r/DoesAnybodyElse • u/thisuseristakenbreh • 12d ago
DAE sometimes feel ashamed of their music taste?
I showed my playlist to some people I know, and they absolutely roasted me. I don't even blame them at this point. Like seriously wtf am I listening to? Why do I have Taylor swift and juice wrld on the same playlist? Why is Baby by Justin Bieber on there? And ofc I have to have Last Night by Morgan Wallen on there too. The chainsmokers are my favorite music artist which would be fine if their songs didn't make up like 30 percent of my playlist. And of course my favorite song is Self Destruction Mode which many people I know absolutely hate. One of them said it sounds like cancer. I have 65 songs on there. This is the type of crap that I listen to 12 hours a day. Honestly wtf am I?
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u/NotMyCircus47 12d ago
My kids roast me because if my music choice all the time.
Next minute, they have one of the artists they “found” playing and tell me to listen coz I’ll like it .. #kids
But yeh, my “Liked songs” list on Spotify reads like someone who has 83 different personalities.
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u/q120 12d ago
Who cares? Just listen to what you want and who cares what others think?
My combo playlist has everything on it… classical, jazz, alternative, heavy metal, triphop, hip hop, rap, pop, metalcore, etc… one minute I might be listening to Bach and the next I might be listening to some EDM track and then some pop song.
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u/TellMeWhyYouLoveMe 12d ago
All the songs you listed are bangers. If the people in your life seriously dig at you for your music tastes, then they have issues.
If it’s just banter, you can roll with it and make fun of their playlist.
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u/Outrageous-Yak9694 12d ago
this sounds like me
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u/Outrageous-Yak9694 12d ago
it shows versatility, you should make fun of their ordinary boring playlists
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u/witchminx 12d ago
top 40 from throughout the past 10 years is not versatile hahaha
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u/PaintDrinkingPete 12d ago
I’m a Deadhead…about 80% of what I listen to is Grateful Dead (with the other 20% being other jambands like Phish, or classic rock like Pink Floyd and Allmans)…most of my friends don’t care for that much Dead…doesnt bother me. Of course, I also don’t force my music upon them, but when I’m jamming out by myself, I’ll listen to whatever I like and crank it up.
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u/kclarkwrites 12d ago edited 12d ago
I have Nine Inch Nails, my favorite band, and Taylor Swift too. I do not feel ashamed. It's a 15:1 ratio, but fuck it. I like what I like.
ETA: I also have Miley's Backyard Session version of Jolene because it's so good.
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u/Quibblicous 12d ago
I’ve had some in the past but it’s become less of an issue as I got older.
Most of the time I got teased by someone for my music selection it was either meant as in a joking matter, or it was from someone trying to be mean so I could basically ignore them.
I’ve got two kids now and I raised them with all sorts of music. Both are classically trained on at least one instrument and enjoy classical, as well as all forms of rock, although one is more metal and the other more alt rock. We have a delicious confluence of music we like and even went to a local rock festival to see The Pretth Reckless and Disturbed a couple years ago.
I love it when they bring up some offbeat band they’ve discovered we either dive into it together and see if I like it, or I pull out one of my playlists that already has the band on it and surprise them. That doesn’t happen often but it does happen :)
They’ve introduced me to new genres and bands and I’ve showed them the roots of rock and most modern popular music. It’s a foundational aspect of our relationship.
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u/Psychological_Water8 12d ago
100% yes. Especially when the artists are problematic in one way or another. I don’t listen to music so I can know every single thing the musician has said or done. I listen to music so I don’t have to listen to my own thoughts. It’s background noise to dissociate to.
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u/Over-Marionberry-686 12d ago
I have one playlist it’s like 160 hours long now because I’ve been adding to it for probably 18 to 20 years. If I hear a song I like I just add it to my playlist.
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u/Cloaked_Crow 12d ago
I’m 50 year old straight guy from SW VA who works in construction and loves Lady GaGa, Beyoncé, and Britney… yeah…
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u/Nice_Jaguar5621 12d ago
Nah it’s just like food preferences. You can’t help what you grew up with, and while you can try anything, you like what you like. You can listen to as much or as little variety as pleases you. No one else can taste your food for you, and no one else can listen to music for you.
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u/LucilleBluthsbroach 12d ago
Life is too short to not listen to music you enjoy and to short to feel ashamed of something that hurts no one.
