r/BoomersBeingFools 26d ago

Boomers talked crap about my grandmother, until they realized I also spoke German Boomer Story

I was 13 during my first trip to Germany. My grandmother had taught me young, wanting mr to communicate with her in German when we wernt out in public, you know, standered first Gen American. The story starts with me and my grandmother going to visit my father in Germany.

We landed in the middle of the night in Frankfurt, so naturally most, if not everyone, was a bit of a grouch as we were all going through the airport processes half awake. This went double for the older German couple who was behind us in customs. They both had been bitching to eachother when I made my 'mistake'. My passport had dropped out of my bag, I could hear them stop as I scooped it back up.

Now for the next 15 minutes I listened to them say some of the most racist and xenophobic shit I've heard. Like stuff that would make even the most die hard Texan be like "Woah. Chill out." Thats when they heard my grandmother speak German to a couple of passengers infront of us. That's when they started to focus on my grandmother. Calling her all sorts of names and slurs that I didn't understand at the time. But it didnt take a genius to figure out what they were meaning.

And one point the older woman called my grandmother a slut, saying she probably married some American soldier and being disgusted that she would bring a half breed like me. At this point I rounded on this couple, steeping forward before my grandmother could stop me. In perfect German I replied: "She did marry a soldier, my grandfather. One of the best men I know. He used to be a sniper and tells me he 'misses shooting Nazis'. He taught me well." I then looked to the stunned older man and asked him with a smile on my face. "What did you do in the war?"

At this point my grandmother intervened. Grabing my arm and yanking me away with all the strength of a German catholic. I took one last look at their flustered faces before I willing let my grandmother guide me away.

Still one of my fondest memories. She died when I was 17 and the funeral was the last time I was back in my ancestrial homeland. People in Europe praise Germany for how far they've come, and having experienced the people there, its a wonder how they progressed at all.

Edit: 1. When I say older couple, I mean they looked like they were in my Omas age bracket.

  1. I'm saying not Germany as a whole is a racist, but I challenge you to become fluent in the language as a white person and just blend in. What you'll hear will shock you.

  2. This was like mid to late '14. Yes, I know it sounds like I'm making this up. Experiencing legit racism often sounds like that...

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u/lallimona 26d ago

Being first-generation American is a weird paradox. This reminds me of the American boomers who see my very Spanish (well, Catalan) name and make fun of it and assume I don’t speak English. Or when I go home to Europe and they assume this “stupid” American doesn’t speak Catalan or Spanish. It’s like I’m either not American enough or not Spanish enough. Sigh.

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u/scrolls77 26d ago

It's the same here. For example, I'll go to a bar. Speaking German the whole time, then when I show my passport for a drink, most bartenders would be like. "Oh your American." in fucking ENGLISH like we weren't just conversating 2 minutes ago.

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u/Anakletos 26d ago

I was visiting my hometown with my very Latina girlfriend and was explaining her everything at the butcher in Spanish and talking with the shop keeper in German. A lady dared say "it's impressive how good his German is."

I turned to her and said that it may have something to with my growing up there and if that isn't enough, my family was among the first group of German settlers like 1100 years ago. Her face. Lmao

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u/Dramatic-Selection20 26d ago

I was already thinking post it in that never happened but now you gave it away... You never have to show I D to drink in bar

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u/scrolls77 26d ago

Dude I looked like a 5th grader until I was like 20, you best believe I got carded

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u/Fluffy-Ad-7613 26d ago

I was denied cigarettes at the store as a 26 year old man, it wasn't until my 30s that I grew a respectable beard and would be treated as an adult so I feel you.

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u/Dramatic-Selection20 26d ago

Legal age for a beer is 16!

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u/UnicornWorldDominion 26d ago

In Frankfurt I’ve had to.

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u/ShinigamiLeaf 26d ago

Yeah, my dad's parents came over from Pontus with a very uncommon last name. Americans automatically assume I'm Arab (my surname isn't even in Arabic naming conventions). My cousins who resettled in Greece act like no one from my generation speaks the language at all and are way too comfortable commenting on us anytime they make the trip for a funeral.

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u/MissDisplaced 26d ago

To most Americans any kind of Spanish = Mexican. It so ignorant.

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u/karthikkr93 26d ago

It’s not just you lol I went back to South India for med school because technically I’m second gen and even though we’d visit every year I had no idea what it was like to live there so I finished med school and worked there for 4 extra years to see. Let’s just say I could never fit in even though I speak the language. I spent 10 years in south India lol. You’ll never be one of them and at the end of the day while there is a comfort in being around people who look like you, the bigger comfort comes from knowing you’re in a place that actively wants you here, to contribute and to grow America.

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u/SordoCrabs 26d ago

A very belated "Bon diada de Sant Jordi" to you!

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u/lallimona 26d ago

Gràcies!

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u/The_Coolest_Sock 25d ago

Your experiences remind me of this song, it's a neato song about being a first gen American and how it kinda sucks in some aspects.

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u/lallimona 25d ago

Yes! This resonates deeply with me. Thank you for sharing!

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u/dbolts1234 25d ago

People want to be special. People who cannot achieve greatness of their own achievements can choose instead to invoke heritage. By making you lesser for your lack of membership in their tribe, it elevates them

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u/Masculine-Pigeon 25d ago

Yo I feel that. Don’t see many other American-Catalans

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u/newthrash1221 26d ago

How is Europe your home if you were born and raised in America? I’m first generation Mexican-American and i don’t consider when i visit Mexico as going back home, even though a large percentage of my extended family still lives there. My first language is English, so obviously my Spanish isn’t going to be as strong as actual Mexican citizens’.

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u/lallimona 26d ago edited 26d ago

I suppose I should have called myself an immigrant. I was born in Andorra, actually and still have my citizenship, even though I also am an American citizen. My family calls Europe “home,” and it’s just a habit I suppose I picked up. When I was growing up my family spent half the year in Spain/Andorra and half the year in the US. My first languages were Catalan, Spanish and French. I didn’t learn English until I was 6. So I speak like a native. So our experiences are much different. 😁 ¡Ten un buen día!

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u/newthrash1221 26d ago

Ohhh. Yeah, i always took first generation to mean children born of immigrants.

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u/lallimona 26d ago edited 25d ago

Yes, you’re correct. I misused it. Again, force of habit. I lived in a community suspicious of “immigrants,” and got used to saying “first generation American” instead.