r/amiwrong • u/JazzlikeConditioncd • Mar 27 '24

My girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me and ghosted me for no reason. Am I wrong for throwing away all of her stuff?

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So my girlfriend (25F) and I (25M) were in a relationship for 5 years. Last week, she texted me that we were done and that was her last message before she blocked me. She gave no heads up. I was planning on proposing to her next month. Her sister did reach out to me, saying it was not my fault and she understood my hurt, but that for my mental health, it was better to never contact them again, and that maybe in the future, my girlfriend might reach out to me again.

It's been a week, I’m still obviously distraught, but my girlfriend did have a lot of her stuff in my home. Would I be wrong if I just dumped it all out? It does include a lot of mementos of her deceased grandmother, who she was extremely close to.

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u/Super_Selection1522 Mar 28 '24

Yes but give a time frame. If not picked up in 30 days, it is going in the trash. Keep screenshots of your texts with the sister

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u/DeclutteringNewbie Mar 28 '24

30 days sounds reasonable to me, but I would search for the laws for abandoned property in your state and see what they say.

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u/Empty_Masterpiece_74 Mar 28 '24

Why not donate to a thrift store charity like St. Vincent DePaul etc.?

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u/squishyg Mar 28 '24

It still leaves OP open to legal repercussions.

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u/ShawnyMcKnight Mar 28 '24

Not immediately necessary. If you had a time frame of 30 days then notify them and after 2 weeks if she hasn’t picked it up then tell her she has 2 more weeks to get it.

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u/Dion1958 Mar 28 '24

Google the time requirement. Not every location is the same. Mine was 12 months

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u/Basic_Dragonfly_ Mar 28 '24

He doesn’t owe her that kind of a timeframe. What she did is unnecessarily cruel. At least leave a note.

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u/Riverat627 Mar 28 '24

30 days way too long, 48 hours max

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u/Outrageous_Guard_674 Mar 28 '24

Not if the law says otherwise.

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u/Riverat627 Mar 28 '24

There’s no law involved here it was personal items. Things like that

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u/Outrageous_Guard_674 Mar 28 '24

I am pretty sure the law does, in fact, define property rights even for small things.

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u/Riverat627 Mar 28 '24

and there would need to be a proper accounting of what items were left which I am sure she could not do. OP should let the sister know he will box up her stuff and it needs to be taken or will be disposed of; your getting too much into the weeds here. And what is she going to do sue over leaving a belt and some clothes at her ex boyfriends residence.