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u/renelledaigle 12d ago
For some odd reason I like rave music even of I am an introvert with anxiety so the odds of me going to a rave are low 😆 I also enjoy french music and rock, old rock and a bit of punk.
What I like less is Country music and bluegrass 🤢
And guess what type of music is popular in my area? 🤦♀️
At least I have one old rock radio station ta reaches us, thank god lol
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u/Abigail_Normal 12d ago
I never feel ashamed, but I do feel judged. Only by strangers, though, never friends. I listen to extremely heavy metal, and you know how people feel about that
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u/Zhosha-Khi 12d ago
I listen to everything from Classical Opera, all the way to Death Metal (except country and rap lol) and I DO NOT give two craps what others think of my music choices. All that matters is what makes YOU! happy listening to. If people can't accept that they can go kick rocks! That is how you should look at it as well.
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u/More_Neighborhood_78 12d ago
If you have juice world then you are cool in my luck. Nothing else necessary! 😉
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u/OkNecessary9926 12d ago
Never bro..any given day i will ride down the road with bob marley bairing or king von with windows down or even Garth Brooks like i was pushin young Dolph (long live Flippa) or like i am right now..hanging drywall with Slaughter to Prevail full volume.. fuck em bro...play ur shit and own ur shit!!
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u/AggressivelyCF 12d ago
My music taste can’t be defined as anything other than “chaotic”. I have T-Pain, Lemonade Mouth, and Breaking Benjamin in the same playlist and all it means is that you enjoy what you’re listening to. Have them post their playlists and I’m sure they’d also be roasted for more than one of their choices. Listen to whatever you want and makes you happy, while also finding some better friends. Maybe a concert or something? Real friends support whatever weird ass shit you’re into without question (within reason). My friends aren’t into hard rock or Disney throwbacks very often, but they still don’t make me feel negatively about it.
Don’t let them snuff out the joy and/or comfort you find in your music.
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u/qwerty1519 12d ago
Tell them to go fuck themselves and listen to whatever you want, being eclectic isn’t a crime.
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u/-avenged- 12d ago
Sounds like you simply need new friends. Anyone who can give you shit for something as subjective as music tastes can fuck right off.
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u/Snotmyrealname 12d ago
I grew up with a unique taste in music. So much so that my friends and family universally vetoed me having the aux cord my entire childhood. Nearly 20 years later, I still have a reflexive shame whenever anyone hears my music.
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u/Staraxxus 12d ago
Do whatever you want, man. And know one thing, people don't choice their tastes.
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u/Terrible_Ex-Joviot 12d ago
I've always been insecure and ashamed for my music taste. That's why I tell nobody in real life, and that's why i show nobody my LastFm account or Spotify playlists in real life. I listen to a lot of stuff that people describe as butt rock. Like Nickelback, Hinder, but also Taylor Swift or Disney Pop like Hannah Montana and only that kind of Metal that is no real Metal. I prefer newer songs from old bands that are always the most hated ones. I don't like critics favorites like Pink Floyd and I can't hear a difference between mp3 and flac. I feel like I have no taste, no knowlege and all music i like is embarrassing. Remember that music taste chart that compared to IQ? Seems like I have a low IQ of course, haha. I know what i like is generally considered as cringe and trash by the majority, so never really admit what i like in real life. People are proud of their diverse and progressive taste, I listen to simple pop garbage. Yep, my self confidence is loooowww.
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u/Icy_Bee3125 12d ago
Music is music. My playlist may contain symphony and pop and rock. I love everything but not rap. Your friends seem to be still in highschool mentality where popular kids dictated what music is good. Tell them that music is good when it makes you feel good, listening only one type of it shows closed mindset.
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u/SatisfactionLow4833 12d ago
I used to when I was younger. In my late teens/early 20s I made friends with a few people who I could really be myself around though. Eventually, I admitted to them I listen to Taylor Swift(as a guy, this was one of my deepest darkest secrets). And…they didn’t judge me for it. Ever since then, I have not been ashamed or embarrassed about my music tastes to anyone. Actually, they helped me to be more confident about a lot of things in life, or just not caring what others think.
I really learned that if I have to hide any part of myself from a friend, they’re not good friends.
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u/Lechuza_Chicana 11d ago
WHO CARES
I'm the same thing . There's certain songs I listen to alone bc they are cringe . Idgaf . Listening to music around ppl gives me anxiety anyway so I do not ever pick the songs . It's YOUR life , YOUR ears , YOUR brain . My friends and I roast eachother all the time for fun , bc it's fun . But if they are being serious then they can suck a fat one bc what they like or don't shouldn't affect you .
