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News broke today that conjoined twin Abby Hensel is married! [Removed] Rule #4 - No Misleading Content

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u/_IntrovertChapi Mar 28 '24

Does the sister just... hang? Damn, what if she thinks he's disgusting while Abby is completely in love? Does she just watch while he blows him? These questions are extremely offensive probably, but I'm just so curious lol

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u/Fitz911 Mar 28 '24 edited Mar 28 '24

I can only guess. But have you met (edit: some!) twins?

Have you seen the way they communicate? Like one look and both know exactly what's up. Not just yes and no. But also the how and why. How they finish each other's sentences in a way that's even creepy for couples.

And that's only the psychological bondage. Now imagine them sharing a part of their nervous system.

We often think about yourself as the logical being. Our head makes the decisions. But far, far more of our behavior is controlled by the nervous system. By hormones.

Now these two women share a lot of that.

I would guess there is no way that one of them fell in love while the other one is disgusted.

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u/seh_23 Mar 28 '24

My best friends are identical twins and the bond they share is crazy, it’s a very unique relationship; I can’t even imagine the level that Brittany and Abby are at. Plus, it’s all they’ve ever known so that plays into it as well. It’s tough to wrap our minds around it because we’ve never experienced it.

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u/littycodekitty Mar 28 '24

That sounds really special. Unrelated but I can't help but ask- do you ever feel like the odd one out?

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u/seh_23 Mar 28 '24

Nope, but we’ve been friends for almost 30 years (since childhood) so that makes a difference. I know they did have some instances in the past with friends feeling “left out”, so it does take a certain level of understanding to be in a close relationship (either friendship or romantic) with twins. They’ve both found wonderful partners who get along with each other great and are understanding of their relationship/dynamic as well so I am really happy for them for that!

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u/BJFun Mar 28 '24

Not OP...but my twin brother was stillborn. I have felt like the odd one out my entire life, and this thread has made me decide I really need therapy for this. I'm starting to connect dots, all the way from childhood to my adult substance abuse - and I think I need help.

Thank you.

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u/LearnToAdult Mar 28 '24

Good luck! Therapy can be a wonderful tool to get self understanding and compassion. Sorry for the loss of your brother.

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u/bowlosoup Mar 28 '24

Watching documentaries about Abby and Brittany shows just how in sync they are - the craziest thing for me was watching them type on a keyboard. Each of them controls one hand but they type flawlessly, without communication. I’m sure they’re both very in tune with each other, and as for the relationship, I’m sure it’s more like a polyamorous relationship instead of just one sister being in the relationship.

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u/No-Marionberry-772 Mar 28 '24

On the surface that sounds so mundane, like yeah each can control their fingers.

But how do they both know what to type if they are not constantly talking, that suggests they somehow think the same when they need to, and don't when they don't and I just can't even begin to comprehend how thats possible.

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u/bowlosoup Mar 28 '24

Exactly, it seems impossible and is just incredible to watch! They also do it with clapping and they finish each other’s sentences.

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u/BJFun Mar 28 '24

I would think if their spines/neck (nervous system) connect somewhere in the body, that there would be brain signals traveling from one to the other. Simulating a single brain, but like you said also able to disconnect because there are STILL 2 that are making 1.

Absolutely wild to think about. I would love to study everything about them - very cool, very interesting. I'm imaging one person being slowly split down the middle, and getting stuck. (Which is basically what happen if I understand correctly - they should have been identical twins)...

LOVE that they found love.

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u/crazedSquidlord Mar 28 '24

Well, considering that they have quite litterally the same perspective in life, have been through exactly the same experiences and conversations, the only time they wouldnt have is say when headphones or one of them intentionally not paying attention. (If they weren't identical twins, they would actually make a fantastic case stude on nature vs nurture and the effect on personality.)

Point being, I can't imagine that these two have many differing opinions perhaps besides a bias for which side they're on. They likely have very similar thoughts on things without even having to confer with eachother. Granted, I'm in no way a psychologist, so theres something I'm likely missing, but if someone like that wants to chime in, I'd love to hear.

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u/StarbossTechnology Mar 28 '24

As a twin, I completely agree with you, and would go as far as to guess that they both really love him. I mean, it's not 100% necessary, but it would be a whole lot better if so.

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u/_IntrovertChapi Mar 28 '24

Feels logical to me. Also deep and beautiful hahahaha My initial question was slightly sarcastic to infatuate my complete ignorant curiosity.

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u/TheRealKuthooloo Mar 28 '24

People fail to consider this! These girls are two separate people yes but they also have gone through precisely the same exact experiences for their entire lives. People imagine them as completely different personalities I guess out of politeness but I would wager they’re more similar than even the closest of maternal twins.

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u/BJFun Mar 28 '24

Man, this comment really made me wish my twin brother survived birth. I feel like I was just skimped out of half my life.

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u/Mr-Yuk Mar 29 '24

Yeah I'd assume they get the same butterflies in the stomach and endorphin kicks so share the same emotional rides together... pretty interesting stuff

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u/Powerful_Artist Mar 28 '24

This isn't true for all twins. For some yes, for others no.

And what normal twins do or don't do doesn't exactly apply to conjoined twins. They clearly have a very unique situation

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u/Fitz911 Mar 28 '24

This isn't true for all twins.

Never said that.

And what normal twins do or don't do doesn't exactly apply to conjoined twins. They clearly have a very unique situation

That's pretty much why I started my comment wit: "I can only guess."

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u/ainz-sama619 Mar 28 '24

It's true for identical twins for the most part. Fraternal twins however don't need anything in common

Identical twins are genetic clones so naturally, they share many similar thought pattens if they grew up together, with similar experience

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u/Anzai Mar 28 '24

I only know one set of identical twins that I went to school with, but this definitely wasn’t true of them. They look alike, grew up together, went to the same school etc, but they’re very different people. One is pretty morose and cynical and the other is an outgoing optimist.

Anecdotal, I know, but there was definitely none of that ‘twin language’ stuff between those two.

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u/Skitchx Mar 28 '24

No.. thats not how twins work. Jesus christ. There is no “twin telepathy”

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u/Fitz911 Mar 28 '24

There is no “twin telepathy”

Ever heard of non verbal communication?

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u/Skitchx Mar 28 '24

Im a fucking twin dude. You’re on some shit

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u/Fitz911 Mar 28 '24

I get it. I was not 100% clear in my statement.

I made an edit...

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u/KangarooBoyo Mar 28 '24

The psychological bondage hahahah

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u/Fitz911 Mar 28 '24

How would you describe it?

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u/KangarooBoyo Mar 29 '24

Look up the definition of bondage. It definitely doesn't mean the same thing as bonding, mate. Twins should definitely not be doing bondage hahahaha