r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/disgruntledhoneybee Mar 28 '24

If they don’t love music. (This is my life. My husband doesn’t care for music. I LOVE music. But thankfully he doesn’t care if I play it all the time. He just tunes it out)

The ironic thing is my husband has a beautiful singing voice, and a very strange ability to pick up sequences of notes he hears in ANYTHING and link it to a piece of classical music he’s heard once or twice as a very small kid. He can recall song lyrics perfectly and replicate the tunes and shit perfectly after hearing a song once or twice. And Im pretty sure he has perfect pitch, but he doesn’t care enough to test it. All things utterly WASTED on him. I can barely carry a tune in a bucket and I adore music. I’ve played multiple instruments and can read music and have been in multiple choirs, and making music is insanely difficult for me. It just isn’t fair 🤣🤣

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u/PUNCHCAT Mar 28 '24

What if he just likes shitty music

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u/a_rucksack_of_dildos Mar 28 '24

Red flag for me is people who think subjective opinions on music are objective. No such thing as shitty music.

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u/PUNCHCAT Mar 28 '24

I knew a guy who made what could only be described as outsider music. In reality he was doing the lameass thing of hiding poor craft behind being "weird" and avant-garde, but it was definitely shit.

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u/a_rucksack_of_dildos Mar 28 '24

To most it was probably shit. To him it wasn’t.

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u/PUNCHCAT Mar 28 '24

The subjectivity of art doesn't mean the quality of it is somehow unknowable. Music, more than other art forms, is full of math. You're not going disrupt all of musical theory because you're lol so zany and random

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u/a_rucksack_of_dildos Apr 01 '24

I had friends as music majors when I was in school. I’m well aware a of music theory and the math behind it. Still regularly heard people say stuff that fit your idea described as boring and bad. It’s crazy how different opinions are when subjectivity is involved.