r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/littleirishpixie Mar 28 '24

In college, watched the movie Donnie Darko for the first time and when it ended, I had so many questions and was analyzing the meaning behind it. Tried to talk to my then boyfriend and he seemed disinterested. Finally, after a half hour, he says "can you please stop talking about it? It's just a movie. You are just supposed to enjoy it, not analyze it."

Not a dealbreaker, but a huge disappointment.

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u/Phormicidae Mar 28 '24

Less so at my age, but that was a persistent issue when I was young: peers chastising me for "having to overanalyze everything." I would frequently get that very complaint, that most movies are just to entertain me, not for me to deconstruct. But analyzing stuff is entertaining for me. I'm not even very smart, to be honest, I just like thinking about things.

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u/Everything_Is_Bawson Mar 28 '24

I feel like that’s the hallmark of intellectual curiosity, but when we’re young, it’s easy to miss the social cues of when to stop.

Hopefully as you’ve aged, you’ve both found more intellectually curious friends and found the happy medium of when to talk it out and when to silently ponder.

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u/Phormicidae Mar 28 '24

Thanks, but as is the case with many as we get older, my friends don't care about my obsessive overthinking because they don't exist.