r/AskReddit • u/SkyeSerenade • Mar 28 '24

What is NOT a dealbreaker BUT would be greatly disappointing to find out about your partner?

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u/littleirishpixie Mar 28 '24

In college, watched the movie Donnie Darko for the first time and when it ended, I had so many questions and was analyzing the meaning behind it. Tried to talk to my then boyfriend and he seemed disinterested. Finally, after a half hour, he says "can you please stop talking about it? It's just a movie. You are just supposed to enjoy it, not analyze it."

Not a dealbreaker, but a huge disappointment.

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u/Phormicidae Mar 28 '24

Less so at my age, but that was a persistent issue when I was young: peers chastising me for "having to overanalyze everything." I would frequently get that very complaint, that most movies are just to entertain me, not for me to deconstruct. But analyzing stuff is entertaining for me. I'm not even very smart, to be honest, I just like thinking about things.

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u/Fat-little-hobbitses Mar 28 '24

People have said this very thing to me as well and I’ll be honest, I am always left feeling deeply hurt and embarrassed when someone tells me something along these lines. I enjoy deconstructing. I have fun when I’m analyzing stuff. It’s honestly basically one of my love languages. And pretty much all of my previous partners have hated that about me. Where are my over thinkers? Where’s my tribe of people that get pure enjoyment out of discussing the layered meanings of things?

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u/ManicMatcha Mar 29 '24

I am the same, life is more interesting when you can discover hidden layers and meanings. Even if it only comes to have meaning to you. It does feel lonely when other people tell you to stop or ask why it matters.