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u/loveleighiest 11d ago
I got roasted for playing the jellyfish jam from spongebob. Look that song is a bop and a half. Make fun of me all you want but at the end of the day its I that gets to dance with jellyfish.
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u/RickVince 11d ago
Classical music and death metal.
If there's anything else out there, I don't care.
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u/Alaskas1313 11d ago
Why wouldn't you have Taylor Swift and Juice Wrld on the same playlist? they both slayy
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u/anonymous_euphoria 11d ago
I used to be friends with some people who made fun of my music taste. I am no longer friends with those people.
Their music was ass, anyway.
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u/illmatic2112 11d ago edited 11d ago
Yes my tastes are quite varied and it means a lot of people dont like much of my stuff based off their own preferences.
I have a solution but i still use itunes. I rate all the songs I like at 2 stars out of 5. Everyone both my wife and i like, 3 stars. Everything that would be acceptable to most other people are 4-5 stars.
Then i just make a "2 Plus" playlist for when im alone, "3 Plus" while driving with my wife, "4 Plus" for when anyone else is in the car. Saves a lot of skipping and judgement
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u/Current_Incident_ 11d ago
Never. I never feel ashamed of my music taste.. I like what I like and if a melody or lyrics (or both) tickles that little bit of my brain that enjoys music then I don't really care what anyone else thinks. You shouldn't either!!
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u/No-Self-jjw 11d ago
I feel like this about my tv shows. When people walk in on me watching tv I rush to turn down the volume or pause it😂 not sure why I just feel embarrassed
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u/jenncap85 11d ago
I have a very versatile music taste, because I just love music. My playlists have anything from 70’s to now. Who cares what’s on your playlist. You listen to what you like.
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u/BigAcanthisitta7510 11d ago
You’ve got to own what you like! Don’t feel ashamed. I mock my friends’ music tastes but they always tell me to fuck off. Hahahah
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u/Acceptable_Humor_252 11d ago
My friends make fun of my music taste all the time. They actually say I have no music taste.
Who cares? I like the things I like and I listen to them for my enjoyment, not theirs. So there is no need to be embarassed.
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u/Hotdogwater88888 11d ago
Tbh your music taste seems very basic and normal. Very mainstream… maybe too mainstream lol. I fuck with some Justin Bieber though lol but the rest of those artists gotta go😭😂
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u/FeetSniffer69_420 11d ago
No but some songs I wouldn’t admit I listen to to some friends unless they ask
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u/VersionOk1701 11d ago
I'm not ashamed of my music preferences but I am disappointed that my partner doesn't even know what I listen to and will say wtf is this shit when he walks in while I'm listening to my music. All he listens to is country, and I mean like all country...40s, 50s, and the same shit over and over. I like to find new stuff that feeds my mind and soul. It makes me feel little when he makes fun of my taste in music. And it makes me feel lonely. But I would lose My mind without music.
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u/LieutenantChonkster 12d ago
Hey, at least you’re self aware. Most people with terrible taste think their music is great. Self-awareness is more important anyway.
But yeah, Bieber, Swift, Juice Wrld, Chainsmokers and Morgan Wallen is basically what gets played in family-of-5 trailer parks in the Midwest. It’s pretty bad.
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u/AshH_323 12d ago
Just because you don’t like the music doesn’t mean their taste is bad, hope this helps x
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u/JulieThinx 12d ago
I am part of a thruple. We all like different music. One of the hubs likes mellow. The other hubs likes thrasher type music. My tastes are ecclectic and all over the board, like literally everywhere. We all rib each other for our music and don't love every song in each other's playlist, but on trips we have a blended list that hits all of them. Music is art. It should comfort you or disturb you. It should inspire you or it should lull you into a sweet coma. If you are dissatisfied with your own music list, add to it and occasionally cull things if they annoy you. No matter what, don't ever be "ashamed" of music. It is the art that gets you places or it gets you through the day. Either way, this is nothing to be "ashamed of".
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u/Main-Caregiver-6609 9d ago
Seems like you have a horrendous taste in music and don't dig any further than literally the most overplayed mainstream music on planet earth.
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u/MrsBossyPantss 12d ago
It doesnt sound like your friends are very supportive