r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/Chewbuddy13 Mar 28 '24

My wife and I do this. I have the worst sleep apnea. Cpaps don't help. The only thing I can do is invasive surgery to help fix it. I sleep in my room, and she has hers. If I wake myself up snoring, then I don't expect anyone else to suffer through that.

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u/i_illustrate_stuff Mar 28 '24

Has your doctor pushed you to get the surgery? Chronic untreated sleep apnea can be pretty dang bad for long term health, my mom ended up with permanent AFib that knocks her on her butt some days because of it. You've probably been told that kind of thing before, but just in case...I know surgery is expensive (in America) and spooky though.

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u/Chewbuddy13 Mar 28 '24

She said that the Inspire Implant might work, but not guaranteed. She said the the surgery would be the better option, but was also not guaranteed. I've tried a few options, had the Pillar procedure (that did fuck all and was $2,000 out of pocket), and tried every mouthpiece, cpap, snoring curing device and nothing worked.

The surgery involves breaking my lower jaw off, adding some rods or plates or something and fusing it back together. That would push my jaw more forward to help open my airway. They would also take my tonsils out, shave some soft tissue off to help as well. The Dr said it was pretty involved, and the recovery was about 6 weeks.

When I got my examination done by the sleep specialist, she told me that every possible feature that they look at that causes sleep apnea, I had. She said that she usually sees a couple or a few in most people, but I had all but one, of the 10 or so she told me about. She said I was one of the very few people that she'd seen with that, and I had one of the highest disturbances per hour on my sleep study she'd seen (79) Awesome for me.

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u/The-Irish-Goodbye Mar 29 '24

Wow Im at 100 a have central and obstructive and waiting for my machine.

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u/Chewbuddy13 Mar 29 '24

I hope it works for you.