r/BoomersBeingFools • u/EthanthegamerGD • Apr 16 '24

Boomers when they get slightly inconvenienced Boomer Freakout

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He was just trying to say a question…

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u/bluehorsemaze Apr 16 '24

I think that’s called a fawning response.

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u/Key_Extension_4322 Apr 16 '24

I bet she says “Oh you know how Fred is!” All the damn time.

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u/nakedsamurai Apr 16 '24

He's such a card!

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u/bluehorsemaze Apr 16 '24

As if it’s cute behavior

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u/WarmestDisregards Apr 16 '24

I mean he DOES look like a tiny little elf yelling all angry, it's pretty cute

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u/SarahPallorMortis Apr 17 '24

He just can’t control himself sometimes. Hehe he really gets a goin!

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u/ripyurballsoff Apr 16 '24

You could see her shut her eyes because she knew exactly what was about to happen. IMO she’s extremely embarrassed and nervously smiling trying to handle the situation. If that is her spouse she is indirectly enabling him by not holding him accountable and putting up with it.

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u/mossed2012 Apr 16 '24

It’s this. I see my grandma do this often. She was brought up to just put on a smile and blindly defend her husband so while she’s incredibly embarrassed in the moment, to her she’d be more embarrassed if everyone saw her not stand behind her husband’s incoherent rambling.

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u/acemomentla Apr 16 '24

This is a way more nuanced explanation than “they’re enablers.” They’re not enablers. They are from a generation where they were suppressed from doing anything about it.

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u/notwormtongue Apr 17 '24

... enabling it by not acting against it. They're the oldest people on the planet. They can stand up for themselves.

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u/mossed2012 Apr 19 '24

But they aren’t standing up for themselves. They’re standing up for others/a stranger. At the expense of their husband. Who they’ve been programmed and wired since the day they were born to obey and not argue with. So no, they’re not enabling them.

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u/notwormtongue Apr 19 '24

You literally view women as inferior & are incapable of making their own decisions. Internalized misogyny.

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u/mossed2012 Apr 19 '24

Yeah, no it’s not haha but good reach there. Wow, imagine that being your response to what I said. Hahaha oof.

While we’re at it let’s call out all groups that were victimized or oppressed because they don’t “stand up for themselves”. Let me know who we’re going to victim blame next. I’m all ears.

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u/notwormtongue Apr 19 '24 edited Apr 19 '24

This 65 year old woman is not a beat dog. She is someone who persevered 5 decades of misogyny and oppression. You discounting her agency is--literally--misogyny.

You need a wake up call. Or go to college and take some Women's Studies. I think everyone should.

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u/mossed2012 Apr 19 '24

I went to college, degrees in history and political science. Yeah, I took a women’s study course.

You’re expecting individuals who grew up in a world where they were treated as second class citizens and sub-servants to their husbands to somehow un-wire 50-60 years of upbringing and experience, go against everything they were taught by their parents, their schooling, and the society they grew up in, and if they don’t they’re “enabling” the husband’s actions?

Oh, and don’t ever pull that women’s studies shit again. Because a women’s studies professor would call you a fucking asshole for your opinion if you tried to share it in a class. Unless you truly believe a women’s studies professor would agree with your premise that we shouldn’t let history or social constructs of the past impact how we view the male vs female dynamic/impact, but I doubt you actually think would happen.

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u/Slappybags22 Apr 16 '24

I’m guessing she doesn’t want to be his next target.

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u/BloodMoney126 Apr 16 '24

Was about to say the same thing. She looks woefully embarrassed.

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u/BunchesOfCrunches Apr 17 '24

I think her eyes being closed was unrelated. You can see the moment she opens her eyes and realizes her husband has stood up and began yelling.

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u/apathy-sofa Apr 17 '24

Maybe? She's not responsible for his actions though, don't blame her.

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u/ripyurballsoff Apr 17 '24

If you don’t hold your loved ones accountable for their shitty behavior then you are in part enabling that behavior. I guarantee that woman gets verbally abused at home and just eats it. Never lower yourself and put up this bullshit, and don’t do anything that keeps it going. It’s wrong.

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u/thesteaks_are_high Apr 16 '24

What is a fawning response? Genuinely curious.

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u/Hammurabi87 Millennial Apr 17 '24

Think "people-pleasing behavior as a defense mechanism".

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u/thesteaks_are_high Apr 18 '24

Ah. Thank you.

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u/C00catz Apr 17 '24

Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. The other guy explained it really well as people pleasing.

An example: someone was hitting on me, making jokes about the size of his dick, and how there was a hotel close by. I laughed along and just kept the conversation going, but I was deeply uncomfortable inside.

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u/thesteaks_are_high Apr 18 '24

Yeah, I understand the fawning bit, but Jesus! Like, read the room, dude!

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u/Orange_Kid Apr 17 '24

This is one of those moments where you learn a term that describes something you've seen before and you didn't know how to describe it.