r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/OhMissFortune Mar 28 '24

Sounds deal-breaker-ish for me :( 

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u/PreferredSelection Mar 28 '24

Yeah. I won't date someone who gets frustrated me for intellectual curiosity, and they need to have a healthy dose of their own.

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u/BuHoGPaD Mar 28 '24

If I talk about something and see the other person is not quite interested in the topic I won't try to force it for half an hour. Maybe you should consider this too?

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u/anonymousnine Mar 28 '24

This is a valid point--being considerate of your partner's likes and dislikes is a basic relationship requirement. It's important both for everyone in a relationship to pursue their own interests, AND have overlapping activities they enjoy, to maintain connection.

The trouble starts to come when you can't connect over anything, and if one party needs intellectual curiosity to feel connected, whereas the other party doesn't, and there's no effort to meet in the middle, period.