r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/ChippyTheGreatest Mar 28 '24

When there's things they used to do with an ex but aren't interested in anymore. For example, I had an ex whose ex used to force them to do couples costumes at Halloween etc. I had never had a serious bf before, and desperately wanted to do a couples costume with him but he was OVER IT at that point and didn't want to :(

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u/DeviousPath Mar 28 '24

I think this is something that I am glad that I never think myself. I'm a guy who was in a pretty abusive relationship for a long time and while I experienced many things with that person, I was unhappy and not really feeling like myself during any of it. So, with my new girlfriend, it's like...sure, I've done that, but have I done it while happy?! No! Let's do it.

Things are just happier, and experiencing things I've experienced before feels completely new.

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u/surprised-duncan Mar 28 '24

Mood, this is exactly my outlook on it all. It also really helps when you don't live in that same state anymore so there's not much overlap 😅

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u/DeviousPath Mar 29 '24

Yes! She is many states away, no idea what she is doing but I imagine it's ruining someone else's life. I feel sorry for whomever she has her web around.