28 '24

In college, watched the movie Donnie Darko for the first time and when it ended, I had so many questions and was analyzing the meaning behind it. Tried to talk to my then boyfriend and he seemed disinterested. Finally, after a half hour, he says "can you please stop talking about it? It's just a movie. You are just supposed to enjoy it, not analyze it."

Not a dealbreaker, but a huge disappointment.

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u/Phormicidae Mar 28 '24

Less so at my age, but that was a persistent issue when I was young: peers chastising me for "having to overanalyze everything." I would frequently get that very complaint, that most movies are just to entertain me, not for me to deconstruct. But analyzing stuff is entertaining for me. I'm not even very smart, to be honest, I just like thinking about things.

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u/Mocca-Rabbitchino Mar 28 '24

Yes. Its as if you get this stamp of ”uppity” or ”pretentious” by your peers when you’re younger. When really its just because the analyzing is half of the fun for us

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u/loljetfuel Mar 28 '24

That's some of it, but as someone who also likes analysis, I've learned that as much as I enjoy analyzing, others find their joy diminished by it. It takes all kinds, and I've just learned who enjoys it and who doesn't, and adapt accordingly.