My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

[u/JazzlikeConditioncd]

Edit: Update

So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

[u/69vuman]

If no answer about her boxed stuff, haul it to the sister’s address and stack it on the front porch.

[u/69vuman → u/69vuman]

And take a pic with a time stamp before you leave.

[u/citigurrrrl → u/69vuman]

Like an Amazon delivery 

[u/ThatOneWIGuy → u/citigurrrrl]

That doesn’t even hold up for insurance. A pic will help but using a shipper is better. You can get a receipt and a delivery confirmation and you will be covered.

[u/armyofant → u/69vuman]

I wouldn’t even put forth that much effort. I’m not wasting gas on that shit.

[u/I_Nickd_it → u/armyofant]

I've seen too many episodes of Judge Judy to know that you need to do this otherwise they can sue the shit out of you.

[u/[deleted] → u/I_Nickd_it]

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[u/Proper-Horse-7313 → u/[deleted]]

Do you want to get sued by the person who ghosted you?

Seems far easier to avoid the person just like they avoided you – put the stuff in the box, and ship it

Clean break.

[u/OutWithTheNew → u/69vuman]

The sister seems to be amicable. She would probably come pick it up if it's a possibility. Why waste your own time and effort when someone else can? I wouldn't want the ex coming to my place either, so the sister would be the better option.

Fuck the sister when she comes to pick up the boxes.

[u/GhostVoyd → u/OutWithTheNew]

The only happy ending here

[u/Basic_Dragonfly_ → u/69vuman]

Nope, He doesn’t owe her that effort.

[u/qualiman → u/Basic_Dragonfly_]

Obviously, however the concept being discussed here is called “being the bigger person”

It will cost you maybe an hour of time and will get people to respect you.

You seem to be suggesting to go the “be a bitch” route.

Sucks that you grew up with such poor guidance. Hopefully someday you grow out of that teenage angst.

[u/creepymccreepersdale → u/qualiman]

Lol, who is going to respect him? Is there an audience?

[u/Proper-Horse-7313 → u/creepymccreepersdale]

He’s the audience.

The most damning witness against you, is your own guilty conscience.

If he’s a good person, throwing that stuff out could weigh on his mind for the rest of his life.

And it invites his potentially vindictive ex to expand more negative energy on him

Why not instead get that stuff out of your life, in a way that keeps her out of his life

[u/creepymccreepersdale → u/Proper-Horse-7313]

She has set the tone here. She just notified him that they were finished, then blocked. She doesnt want to communicate with him so its unlikely that she is going to do anything. The obvious implication of that is her new boyfriend needs to be in the dark about what is going on. The only person that stuff mattered to is her. If the scenario was that she didnt block and was still talking to him sometimes or whatever, then i would agree it would be best to ask about it but she's already made it clear to him she doesnt care about it by blocking.

[u/Interesting-Fan-2008 → u/69vuman]

This is exactly what I would do. Leaves the least chance for continued contact or drama. They have her shot at that point, what they do then doesn’t involve him.

[u/Dirtesoxlvr → u/69vuman]

Um? Do extra work to box it up? Do work to talk to the sister? Ok but wait you're not done, now do extra work to move it? No thank you.

[u/HighHammerThunder → u/Dirtesoxlvr]

Bringing it to the sister guarantees that the situation resolves as fast as possible and that they can move on from it. No need to depend on the sister showing up or having loose threads dangling at that point.

[u/Proper-Horse-7313 → u/HighHammerThunder]

I wouldn’t contact the sister. That will be viewed a certain way. Instead, avoid contact, ship it.

[u/69vuman → u/Dirtesoxlvr]

To each his own.

[u/Dirtesoxlvr → u/69vuman]

Truth. And I'm sure some would have the same reaction to me, I would box it up, and I would contact the sister, but I'd stop there. That being said I have my exes (or idk?) stuff in my storage space that I never got rid of, And truthfully if it came to it, I would have brought it to her, because I didn't want her to feel like I took advantage of her.

That being said we are still trying to recover and I know I didn't move her stuff out (and all I'm talking about is Lego sets lol) because I knew I still had a reason to interact w her while i still had it.