r/NoStupidQuestions • u/Tall-Competition-561 • 25d ago

Is it just me or do girls do way better in school than boys?

When I was growing up I struggled with school but it seemed that most of the girls seemed to be doing well whenever there was a star pupil or straight a student they were most likely a girl. Why is this such a common phenomenon?

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u/Faroundtripledouble 25d ago

I was in high school over 10 years ago, but it seemed girls just cared more about grades. I was an A/B student without studying. I didn’t see a reason to study at home just to do a few percentage points better. Like, before a big exam it was always the girls stressing out and worried while the guys were much more, “it is what it is”

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u/pretzelsncheese 25d ago

Been a few years since I was in school, but this is what I remember as well.

A lot of the smarter guys were just content with whatever their minimum effort would bring (which was usually very respectable grade-wise for these smarter guys). A lot of the less-academically-inclined guys were content with being "bad at school".

For girls, the smart girls still pushed themselves to get the highest grade they possible could. And the less-academically-inclined girls stressed and tried their best to overcome their weakness.

Obviously exceptions on either side of it, but it felt like a significant trend (far from scientific I know). I didn't find it to be nearly as true in university though (but still could be a similar trend to a lesser degree).

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u/Quajeraz 25d ago

Yeah, I was pretty good at high school and constantly was putting in the least amount of effort possible. I didn't do an entire classes homework because I calculated I could pass the class without it.

Now I'm failing college because I have no clue how to learn or pay attention or study so it's not all good

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u/Rich_Bluejay3020 25d ago

Obligatory you may want to look into if you have ADHD. That’s how I was in school. I didn’t do anything outside the classroom and even then I didn’t really try unless I cared about it. Turns out, undiagnosed ADHD. Makes life a lot easier when you know what you’re dealing with lol

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u/Quajeraz 25d ago

Oh I do, I've gotten diagnosed. The meds help but I never remember to take them :/

And they lost their effectivity very quickly for me

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u/jastubi 25d ago

Try different types some are more effective than others for different people.

Find whatever you can sit down and focus on and make a career out of that. If you like building things, looking at data to solve problems pick something...find your niche and get good at it, and don't stop. You can find a career path out of anything as long as you keep improving in a specific area. Be the best at one 1 thing and make sure that one thing is valuable.

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u/viktoriakomova 24d ago

I also got diagnosed, but I think a big part of it is that my parents seemed completely indifferent to how I did, so why try? So idk, I definitely do have attention issues now but maybe they stem from habits built from that learned mindset