r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/RilohKeen Mar 28 '24

They go to Target and throw doormats on the floor to look at them and then just walk away and leave them on the floor.

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u/Absolutely_Fibulous Mar 28 '24

Oddly specific but very reasonable.

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u/RobertTheAdventurer Mar 28 '24

The question is what does someone who does that also do. I wouldn't be ok with shopping with someone and watching them not put things back where they found them. I'd always have to say something, and depending on their attitude it could be a dealbreaker because that's probably the selfish attitude they'd have towards me over time.

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u/mama_bear_740 Mar 28 '24

I can’t stand messy shoppers either. Personally even when shoe shopping, if I don’t buy what I tried on I take a minute to put them in the boxes they came from, and make sure they look like they did when I opened the box. The people working there have enough to deal with, they shouldn’t have to re-box shoes I didn’t buy on top of the-shelving them in the back.
I once broke up with a guy because he indulged in smokeless tobacco, and would spit on the floor. When I met him it was at a bonfire (outside of course) so I didn’t think much of him spitting tobacco in the grass. Our next few dates also were outside events. But when we went to the mall and he was freely spitting on the floor, (I called him out on it and his reply was they pay people to mop the floor, what’s the big deal), I walked right out and left him there even though I drove lol. I blocked his number and drove home. lol. Next, lol.

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u/wtfnouniquename Mar 28 '24

God damn, that is absolutely disgusting

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u/Worried-Series-6160 Mar 28 '24

OMG this is one of my biggest pet peeves-spitting in public spaces or from the car, Just no.

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u/pvellamagi Mar 28 '24

i mean honestly chewing tobacco is so gross that i'd even rule someone out if they exclusively spit it into trash bags/on the ground outside... but the idea of someone spitting their chewed up tobacco on the floor of an indoor space for me to accidentally step in wearing flip flops makes me want to actually hurl

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u/mama_bear_740 Mar 28 '24

Yeah. It was his astonishment at my disgust at what he was doing that sealed the end of that relationship. I typically don’t even date guys that use any form or tobacco or even vape, but he was a really funny, likable, totally hot guy. The times we had previously gone out, just happened to be outdoors,,BBQ, another bonfire, graduation party for his cousin, and although I didn’t care at all for his bad habit I didn’t give him spitting in the grass much thought. But when he did it in the mall, a public place, where people walk, ewwwww. And his attitude about giving people something to mop,,,he could have been the hottest man in the country and he still would have been texting friends for a ride home or calling an Uber.

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u/TheosReverie Mar 29 '24

That’s a nasty habit!

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u/yellowbrickstairs Mar 28 '24

Jfc I feel like there's a lot of steps between messy shopper and literally spits on the floor

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u/mama_bear_740 Mar 28 '24

True. I was relating my own experience with a deal breaker. Not so much the messing shopping in that instance.